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I thought that you all might be more helpful with my questions than anywhere else on the web I could think of.
So I've been with a slightly kinky guy for almost three years now. We're serious, we're planning on moving in together and eventually getting married and having kids. I love sex with him - he's attentive and very good at what he does.
However.
He has a watersports fetish, specifically receiving said "water" and watching girls wet themselves, and also he likes me to wear diapers. Even though it's never really been my kink, I found little pockets of it that I could enjoy - for example, there's something very dominant about controlling your partner's bathrooming, and telling them when and where they can wet, and since I'm a submissive, that worked for me. But we had an incident in January where I was wetting, and he was simultaneously fingering my ass while I was wetting, and I wasn't clear enough with my signals that I wanted him to stop and he ended up going too far because of it. It's caused a huge rift in our relationship - he feels like he assaulted me and, honestly, I feel a little like that too, even though it was primarily my fault for not communicating well enough that I wanted him to stop (though, in my defense, I was rather lusty-headed at the time and the thought "oh, this might not be okay" didn't occur to me until the "not okay" limit had already been reached).
He's gone to therapy about it, and seems to have dealt with it well enough, but he's super hesitant about trying things out again, and I've lost what little interest in it I had. We started, originally, with little baby steps, and I'm willing to go through that process again in order to make him happy and possibly rekindle the interest I had, but he knows that I don't have any great love for his fetish and would be going along with it mostly for his sake, and he feels badly about that. Does anyone else have any advice or been in a similar situation?
So I've been with a slightly kinky guy for almost three years now. We're serious, we're planning on moving in together and eventually getting married and having kids. I love sex with him - he's attentive and very good at what he does.
However.
He has a watersports fetish, specifically receiving said "water" and watching girls wet themselves, and also he likes me to wear diapers. Even though it's never really been my kink, I found little pockets of it that I could enjoy - for example, there's something very dominant about controlling your partner's bathrooming, and telling them when and where they can wet, and since I'm a submissive, that worked for me. But we had an incident in January where I was wetting, and he was simultaneously fingering my ass while I was wetting, and I wasn't clear enough with my signals that I wanted him to stop and he ended up going too far because of it. It's caused a huge rift in our relationship - he feels like he assaulted me and, honestly, I feel a little like that too, even though it was primarily my fault for not communicating well enough that I wanted him to stop (though, in my defense, I was rather lusty-headed at the time and the thought "oh, this might not be okay" didn't occur to me until the "not okay" limit had already been reached).
He's gone to therapy about it, and seems to have dealt with it well enough, but he's super hesitant about trying things out again, and I've lost what little interest in it I had. We started, originally, with little baby steps, and I'm willing to go through that process again in order to make him happy and possibly rekindle the interest I had, but he knows that I don't have any great love for his fetish and would be going along with it mostly for his sake, and he feels badly about that. Does anyone else have any advice or been in a similar situation?