TheMarksman
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Nov 13, 2010
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I suspect the only logical reason for setting the bar so high is to make it impossible to get over - sounds like someone's getting cold feet.
Personally, on a relationship level, I would want to be confident living together was the right progression. End of. Everything starts from there.
Then, you sort out the practicalities. If I was going to expect someone to travel 1200 miles to come and live with me, I would work on the basis of the worst case scenario: I would want to be able to support both of us; our finances that finances would be joint; and anything she brought in would go into the post and a bonus for both of us. If that's not feasible, then a compromise solution can be found.
And I've even put my money where my mouth is.
There is no earthly reason to introduce ultimatums and bank balances or anything else.
Out of curiosity would you be crossing an international border? Would you be entitled to work? If the roles were reversed would he agree to these terms?
M
Personally, on a relationship level, I would want to be confident living together was the right progression. End of. Everything starts from there.
Then, you sort out the practicalities. If I was going to expect someone to travel 1200 miles to come and live with me, I would work on the basis of the worst case scenario: I would want to be able to support both of us; our finances that finances would be joint; and anything she brought in would go into the post and a bonus for both of us. If that's not feasible, then a compromise solution can be found.
And I've even put my money where my mouth is.
There is no earthly reason to introduce ultimatums and bank balances or anything else.
Out of curiosity would you be crossing an international border? Would you be entitled to work? If the roles were reversed would he agree to these terms?
M