Better Male Orgasm?

I'll start off by saying I'm a (male) virgin, and I don't have a girlfriend. So I've never had an orgasm during sex, nor do I have an opportunity to.

I do, however, masturbate frequently (*gasp*) and I'm just...unimpressed by my orgasms. They come easily enough and I'm even able to have multiple orgasms if I try hard enough. They're just kind of boring. Maybe it's because after masturbating for 6 or so years, they're just getting old, I don't know.

I've got a lot of female friends who tell me how great their orgasms are, and I'm so jealous (especially when reading Mr.G's Technique for female orgasms ). Granted, I know plenty of women have problems orgasming, and I know men who have a great time masturbating. But still, very envious of the female orgasm.

Any advice on how to make masturbating more fun for me? I'll try anything.

Have you tried toys? There are fake pussies (even some you make yourself), silicone sleeves, cock rings, vibes, and of course tons of anal and prostate stimulators.

Have you played with sensation? Warm, cold, a little pain, different materials (like some guys enjoy masturbating with something silky)...

Also, this site has lots of ideas for male masturbation, so you might want to check it out.

Learning to be aware of and enjoy the entire arousal process has worked well for me. Let your awareness permeate your entire body, not just your penis. You will experience incredible sensations.

No amount of masturbation will prepare you for the amazing orgasm you will have with a woman. They are truly magnificent beings in how good it feels to be with them in a sexual way. Nothing compares.

Ok, here's what you do. You don't. You refrain from orgasm.
One way is to play and stroke as much as you like but don't allow yourself to go over the edge. During this time fantasize, invent different scenarios in your head that excite you. Do that for a week or so, perhaps two weeks even. Then take some time with yourself, don't be in a hurry, start stroking, stopping, stroking stopping, changing hands, playing with your nipples, stroking your body with your other hand ect, and think of your favorite fantasy, and add to that... whatever turns you on..get your body and your mind extremely worked up. Hold back for as long as you can, then let yourself go into a mind blowing orgasm.

Another way is to not touch yourself for a long time...weeks even, hold yourself back. Just don't masturbate at all. Then do the slow thing.

Also,
whatever you do now change it, do it in different settings, maybe even do it in a few risky places.

Fantasizing different things in your head, invent stories involving you and whoever else you would like, or you alone, doing different things in all kinds of different places. Watching others do things to themselves...fantasies are only limited by your imagination.
Fantasizing can make a huge difference in the strength and power of your orgasms.

Adakgirl said:

Another way is to not touch yourself for a long time...weeks even, hold yourself back. Just don't masturbate at all. Then do the slow thing.

Also,
whatever you do now change it, do it in different settings, maybe even do it in a few risky places.

Fantasizing different things in your head, invent stories involving you and whoever else you would like, or you alone, doing different things in all kinds of different places. Watching others do things to themselves...fantasies are only limited by your imagination.
Fantasizing can make a huge difference in the strength and power of your orgasms.

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Pretty much what I was going to say. Let things build up for a bit and give yourself a break...It kind of resets things and when you do finally cum it will feel so amazing especially if you get yourself really worked up for one or two days before hand.

Honestly, I find solo orgasms to be ....well, "good" (is there such thing as a "bad" orgasm?), but more of a physical release than a partnered one. I used to think I knew my own body and what I liked......until I had someone who wanted to explore it himself. My boyfriend has actually taught me some things about how to get myself off.

Rather than "going for the prize", explore your body with your hands while thinking sexy thoughts.

I'm free next Friday?

Reba67 said:

Honestly, I find solo orgasms to be ....well, "good" (is there such thing as a "bad" orgasm?), but more of a physical release than a partnered one. I used to think I knew my own body and what I liked......until I had someone who wanted to explore it himself. My boyfriend has actually taught me some things about how to get myself off.

Rather than "going for the prize", explore your body with your hands while thinking sexy thoughts.

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This is spot on imo.

If you can mentally change your mind from "im whackin it" to something more sensual and exciting you'll reap the rewards at the finish line.

Firebrain said:

I'm free next Friday?

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Your Country or mine?

To answer the OP - try hat has been suggested - work your way right to the brink - then stop - then back to the brink - rinse repeat - eventually the pressure is just insane

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I can't speak for men, but any orgasm you have with a partner is ten times better than one you have alone, no matter how much you do. You say you read the Mr. G. thread, right? Well, I have a toy that I can do that to myself with, but, even so there is no comparison to when my husband uses his fingers or thumb on me.

So, short of find yourself a girlfriend (yeah, yeah, I know...) the only thing I would say is maybe try teasing yourself a little more. I think guys call it edging. I don't really call it anything other than teasing, myself. Get close, read some porn, look at some GIFs that turn you on, fantasize...but don't come. Keep doing that until you think your fit to burst, and then go for it. See if that helps enhance things.

It's what I would do, but again, not a guy so hard to compare the sensations without the same plumbing downstairs.

awired50 said:

Try prostate play. It is a whole different type of orgasm. Read our blog.

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He might have fixed his problem in the last 4 years.

Good grief! Ok, so let's just hope he got laid between then and now then!

Maybe you haven't put your mind to work. I would think that just masturbating would get kind of boring, especially if done a lot. I conjur up some pretty wild fantasies that in my mind are fairly realistic which helps my orgasms to be quite pleasurable, even after decades of practice.

I was 22-years-old when this thread was created. Damn, I'm getting old fast. :/

Aphroditiac said:

I can't speak for men, but any orgasm you have with a partner is ten times better than one you have alone, no matter how much you do. You say you read the Mr. G. thread, right? Well, I have a toy that I can do that to myself with, but, even so there is no comparison to when my husband uses his fingers or thumb on me.

So, short of find yourself a girlfriend (yeah, yeah, I know...) the only thing I would say is maybe try teasing yourself a little more. I think guys call it edging. I don't really call it anything other than teasing, myself. Get close, read some porn, look at some GIFs that turn you on, fantasize...but don't come. Keep doing that until you think your fit to burst, and then go for it. See if that helps enhance things.

It's what I would do, but again, not a guy so hard to compare the sensations without the same plumbing downstairs.

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Wait.

We are supposed to have plumbing??

I mean I vaguely remember all manner of odd piping in women from health class diagrams, but all I've got is basically the one pipe and some dangly bits hanging aground incongruously below.

Borimir said:

Granted, I know plenty of women have problems orgasming, and I know men who have a great time masturbating. But still, very envious of the female orgasm.

Any advice on how to make masturbating more fun for me? I'll try anything.

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You're actually asking two different questions, one, making masturbation more fulfilling, and two, how to make your orgasms more fulfilling.

On masturbation, basically, it is an means to an end, a physical release, which is helpful, but without a partner to share it with, generally unsatisfying. Are there ways to spice it up for yourself, sure, however, only you know what kinds of things turn you on. Experiment with different porn, different techniques, different toys, etc., I'm sure you'll find something that works for you, if nothing else, something that breaks the monotony.

On making your orgasms more fulfilling, when you understand where an orgasm originates, and you pay attention to the physical sensations, you can focus on these areas and increase your pleasure, with or without a partner. Understand that an orgasm is 95% between your ears, and only 5% physical manipulation of your naughty parts. With this understanding, you can will yourself to longer, deeper, more satisfying orgasms, simply by allowing the orgasm, then will the sensations to continue beyond the initial convulsions, post ejaculation. Emulate the convulsions, breathing, body shivers, immediately post orgasm. You will find that within a short amount of time, you won't be "faking" the post orgasm sensations, they will naturally occur, thus, increasing the pleasure.

Additionally, taking the time to explore your sexuality on your own, will allow you to share more of yourself with your partner when you have one. This goes for both men and women.

Good luck, and report back with your progress.

I seem to post this a lot but don't forget the frenulum! The frenulum and the ridged band are worth exploring. They're bit of a slow build but once you get into it...

Google the Canadian foreskin awareness project for more info.


I think your situation sounds like a good example of the misconception of the male orgasm. There's this idea that guys find it easy to cum, which is on the whole true. But, whereas a woman may fail to climax, a guy is more likely to just have a rubbish orgasm. Quality needs a bit of time and effort - don't be deceived!

The OP has not been around for 4 years..... He entered a monastery with no internet, and is happy there (and regularly abused by the abbot).

I meant it, ummm, metaphorically.

awired50 said:

Try prostate play. It is a whole different type of orgasm. Read our blog.

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What is wrong with you?

Garnate said:

What is wrong with you?

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"They" are just looking to drive some traffic to their blargh.

Just go there and buy a prostate toy already. You'll understand why they are digging up oldy mouldy threads, and you'll have an excellent stocking stuffer.

By "stocking", I mean some dude's bum, of course.