Well I am not certain I qualify but if I had had the choice, I think I would be transgender. Yes I dream a lot of being a natural woman but then I would have missed out on many things and I realy don't want to think I might have married a man who turned out to be happ with t=wham bang thank you mam twice a week and then sat with a beer and bag of chips in front of a sports tv all week end and every night. No thanks. I love doing things to much so I am happy for what I have been but will be happy for what I will be. Look at all the lovely women who have made the journey and see their smile. Look at their eyes and see the joy. That should answer any question. Just their smiles could write a world shattering book if people took the time to understand.
I'm puzzled by your response 4your: you'd either want to be a woman or not. No one wishes to be transgender - you either are trans* or you're not - wishing doesn't come into it
If instead you're wishing to have the physical attributes of a MTF (and that usually means looking gorgeous and having sex everyday without ever shitting the bed) then fair enough. Maybe we need to talk some more - I'd be happy to PM. Plenty of trans girls start out focused purely on the physical and sexual side because, just like the rest of the porn-watching world, you're conditioned into thinking that's all there is. There's far more to it than that, honey, and if you get over the porn hurdle, you'll find Life opens out into something much bigger and more meaningful 
Oh I dunno - I'm sure Mr Couchpotato could have some endearing qualities… nah, maybe not!
From skimming 4YP's previous posts he seems to be a bi sub crossdressing male. I believe he's saying that he would like to be female but if he had been born so then he would have missed out on the experiences he's had to date as a man. If he were to make his wish a reality then he would be, by definition, trans. Of course, he does have that choice, and if he chooses not to transition then that suggests that his desire to be a woman is simply that - a desire but not a deeply held matter of gender identity (though I realize that other factors could be involved here that might inhibit him from transitioning). Having already cluttered dear SG's thread with my own musings on this topic
I believe I understand more or less where he's coming from - perhaps we should have a thread on "Men who wish they were women but aren't trans" Here I believe he's referring to women who have transitioned (though not to become porn actresses), although it took me reading SG and Paradox's responses then rereading his to come to that conclusion.
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Confusion reigns! This is normal
As I mentioned, transitioning does help: its sets you on a path that allows you to live in the correct gender, but that is only part of the solution and I'm sure you realise that there is no trans magic wand that changes your life. Simply declaring your gender is just a first step in a very long, actually life-long, process.
You're kinda pushing me to make assumptions about a type of trans woman I've never met, but I will see if I can find a reference. Maybe you should do some research yourself and publish?!Okay... here's a question I've been wondering about for some time. It's a matter of terminology (and motivation!).
I've read a lot to suggest that many/most/all? of the women in 'shemale' porn films transition largely/primarily? ........ Does anybody have any references to studies on this group - personality characteristics, motivations, etc. - as compared to trans women who do not go into porn?
When I think of the term 'shemale' ...... who don't work in film and 'trans porn actress' would include those who have fully transitioned (their possession of a penis being what identifies their particular niche).
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) but I support their decision. My happiness ( Yes Paradox - I do have moments of it!! ) comes from somewhere other than creating a physique that conforms to some arbitrary sexual standard set by men.
Not on the porn sites, I don't really like the if I may use the word "professional" sites as I do not know if the people on them are real or just doing something for the money. I suspect the latter. No I am talking about the different blogs some women have. I am more accurately referring to a site called "T-central" and yes I have seen one or two posted on here of picture transformations of "not professional " people.I'm puzzled by your response 4your: you'd either want to be a woman or not. No one wishes to be transgender - you either are trans* or you're not - wishing doesn't come into it
Oh I dunno - I'm sure Mr Couchpotato could have some endearing qualities… nah, maybe not!
Forgive my puzzlement again, but in whose eyes are we looking? I've rarely seen anyone on a porn site with happy eyes. In real life I've seen too many tears: I know three trans girls who have tried to take their lives ( x2 pills, x1 hot bath and razor blade )… I see a lot of anger, self-hate, fear and just plain unhappiness. Maybe I'm taking your words too literally?
Being able to transition is better than not, but it ain't no bowl of chocolates. I certainly would have tried more than once to take my own life and who knows, I might have succeeded if I'd had not transitioned - it makes me shudder to think about it. There are days when things do go well, just as they do in anyone's life, when you can forget the hurt and enjoy the moment. Lets stay focused on them, huh?
Hey, 4your - there's no need for apologies, words have the power to be our greatest allies and biggest let downs, and being clear in how we express what is in our hearts is never easy - I should know because I screw up all the time.
Do men think quite differently to women? This is just a muse, prompted from reading, Astonishing Splashes of Colour by Clare Morrall, written in first person, through the eyes of a woman.
I find myself thinking in much the same way as the protagonist, with patterns of thought chasing each other like dead leaves in an autumn wind: seemingly random yet each charged with an emotional potential. I can think in a very focused way: it feels like my masculine side ( yes - I admit that I have that ) but the random emotional thoughts feel more like me. As they race round my head I'm able to pluck individual ideas for closer examination. Does any of this make any sense at all??
Men and women tend to write in quite different ways, just as they act and speak differently so surely our thoughts must be equally different. Before I started Estadriol, those masculine and feminine thought patterns were always in conflict, at war, and I couldn't access my female side - as though a loud, bad-tempered boy were shouting in my head. Perhaps that means I have a better perspective on how the brain behaves, if hormones modify our thoughts?
So I suppose the question is to men: do your fluttering random emotional bomblet-thoughts irritate you as distractions or do you allow them space? The question to women is 'do you know wtf I'm talking about?'
So I suppose the question is to men: do your fluttering random emotional bomblet-thoughts irritate you as distractions or do you allow them space?/QUOTE]
They don't irritate me, but I may not always allow them space at the moment. Sometimes I do, and sometimes I set them aside planning to come back to them later. I usually don't because I forget, but that has more to do with age than being a man. I don't really think I put them in boxes, either.
"My happiness ( Yes Paradox - I do have moments of it!! ) comes from somewhere other than creating a physique that conforms to some arbitrary sexual standard set by men."
I'm glad to hear this. I suspected it, but I was starting to wonder
Also, in re "arbitrary sexual standard set by men" I will toss out the idea that those standards may be driven by women as much as by men, if not more so. Discuss.
You mean the emotional thoughts 4YP? Are you saying you just blurt out things that reveal the side of you you're trying to keep hidden?
I like Grace even more
Is why men are so lovable: ya kinda know what's on the menu before you get to the diner
Meh... I'm not turning this into a feminist v patriarch dust-up
Sorry, but it's gets discussed everywhere, but thanks for spotting my huffy comment
No it is the man things that come out in a burst. Does that make sense? I am not sure I really understand but I have always been much happier with the women, even as a cowboy I was happiest with the "cowgirls". That does not mean I could not ride and herd with the best of them but I have always hated the man competition one up-men-ship. But I think trying to keep that in bottles up until It overflows in stupid ways. In the Army I made sure that in my Platoon there was no putting down of young solders or each other.
Meh... I'm not turning this into a feminist v patriarch dust-up
