KimGordon67
Rampant feminist
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It is a factual thing that does cause behavioral changes, you know?
It is FACT that all teenagers, both men AND women are more unhinged during puberty, and make a lot of dumb things.
No, this is not an excuse. But it's a valid part of cause. And the point was never about hormones or age. Let's replace the teenager with a 30-year-old idiot who thinks he can grab things he should not. The point stands - you CAN NOT lump him in with rapists, or the act with experiencing actual rape for a woman. While this is extremely unpleasant, this is still FAR from being as traumatizing as rape.
Also, while there is no completely symmetrical problem for men, there are other types of abuse that men suffer from women that would be equally unpleasant and traumatizing as molesting. The difference is - we aren't supposed to talk about it. And we normally don't - I only do this in scope of this discussion to bring perspective that your side lacks. I'm not here to complain to you how hard the man's life is made by women. I keep quiet about it exactly because I know that women in general don't have it any better than me.
But because most men are never complaining, you get the impression that only one gender suffers from another, and not vice versa.
Then you come here with claims how tough woman's toll is, and how men can't understand anything. While completely, completely failing to see that intergender abuse is far from one-sided.
Again, due to the difference in gender psychology the problems are not symmetrical. Women suffer more physical abuse, while men much more often fail victim to psychological or cultural. But you are being hypocritical if you say that no bruises means no foul play.
You aren't even thinking about things. You are concentrated on the problems that are close you you, and you turn a complete blind eye on the others. To be clear, I'm not saying that you shouldn't complain or try to change things - but you shouldn't present it by only victimizing one gender while shaming the other.
Your entire line in this argument boils down to women suffering greatly from abuse from men, while men are clearly much better off and have no right to over-dramatize their problems. Let alone compare our made-up issues to woman's.
I do not try and make woman's problems smaller than they are.
What I ask in return is merely the same courtesy from you, women. Instead you have completely derailed this thread and made it about YOU, while mocking and shaming that the OP had an audacity to be concerned about male side in an inter-gender problem.
You don't even want to accept that men have issues and women have faults, because YOU are the only heavily abused gender.
You are completely one-dimensional, Kim.
You this ALL the time - you're constantly telling women there isn't that much of a problem with street harassment or sexual assault or whatever.
When, ever, have I suggested that men don't have issues, or that women are faultless? Really - find ONE post in among the thousands I have here where I've said anything like that. I actually think, for example, that the risk taking behaviour exhibited by young is totally a problem that needs to be addressed ... but that's not what this thread is about. If you want to start a thread about men's issues, go hard. But the increasing requirement that they (a) actually get consent for sex and (b) man up a bit and stop harassing women, especially young women, isn't an 'issue'.
In the last few days, a woman in posted on our local community FB page about how she can't run through our neighbourhood - in broad daylight - without getting harassed by men, and that in some instances the behaviour has been pretty threatening. And underneath that are numerous other women saying the same thing. And before you say anything, no, this isn't peculiar to where we lived. You constantly tell people they live in bad places, or in bubbles of negativity - have you ever considered that maybe you're the one in the bubble, and that when women say that yes, they are regularly harassed on the street, and that it's unpleasant, they're telling the truth?
(Also 'thinking about things' is, quite literally, my job description. So yeah, I do think about things.)