Touch_72
Incorrigible Flirt
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Openly bi, maybe, but what I'm saying is there are guys who are "straight" who would anyway, especially with a woman involved and egging it on. Not all guys, mind you, but more than you think.
And this (from pcarp) is key...
So look around and use those feminine ways...and you may get what you want
The reason I say that is key is this: a lot of "straight" guys who have a curious side to them or who would as part of just rolling with MMF play also have an uncertainty or conflict in them about it. If they've thought about it, they keep those thoughts locked away in secret, either for fear of being labeled "bi" in a society where that can be stigma or because a part of them is hesitant to take that step because it still clashes with their own views on guys being with guys.
So, in those cases, it takes a comfort zone and/or some ideal situation where they feel okay about opening up and admitting and acting on any of those quiet curiosities. Until that point, it's a "dirty little secret" kept hidden. The problem is, how do you tell the difference between the guy who's straight and adamantly not into the thought of trying anything with another guy and the guy who seems equally as straight and uninterested, but has that nagging curiosity of what it'd be like to suck another guy's dick or be sucked off by a guy? Short answer... you really can't tell in some cases. It becomes up to them to let you in on it if that thought is there somewhere.
My advice would be... find a guy as a partner (for sex as a FB/FWB or dating) and be open about your own turn-on / fantasy about it... not in a way that pushes it or seems to expect anything of him. Don't overdo it, just lay it out there and make it clear it'd be extremely hot to you. Your openness to explore it and the fact it'd turn you on might open things up.
I'll tell you a story about a married couple. They'd been married for... I'm going to guess maybe close to 20 years. He was very bi-curious, but kept it from her, thinking it would repulse her. The two would swing on occasion and were otherwise pretty open with their sex lives, but his curiosity was kept secret for fear of her reaction.
Somehow, during a threesome, things happened between him and the guy. I don't remember whether he said he'd just gotten bold and tested the waters by trying something or if something else sparked it. But, what he found was that it turned her on insanely - she LOVED seeing it! It was a huge relief to him because he'd had that secret longing to explore it conflicting with his fear of how his wife would react. It opened up new doors in their sex life as swingers.
If he had known her feelings on it earlier and realized how much it'd turn her on, he would've gladly explored with another guy with her there. It pays to be open about your fantasies... and coupling that openness with "those feminine ways" pcarp mentions may go a long way with opening it up with a guy who's secretly willing.
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