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yes, using the adjective instead of the noun is a little bit of an insult to the personhood of the person. Come to think of it, most pejoratives, like the "N' word, are descriptors instead of nouns-- that might be why "POC"/"person of color" (which allows the person to BE a person) is more "politically correct."
Still a bit confused. So, we're talking a general dislike surrounding the use of female/male? Not disapproval for the incorrect use of the adjective in place of the noun? (Since female/male can be used as either adjectives or nouns.)yes, please "woman" and "man," in general. "submissive man" "submissive woman" both describe an aspect of the man or woman. "Male submissive" "female submissive" both describe the submissive, who is understood to be human.
We are talking about disapproval for the incorrect use of the adjective instead of the noun.Sure.
Still a bit confused. So, we're talking a general dislike surrounding the use of female/male? Not disapproval for the incorrect use of the adjective in place of the noun? (Since female/male can be used as either adjectives or nouns.)
Not trying to quibble, just trying to grasp your point. Which is apparently a little too subtle for me!
This, not so much. I get the general obnoxiousness of both women/females being derived from men/males. But why is "women" more politically correct than "females"? Because it focuses on procreation and is less human specific (more clinical)? In that case, its both the male/female term that are alienating? Right???
Can't say either set of words trip any personal triggers for me. But, as a woman/female, I sort of feel I should *get* the issue.
And, again-- because this thread was from someone who hopes to attract *dominant* women-- you would think that he would be glad to learn how not to disrespect any that might be listening.
You know, just in case.
Wow this thread took an interesting turn.
Yes. Stella is super right. Not just right... super right lol
Without getting into gender identity issues.... since it seems some are confused
Woman= female HUMAN
Female= could be anything with female parts
I mean you don't refer to your cat as a woman cat, right?
Calling us "females" is dehumanizing.
And to the OP, all this discussion was intended to HELP you. No need to get your panties in a wad.
Also, I've noticed men referring to women as "females" more and more. Especially here on Lit, Fet, and dating sites. Not completely sure if I'm just noticing it more or it is happening more?
And, again-- because this thread was from someone who hopes to attract *dominant* women-- you would think that he would be glad to learn how not to disrespect any that might be listening.
You know, just in case.
Wow this thread took an interesting turn.
Yes. Stella is super right. Not just right... super right lol
Without getting into gender identity issues.... since it seems some are confused
Woman= female HUMAN
Female= could be anything with female parts
I mean you don't refer to your cat as a woman cat, right?
Calling us "females" is dehumanizing.
And to the OP, all this discussion was intended to HELP you. No need to get your panties in a wad.
Also, I've noticed men referring to women as "females" more and more. Especially here on Lit, Fet, and dating sites. Not completely sure if I'm just noticing it more or it is happening more?
Like Stella says, it's alienating because it reduces/removes the individual's humanity and refers instead to their anatomy. (Which, given the existence of intersex people, is also a bad way to go about things.) It is possible to have female genitals, a typical female hormone profile, female secondary sex characteristics, and not be a woman. (Like myself! I'm married to a heterosexual man, but he understands our relationship to not be hetero because we're not a man/woman couple, even though I still see a OBGYN.)
I'll post some more. Soon. But right now I'm trying to sort out a particular book vendor who shall be nameless... (mainly because I'm so annoyed with them and there aren't enough words with f and b and c and p - etc - to describe them properly) who have just removed THOUSANDS of erotic books, many of them Femdom, from their ebook store.
Susan Strict
If you're talking about Amazon, Jeff Bezos doesn't really give a shit about books.Hmm. Well, have you read any of my stories?
There should be some around here somewhere, I think, although I haven't posted anywhere for a while.
I'll post some more. Soon. But right now I'm trying to sort out a particular book vendor who shall be nameless... (mainly because I'm so annoyed with them and there aren't enough words with f and b and c and p - etc - to describe them properly) who have just removed THOUSANDS of erotic books, many of them Femdom, from their ebook store.
On another topic....
Did you know what you don't have to buy from the Kindle store to read ebooks on a Kindle? Many other retailers offer the facility to get the books onto a Kindle. AND MANY OTHER RETAILERS DON'T GO REMOVING ALL THE BOOKS BECAUSE THEY'RE A LITTLE STEAMY.
Grrrrrr....
Susan Strict
1) Disable autocorrect. 2) If you're using Safari, download Firefox. 3) Right click to get the suggested spelling for the tagged word, and choose "Add to dictionary" from the list.*Autocorrect doesn't seem particularly intersex friendly, either. It keeps changing intersex to interest! Or it may just be that I haven't quite mastered my new Apple laptop.
I never said I wanted to attract dominant women. I simply asked for dominant women to share with me what type of F/m stories (if any) they might enjoy. To the best of my knowledge, not one woman has answered that question. Instead, I've been treated to a condescending and unsolicited lecture about the trivial semantics of gender classification.
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1) Disable autocorrect. 2) If you're using Safari, download Firefox. 3) Right click to get the suggested spelling for the tagged word, and choose "Add to dictionary" from the list.
(Firefox thinks that 'autocorrect' is wrong!)
I know nothing of how the mind of a submissive man works, but I should think that if one were to identify as a submissive man then it would be of interest to him, by definition, to attract at least one dominant woman.
What am I missing here?
I never said I wanted to attract dominant women. I simply asked for dominant women to share with me what type of F/m stories (if any) they might enjoy. To the best of my knowledge, not one woman has answered that question. Instead, I've been treated to a condescending and unsolicited lecture about the trivial semantics of gender classification.
He's not submissive. And nobody tells him what to do.I know nothing of how the mind of a submissive man works, but I should think that if one were to identify as a submissive man then it would be of interest to him, by definition, to attract at least one dominant woman.
What am I missing here?
I know that I don't want to read about women who are cold and in complete control and wear leather corsets, bloody lipstick, and six inch heels. I am happiest when the dominant woman is empathic, inclined to rely on her sub's strength and skills once in a while, and in tune to her own needs as much as her partner's.
He's not submissive. And nobody tells him what to do.
Someone else was, back there in the first posts, though...
So I guess, the mai question is back to; What kind of stories about female domination do women enjoy reading?
I know that I don't want to read about women who are cold and in complete control and wear leather corsets, bloody lipstick, and six inch heels. I am happiest when the dominant woman is empathic, inclined to rely on her sub's strength and skills once in a while, and in tune to her own needs as much as her partner's.
A couple years ago, the author's hangout talked about a missing archetype, which we called "Femme Vitale" meaning a woman who improves her possession's life, instead of ruining it like a femme fatale would.
So there's that. It doesn't mean that she isn't sadistic, even brutal, it's that she does no lasting harm.
probably, but that woman is assigned a worth... Our character, presumably, would assign worth upon her submissive, help them maintain it and grow more valuable.One where she isn't a cardboard cutout, or 'gets bored' and finds a mandom to fix her. She takes an interest in her sub's pleasure, but gets hers, too. She isn't obliged to switch. There's a genuine care and regard between the two partners.
In regards to the 'femme vitale' - could it be missing as an archetype because of the 'woman whose worth is beyond rubies'? That is, it's assumed that the woman works for the betterment of the man?
Wow this thread took an interesting turn.
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