I realized very early on that she does not want to take responsibility in life.She wants you to own her so she can own you and your time.
She wants me to "own" her so that I "own" all of her responsibilities and problems. So that I have to pay for her. So that I have to pick her clothes out. So that I have to fight her battles. So that I have to fix her car. So that I have to plan her travel. So that etc etc etc