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I actually just submitted my first work, and chose the female perspective for POV character because it just seemed... Right.

Any thoughts would be welcome!
 
Is it pleasurable for a woman to be kissed on her stomach?

Can repeated kisses on a woman's stomach get her sexually aroused?

Another scene I thought of - a man is helping a woman prepare for her exams. Yes, she's a virgin, and a "good girl", so she's not interested in sex despite finding the man attractive, etc. She feels nervous around him because she knows he turns her on and that makes her feel guilty. The guy probably slightly bullies her.

So he's testing her knowledge by asking her various questions on the exam topic(s).

He's sitting in a chair, she's standing next to him. He's sitting down, and she's standing up, so his face is at the level of her stomach, his shoulders and upper arms at the level of her hips. He puts his arms around her hips, she is too scared to object.

He lifts up her shirt.

He asks her the questions. Every time she answers a question correctly, he plants a warm lingering kiss on her stomach. With every kiss, she blushes. Initially she is scared. Repeated kisses make her aroused and wet, to her own great surprise.

Wonder if that's possible, or if it sounds unintentionally comical.




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I lack the proper equipment here to be an expert, but I have dated girls who were quite fond of this, to the point of it being their "thing".

Is it pleasurable for a woman to be kissed on her stomach?

Can repeated kisses on a woman's stomach get her sexually aroused?

Another scene I thought of - a man is helping a woman prepare for her exams. Yes, she's a virgin, and a "good girl", so she's not interested in sex despite finding the man attractive, etc. She feels nervous around him because she knows he turns her on and that makes her feel guilty. The guy probably slightly bullies her.

So he's testing her knowledge by asking her various questions on the exam topic(s).

He's sitting in a chair, she's standing next to him. He's sitting down, and she's standing up, so his face is at the level of her stomach, his shoulders and upper arms at the level of her hips. He puts his arms around her hips, she is too scared to object.

He lifts up her shirt.

He asks her the questions. Every time she answers a question correctly, he plants a warm lingering kiss on her stomach. With every kiss, she blushes. Initially she is scared. Repeated kisses make her aroused and wet, to her own great surprise.

Wonder if that's possible, or if it sounds unintentionally comical.




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Is it pleasurable for a woman to be kissed on her stomach?

Sure, why wouldn't it be?

Can repeated kisses on a woman's stomach get her sexually aroused?

I don't see why it wouldn't be, but it depends on the woman. If you mean could you write such a thing into a story -- sure.

Another scene I thought of - a man is helping a woman prepare for her exams. Yes, she's a virgin, and a "good girl", so she's not interested in sex despite finding the man attractive, etc. She feels nervous around him because she knows he turns her on and that makes her feel guilty. The guy probably slightly bullies her.

Being a virgin or "good girl" doesn't mean a woman is not interested in sex. That said, it's certainly possible for *people* brought up with certain views to feel guilty when sexually aroused, especially perhaps if it's outside of marriage.

In terms of arousal, you lose me when the guy "bullies" her. It's one thing to encourage someone to get past a hangup, or try something new, but when you "bully" them, it's territory that I do not find exciting.

So he's testing her knowledge by asking her various questions on the exam topic(s).

He's sitting in a chair, she's standing next to him. He's sitting down, and she's standing up, so his face is at the level of her stomach, his shoulders and upper arms at the level of her hips. He puts his arms around her hips, she is too scared to object.

He lifts up her shirt.

He asks her the questions. Every time she answers a question correctly, he plants a warm lingering kiss on her stomach. With every kiss, she blushes. Initially she is scared. Repeated kisses make her aroused and wet, to her own great surprise.

Wonder if that's possible, or if it sounds unintentionally comical.

There's nothing wrong with that scene. The only thing that would bother me is the bullying.
 
I actually just submitted my first work, and chose the female perspective for POV character because it just seemed... Right.

Any thoughts would be welcome!

The Good: You had some very funny and on-point observations from Amy's POV. I think you made an excellent choice there. I liked the twist that the hot neighbor was getting down with her hot coworker/boss. Much more potential for interesting things to happen than a random stranger.

The Bad: This was sorely in need of an editor and read more like a good mid-point draft than a final. Using quotation marks for things Amy said aloud and things she only thought was unnecessarily confusing.

You abandoned Amy's POV shortly before she got caught and shifted to basic third person, which pulled a lot of what was working well in the first quarter of your story out of the rest of it. It would have been much stronger over all if you'd stayed consistent.

Relationships seemed to shift sometimes without explanation. At first, Amy hated the idea of Cindy, specifically, being the one over with Drew. Then we find out they're friendly at work. Then it's dropped in that Amy has always found Cindy attractive in a non-platonic way. Trust me, if I had a thing for a coworker and knew she might be over getting ready to bang the neighbor I'd never actually seen before, I'd be a lot more excited about seeing my coworker naked.

I think there's a lot of potential here for you to make a great, sexy piece from Amy's point of view, but to get the full effect, you need to stick with her and tighten up your writing.
 
Why are there so many kinds of women's shoes? Why do some women have so many pairs of shoes? Why do women wear high heels at all? Can women have shoe fetishes? Why do women readers roll their eyes when they read about someone dressed for the office in four-inch heels? Why are jokes about women AND ALL THEY SHOES still a thing?

Even a goddess needs a little more direction to help with an answer.

Don't be coy. You know what I'm talking about.
 
Question: a heavily-built male character needs to disguise himself as female, so he raids a smaller female friend's wardrobe. What sort of clothes would be most likely to fit him?

Follow-up: the clothes are now stretched out of shape and stained with frost giant blood. Where can he get them mended and cleaned before she notices they're gone?
 
Question: a heavily-built male character needs to disguise himself as female, so he raids a smaller female friend's wardrobe. What sort of clothes would be most likely to fit him?

Loose dresses and nightgowns, perhaps pajamas. Maybe sweat pants if he cuts a few things here and there.

Follow-up: the clothes are now stretched out of shape and stained with frost giant blood. Where can he get them mended and cleaned before she notices they're gone?

N/A because if he went after frost giants, he probably froze to death wearing a flimsy nightgown.
 
Question: a heavily-built male character needs to disguise himself as female, so he raids a smaller female friend's wardrobe. What sort of clothes would be most likely to fit him?

Follow-up: the clothes are now stretched out of shape and stained with frost giant blood. Where can he get them mended and cleaned before she notices they're gone?

The Mage's House of Couture?
 
Question: a heavily-built male character needs to disguise himself as female, so he raids a smaller female friend's wardrobe. What sort of clothes would be most likely to fit him?

Follow-up: the clothes are now stretched out of shape and stained with frost giant blood. Where can he get them mended and cleaned before she notices they're gone?

Yes to robes and cloaks, no to fitted armor and girdles. Remember, in a fantasy setting, particularly a Frozen North type, a lot of the external gender indicators come from accessories. He should look for hats, hoods, cloak pins, arm bands.

But ask before he borrows any necklaces.

Club soda gets frost giant blood right out.
 
Don't be coy. You know what I'm talking about.

I'm going to go with "Why do women have so many shoes?" Remember, you asked.

Shoes in the Western world are truly a thing of post-industrial glory. Clothing in general, for most of human history, was incredibly expensive because of the labor intensity of producing and sewing cloth. Most people in the Western world only had two or three sets of clothes at a time until late into the 19th Century. Even more difficult to make and expensive to purchase were shoes, which were made by hand until well into the 20th Century. I have a great tintype of my great-great grandfather on his wedding day. It has a note pasted to the back with his name, the date, and "His mother made his shirt and suit and his father made his boots."

History. What's the point?

Most women in the Western world have only been able to own multiple pairs of shoes very, very recently in the 10,000 years of human civilization, and only for two reasons: modern factory production and disposable income.

Modern production makes shoes cheap to produce, which means there's a much lower loss threshold to making shoes that don't sell which means there's an amazing amount of variety in the marketplace. Shoes! Suddenly (in the long view of history) we can afford to have twenty, thirty times as many as we used to for the same percentage of income.

So why aren't there as many men who have a closet full of shoes as there are women? I have two theories. One, women in the Western world had greater access to disposable income and the ability to spend it on things for themselves on roughly the same timeline as all those cheap, pretty shoes coming into the marketplace. Women buy more shoes because they can. demand for shoes increases production of different kinds of women's shoes. All you have to do to see the variety difference in men's and women's shoes is poke your head into any shoe store.

Theory two, which is complementary to theory one, is that women's clothing generally needs to send a different, broader spectrum of social signals than men's and shoes are an integral part of that. In societies where women have largely had to signal their receptiveness to sexual advances passively, signals are important. There's a reason that the ways flappers did their hair and dressed in the 20s was as scandalous as their drinking and smoking. An example:

It's Friday, business casual dress code day at the office. A woman is wearing a black button-down shirt and jeans.

She's not dressed in biz cas if she's wearing:
tennis shoes
flip-flops
cowboy boots

She is in biz cas if she's wearing:
flats
pumps
non-cowboy boots

If she's getting drinks with a cute co-worker, she wants to wear pumps to show it's a date. Unless that will make her taller than him, so she wears flats. Unless it's cold, so she'll wear boots. If he's tall, she can wear the ones with higher heels. If he's shorter, the ones with short heels, etc., etc.

It's Friday, business casual dress code day at the office. A man is wearing a black button-down shirt and jeans.

He's not dressed in biz cas if he's wearing:
tennis shoes
flip-flops
cowboy boots

He's in biz cas if he's wearing:
virtually any other type of men's shoe

When he goes out for a drink with that cute coworker after, he just wears some goddamn shoes.
 
Are you SURE you're not Sif, great, Norse housewife and domestic goddess?

Sure as shootin'.

I have to deal with all kinds of supernatural bloodstains. Everybody's all "Take me to Valhalla when I die!", "In Valhalla's golden halls...", "The honored dead fight and feast for all time in Valhalla!" Seriously? Valhalla only gets half those dead jerks. Folkvangr gets the other half. I am forever instructing them in how to get their various fluids off my surfaces.
 
Is it pleasurable for a woman to be kissed on her stomach?

Can repeated kisses on a woman's stomach get her sexually aroused?

Another scene I thought of - a man is helping a woman prepare for her exams. Yes, she's a virgin, and a "good girl", so she's not interested in sex despite finding the man attractive, etc. She feels nervous around him because she knows he turns her on and that makes her feel guilty. The guy probably slightly bullies her.

So he's testing her knowledge by asking her various questions on the exam topic(s).

He's sitting in a chair, she's standing next to him. He's sitting down, and she's standing up, so his face is at the level of her stomach, his shoulders and upper arms at the level of her hips. He puts his arms around her hips, she is too scared to object.

He lifts up her shirt.

He asks her the questions. Every time she answers a question correctly, he plants a warm lingering kiss on her stomach. With every kiss, she blushes. Initially she is scared. Repeated kisses make her aroused and wet, to her own great surprise.

Wonder if that's possible, or if it sounds unintentionally comical.

I think there are several questions here and you got good answers from AMB and PL on the mechanics. I think it's fair to assume that it's within the realm of plausibility for you to write any individual female character as becoming aroused by welcome kissing and caressing on any part of her body - shoulders, back, calves, feet, wherever. Since the skin of the stomach is usually covered, it's sensitive and touch there is more intimate than, say, the forearm.

If she's surprised to find she's sexually aroused by someone she's attracted to kissing her intimately, she's not a virgin, she's in a coma.
 
Is it pleasurable for a woman to be kissed on her stomach?

Can repeated kisses on a woman's stomach get her sexually aroused?

Just about anywhere with nerve endings can induce arousal for the right woman at the right time in the right circumstances.

I knew one lady who came from having her ear nibbled, and another who got pretty close from lips at the back of her knee. One lady I knew kept her neck covered most of the time, because she was so sensitive that a stiff breeze could get her very very distracted.

But it varies a lot from one woman to another, and it can even vary for the same woman from one encounter to the next - I think much more so than for men.

Yes to robes and cloaks, no to fitted armor and girdles. Remember, in a fantasy setting, particularly a Frozen North type, a lot of the external gender indicators come from accessories. He should look for hats, hoods, cloak pins, arm bands.

But ask before he borrows any necklaces.

Club soda gets frost giant blood right out.

Thanks! Um, he says not to look in your closet for a few hours.
 
What is it about the Daddy fetish that makes women tick? Does it have anything to do with being an Alpha Male role?
 
If I might poke my head in on that one...

IMO, it's a childhood thing. Father's, as men, set a fantastic (read: unrealistic) standard of strength, an unmatchable image as The Provider, and a shadow as long as time as A Protector. If I spent another hour sitting here, I could probably come up with at least a dozen more archetypes. More importantly, since these images are formed as a child, they do not need to reflect the actual truth. They can be exaggerated to impossible lengths that no man, including the actual Father, could stand up to or fulfill.

Compounding that is the time-tested parenting tradition that Dad (and Mom) are never wrong. They know best. They know everything. They are infallible, superior, and present a united, insurmountable front.

The degree to which a person matures (or outgrows their childhood) is then an inverted indicator of the degree to which their childhood still guides their lives.

Trauma of any type can and will stunt that growth.

Socially, the Oedipal complex is a more widely known condition than the Electra complex, but the rise of pornography, and it's focus on the female form/role/psyche, has given "Daddy issues" a much bigger stage than I think it really deserves.

But what the fuck do I know?
 
What is it about the Daddy fetish that makes women tick? Does it have anything to do with being an Alpha Male role?

Partially yes, in my opinion.. I also think its because daddy is so important in a girls life, he provides for her, protects her, is the male role model in her life, loves her, and should cherish her. What girl wouldn't want that in a man. :devil:
 
I'm going to go with "Why do women have so many shoes?" Remember, you asked.

Shoes in the Western world are truly a thing of post-industrial glory. Clothing in general, for most of human history, was incredibly expensive because of the labor intensity of producing and sewing cloth. Most people in the Western world only had two or three sets of clothes at a time until late into the 19th Century. Even more difficult to make and expensive to purchase were shoes, which were made by hand until well into the 20th Century. I have a great tintype of my great-great grandfather on his wedding day. It has a note pasted to the back with his name, the date, and "His mother made his shirt and suit and his father made his boots."

History. What's the point?

Most women in the Western world have only been able to own multiple pairs of shoes very, very recently in the 10,000 years of human civilization, and only for two reasons: modern factory production and disposable income.

Modern production makes shoes cheap to produce, which means there's a much lower loss threshold to making shoes that don't sell which means there's an amazing amount of variety in the marketplace. Shoes! Suddenly (in the long view of history) we can afford to have twenty, thirty times as many as we used to for the same percentage of income.

So why aren't there as many men who have a closet full of shoes as there are women? I have two theories. One, women in the Western world had greater access to disposable income and the ability to spend it on things for themselves on roughly the same timeline as all those cheap, pretty shoes coming into the marketplace. Women buy more shoes because they can. demand for shoes increases production of different kinds of women's shoes. All you have to do to see the variety difference in men's and women's shoes is poke your head into any shoe store.

Theory two, which is complementary to theory one, is that women's clothing generally needs to send a different, broader spectrum of social signals than men's and shoes are an integral part of that. In societies where women have largely had to signal their receptiveness to sexual advances passively, signals are important. There's a reason that the ways flappers did their hair and dressed in the 20s was as scandalous as their drinking and smoking. An example:

It's Friday, business casual dress code day at the office. A woman is wearing a black button-down shirt and jeans.

She's not dressed in biz cas if she's wearing:
tennis shoes
flip-flops
cowboy boots

She is in biz cas if she's wearing:
flats
pumps
non-cowboy boots

If she's getting drinks with a cute co-worker, she wants to wear pumps to show it's a date. Unless that will make her taller than him, so she wears flats. Unless it's cold, so she'll wear boots. If he's tall, she can wear the ones with higher heels. If he's shorter, the ones with short heels, etc., etc.

It's Friday, business casual dress code day at the office. A man is wearing a black button-down shirt and jeans.

He's not dressed in biz cas if he's wearing:
tennis shoes
flip-flops
cowboy boots

He's in biz cas if he's wearing:
virtually any other type of men's shoe

When he goes out for a drink with that cute coworker after, he just wears some goddamn shoes.

Thank you. I'm not sure if that is the answer, but it is an answer. Now, when my wife and her lady friends discuss footwear, I can intelligently participate.
 
The Good: You had some very funny and on-point observations from Amy's POV. I think you made an excellent choice there. I liked the twist that the hot neighbor was getting down with her hot coworker/boss. Much more potential for interesting things to happen than a random stranger.

The Bad: This was sorely in need of an editor and read more like a good mid-point draft than a final. Using quotation marks for things Amy said aloud and things she only thought was unnecessarily confusing.

You abandoned Amy's POV shortly before she got caught and shifted to basic third person, which pulled a lot of what was working well in the first quarter of your story out of the rest of it. It would have been much stronger over all if you'd stayed consistent.

Relationships seemed to shift sometimes without explanation. At first, Amy hated the idea of Cindy, specifically, being the one over with Drew. Then we find out they're friendly at work. Then it's dropped in that Amy has always found Cindy attractive in a non-platonic way. Trust me, if I had a thing for a coworker and knew she might be over getting ready to bang the neighbor I'd never actually seen before, I'd be a lot more excited about seeing my coworker naked.

I think there's a lot of potential here for you to make a great, sexy piece from Amy's point of view, but to get the full effect, you need to stick with her and tighten up your writing.

Excellent, thank you for your thoughts! :)

It isn't often that I ask for an opinion and end up agreeing with said opinion so much, but I think you are right.

Cheers! :)
 
Sexually. It is a broad open ended you can answer as you like, but this is also an erotica website. So more specifically: why would a woman "do it" with her father?

Ah, see, that's two different questions, but I think the answers are linked.

Why would a woman choose to have sex with her father in reality?

Doesn't happen often. Not because women don't have sexual contact with their fathers and step-fathers but because, overwhelmingly, they don't choose it and they're not women when it happens. 44% of sexual assault survivors are under 18 and more than a third of sexual assaults against people under 18 are perpetrated by a family member. There are definitely some outliers of fathers and daughters who only began sexual contact after the daughter was mature (see Mackenzie Phillips) and there's a whole phenomenon of people who were adopted very young being sexually attracted to a birth parent when they meet them later.

Why would a woman find a fantasy of sex between a father and daughter erotic?

So, if so many women actually experience non- consensual sexual contact with a father or father figure or know someone who has, why the hell would any women find that fantasy erotic?

I have two theories. First, as with any taboo sex, the idea that a sexual attraction or urge could be so consuming that it completely overcomes the strongest barriers someone has is always pretty hot. In a world where it's common to see other people having sex, there are no voyeurs or exhibitionists, right?

I also think one of the reasons its a persistent fantasy, even for women who have survived incest or know someone who has is the same reason a horror movie is fun and exciting: it's just a story, it's not happening to you, but you can watch safely for a while and get the adrenaline rush of fear. I think a lot of that is at the heart of Daddy-Daughter. It's not so much that Daddy's the ideal male, it's that his attraction overcomes the one rule he has to live by after his daughter is born: don't fuck this one.
 
Thank you. I'm not sure if that is the answer, but it is an answer. Now, when my wife and her lady friends discuss footwear, I can intelligently participate.

If I had the answer about women's shoes, I would be so rich.

If you bust out that explanation on your wife, I think you're morally obligated to post here about her reaction. :)
 
Just a brief comment so I don't turn this into a discussion thread. :)


Thank you stlgoddessfreya, AwkwardMD & fun_Kim. It is a complex topic with many answers and you each provided another insight.

Before I asked I already had a brief look at why people would. To put it as simply as possible - I think it is a mix of seeking an ideal partner (father is nurturing, protective, & understanding) and just simply wanting sex (limited availability for unknown reason - which is directed at the father ).

Then you have all the pseudo-babble theories like the penis-envy theory or other neo-freudian rubbish. Yeah I got sidetracked looking at that stuff, and I promptly forgot it. Sorry for that commentary, but I can't take anything without scientific rigor seriously.


Carry on stlgoddessfreya, the people need you.
 
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