Wife needs a Dom

My wife and I are both subs. She has bdsm fantasizes with a dom of course. I would love to find her a dom that will fullfil her fantasies as long as I could watch. I havent talked with her about this, but I know her fantasies. Do you think this would be a good idea?

This is not something that you should even consider doing without talking to her first. It is a decision that the two of you would need to make together and discuss all possible occurrences and outcomes. Until then, keep this one in fantasyland.

Ashleigh_XOXO said:

If she needs a Dom, she needs to find him. This type of a relationship requires trust, commitment, and a connection. No matter how well you know her or her kinks, this needs to be 100% her decision with her future Dom. I'd be pissed if someone tried to do it for me.

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I dont beleive that she would on her own, since were married. I need a way to push her and open up sexually. I know bdsm is her fantasies, and I am a bedroom sub myself, and think the best option would be to find a dom, or a dominate couple. I just dont know how to get to that stage.

Stag of Oberon said:

Seperately; wife swapping is a common fetish, As is dominant's sharing submissives. What you described almost sounds like it could fit that... sortof?

Just thought I'd throw that in to expand your radar a bit, as it were.

Again, make sure she's into it first and foremost, and check prospective play partners out a bit before throwing your marriage at their mercy.

Lit's BDSM personals section might be a good place to check out, after a conversation with your wife. Or together, perhaps.

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Couple swapping with a dominate couple would be an ideal situation. When she gets really turned on she will acknowledge these convos, but after words she says sh could never do it. She thinks I would be jealous, even though I know I would not and reassure her of it. There maybe more issues she doesnt tell me I guess im not real sure.
If this ever did happen I would have to interview and get to know someone before I let them be her dom that is forsure, because in the end I want this for her pleasure, but not sacrifice our marriage.

guns44 said:

When she gets really turned on she will acknowledge these convos, but after words she says sh could never do it. She thinks I would be jealous, even though I know I would not and reassure her of it.

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Yes, humans are totally capable of controlling whether they feel envy, love or disdain. As far as I can tell, your wife seems to be the smart one in your relationship, so you should listen to her.

because in the end I want this for her pleasure

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Liar.

guns44 said:

I need a way to push her and open up sexually.

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No, you need to respect that she's said, "no" for the time being. She's a major party to this decision and if you can't take her words for what they are, then off the bat you have communication issues. No one should be pushed into a bdsm relationship, or any sexual relationship, it will just build resentment.

guns44 said:

My wife and I are both subs. She has bdsm fantasizes with a dom of course. I would love to find her a dom that will fullfil her fantasies as long as I could watch. I havent talked with her about this, but I know her fantasies. Do you think this would be a good idea?

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No. It would not be a good idea.