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Old 08-12-2018, 05:48 AM   #1
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AA and resisting a drink

Anyone else recovering? What's your best advice for a newbie? Hit my 100th day last week.
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Old 08-12-2018, 07:19 AM   #2
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Congratulations. Outside looking in, I am always impressed by the courage of those on your path.
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Old 08-12-2018, 01:07 PM   #3
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I've been sober since May of last year, can't say it's been easy or fun. Some days are better than others, but I'm having more better days than not, so I suppose that's a good thing. I can only speak to what worked for me. I started going to AA meetings whenever I could, daily, sometimes twice a day, as I just needed the structure. I'm fortunate where I live in a large enough metro area where there are several meetings held at various places. I backed off the daily meetings about six months or so ago, but still attend a couple a week. I know if I stop I'll fuck up and have to start over again. That ain't fucking happening if I can help it.

Good luck on your journey. It sounds like you've made a positive start and are going in the right direction.
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Old 08-12-2018, 01:42 PM   #4
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Not recovering. Not from alcohol addiction anyway. But, it so happens I went through training many blue moons ago to help recovering addicts of various stripes.


So, take it with a grain of salt, but this is what I've typically told people.


1) You have to understand you are not really recovering. You are just a sober alcoholic and one drink away from returning to alcoholic.


2) NO one who isn't also a sober alcoholic is going to really understand. Period. Oh, they'll care. And the particularly astute will get some of it. But, if they haven't walked a mile in your moccasins, they just aren't going to fully grok it. Get to a damn meeting! The people there will understand where no one else can.


3) Watch that you don't just trade one unhealthy addiction for another.


Any road, beyond that you've got what you need. You've got your support through meetings. You've got your twelve steps. Just remember that the bottle is an abusive as hell ex and consider yourself on a restraining order; no closer than 500 feet.


And since I said at the beginning, I'm not a recovering addict, at least not of the alcoholic stripe, I'm gonna wander off and wish you absolutely nothing but the sun out of your eye and the wind at your back for the best of all possible days.
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Old 08-14-2018, 04:01 AM   #5
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I'm impressed with anyone who can give it up, even if its just for a few weeks at a time. I always tell myself that I'm going to go on a month-alcohol-fast, but then I don't. And then I get angry at myself for not losing weight, and not feeling good on some mornings. So good for you for doing it as long as you have. And I have to know -- how's the sex when you're always sober?
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Old 08-16-2018, 03:45 AM   #6
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I've been sober since May of last year, can't say it's been easy or fun. Some days are better than others, but I'm having more better days than not, so I suppose that's a good thing. I can only speak to what worked for me. I started going to AA meetings whenever I could, daily, sometimes twice a day, as I just needed the structure. I'm fortunate where I live in a large enough metro area where there are several meetings held at various places. I backed off the daily meetings about six months or so ago, but still attend a couple a week. I know if I stop I'll fuck up and have to start over again. That ain't fucking happening if I can help it.

Good luck on your journey. It sounds like you've made a positive start and are going in the right direction.
Must agree with what you said about meetings. I did not think I'd enjoy them, but I actually look forward to them on some days.

And thanks to all for sharing your thoughts. It is appreciated!
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Old 08-21-2018, 04:32 AM   #7
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I think it's interesting that you're struggling with cravings for a depressant , and self-identify first and foremost as a consumer of a stimulant.
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Old 08-21-2018, 07:10 AM   #8
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I think it's interesting that you're struggling with cravings for a depressant , and self-identify first and foremost as a consumer of a stimulant.
Unnecessary and selfish post. Why are you trying so hard to get noticed?



CaffeinatedHub45 - I haven’t been in your shoes, but my sister has. It’s a real struggle and from what I understand you have to make the choice every day. Don’t be afraid of asking people for help. My sis waited almost too long before she let me in.
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