Spanking

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Years ago before we got married we lived together. One night we were 69ing me on top. She use to fuck me with a big dildo one night she playfully slapped my ass cheek. I moaned yes yes do it again. I slide down tit fucked her as she fucked me and spanked my ass. I blew my load all over her tits. After that it became part of our love making. She found out how submissive I could be to her needs.

A nice parting gift...

From my Mistress this morning

No shame for me, just the pleasure. Both in giving and receiving. Don't think I could ever spank somebody, who is ashamed of it. Just not my thing.

I love it. My play partner Dom says spanking is never a punishment; it's for good girls, because we like it. He punishes in ways that I actually would not like. (Haven't experienced that yet, thankfully. I'm a good girl.)

Not only is the spanking hot, the bruises and pain later are too. I love looking at them in the mirror and also knowing that no one around me knows that my ass looks like a war zone.

inside_out said:

Not only is the spanking hot, the bruises and pain later are too. I love looking at them in the mirror and also knowing that no one around me knows that my ass looks like a war zone.

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This is one of the often-overlooked aspects to spanking that I love the most. Whether it's marks on your butt, or your marks under their jeans, it's a delicious secret that draws both together in the knowing.

HotXBuns said:

This is one of the often-overlooked aspects to spanking that I love the most. Whether it's marks on your butt, or your marks under their jeans, it's a delicious secret that draws both together in the knowing.

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I don't know the exact words or how to put it, but I am sure someone will come up with a great way to sum it all up, if not already done on some other site or thread.

There is something about the submission role. Submitting to a partner who takes you and spanks you. Part of the process is pain, part of it is being marked, and then enduring it all for your partner and yourself. It is like some kind of mental/physical cocktail that is put together at the proper strength and duration blowing you away into ecstasy.

ES

There are times my wife will actually ask to be spanked or will quietly lay our flogger on the bed at some point during the day to signal that's what she's craving. I find that the best bare ass spankings include alternating smacks to bare buttocks with hand slipping to wet pussy, spreading pussy wetness to buttocks and more smacks. The flogger we have not only allows taking the leather straps to her upturned ass but inserting the handle into her wet pussy.

I love being spanked so much.

Being spanked, over a lap, a desk, a bed...that's what I want

I think I first realized it was something I wanted when I started watching porn. I would look for daddy/daughter, or teacher/student videos and so many of them happened to include spankings and it just clicked for me.

Then I actually tried it with my Daddy Dom and omg I loved it.

I think its partly about the pain (throbbing, the sting) but its also about the submission of it, being over his lap, and I love seeing the redness as a mark of my submission

I’ve been told by many that I have a nice ass, so of course that leads to spanking talk. A man I was with playfully spanked me in passing one day and I REALLY enjoyed it. That eventually led to him putting me over his knee and he gave me a proper spanking. I haven’t been put over anyone’s knee since but I still very much enjoy spankings

inside_out said:

I love it. My play partner Dom says spanking is never a punishment; it's for good girls, because we like it. He punishes in ways that I actually would not like. (Haven't experienced that yet, thankfully. I'm a good girl.)

Not only is the spanking hot, the bruises and pain later are too. I love looking at them in the mirror and also knowing that no one around me knows that my ass looks like a war zone.

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I completely agree! There are many things I love about spankings:

1. Feeling helpless and overpowered (but obviously having a safe word).
2. The humiliation of being punished like a child, especially if it's over the knees (yes, please!).
3. Teetering on the edge of using the safe word and then pushing through because I love it and I know the person giving the spanking does too. There's that point, for me, when my ass is screaming in pain and I feel like I can't take anymore, but then PYL switches to a slighter slap, or rubs my cheeks softly for a moment, and I find that I'm so grateful I didn't stop things because I know I can push through and enjoy more.
4. Like Inside out and HotXBuns have said, the marks after are incredibly arousing for many reasons. I'll add a few thoughts I have about why that is, for me personally.
a. "Look at how strong/powerful this person is that they were able to cause this kind of damage."
b. "Look at how strong I am for being able to handle it...I'm such a good girl."
c. "I love that this person and I now share this secret." Ex. sitting down at a restaurant and feeling his eyes on me as my ass touches the chair, then noticing that he's raising his eyebrows as if to say, 'fucked you up pretty good last night, didn't I? I'm loving your failed attempt at hiding the pain on your face right now for the waiter's sake. It's amusing.'
5. The occasional exhibition aspect of a spanking. I've been spanked in front of a small crowd at BDSM clubs and parties and I thoroughly enjoyed the combination of: enduring it for the sake of the viewers, being publicly reminded of my role as a sub, and feeling the envious eyes of other PYLs on myself and the PYL delivering the spanking. Personally, I also think it's hilarious that our roommates upstairs may have some inkling of what's happening when I'm getting a spanking from my husband.

One of my favorite spanking experiences was completely non-sexual. A woman approached me at a club and said I had the most spankable ass she'd ever seen, and she simply had to spank me, if I'd allow it. Of course I obliged, and happily lay down on a table in front of the group I'd been chatting with. She was much more brutal than I'd expected, especially since I wasn't being punished for anything, but I loved how much she was into it. The woman wasn't my type at all, she was a beautiful Domme and I find myself attracted to Dominant men and demure, submissive women. My point being, I didn't have to be sexually attracted to her to find the situation and the spanking incredibly arousing.

Who doesn’t love a good spanking. The older I get the more I like things I used to hate, like spankings and naps lol. Don’t go to hard and be sure to rub it afterward to sooth the pain. I riding crop is a lotttt of fun too!

Properly done

Elements that make spanking enjoyable:
Pain causes the body to release endorphins that result in a natural high. Light pain causes the body to begin releasing endorphins and as the endorphin level increases, the pain threshold goes up. A properly administered spanking beginning with light blows and increasing in intensity to quite severe can leave a natural high that will last for hours.
There is also an element of dominance and submission associated with giving and receiving a spanking. That can be a strong turn-on as well.
The fact that the normal roles between partners can be reversed for a time is a consideration as well.

I guess I "found out" the first time I asked and someone actually did it right. I always figured I'd be into it, but for whatever reason none of my partners wanted to do it the way I wanted. People think I'm so fragile and I have no idea why.

I just knew I liked pain so like... the dots weren't super hard to connect there. But a lot of the stuff you actually get for S&M is more about the noise and, I guess, theatrics? Than the actual painplay. Which is... disappointing but understandable. People don't want you to actually get hurt and that's kinda sweet, but I didn't come here to fuck around, I came here to- wait, no I guess I did actually come here to fuck around.

Mei5ter said:

Needn’t cause feelings of humiliation, surely?

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It needn't cause humiliation, however, for me its do much hotter if it does. Id love to chat to a disciplinarian about these things

I enjoy it because I'm very much in my own head. A little pain helps me focus on them and moving towards my own orgasm.

Wow!

shewantsmore said:

My first time when it was happening at first like others it was both a shock and a surprise,it wasn't planned,we were having an argument and one thing led to another and he pulled me over his knee and started to spank me,don't know if it was mixture of pain,humiliation but the heat and warmth spread through me and we ended up having the best sex in ages,spanking became a regular part of our life

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You should write a book. I'm sure all of us would like to hear more about this!

Spanking versus smacking

I don't know how better to phrase it, but spanking seems somehow formal to me.

There are a lot of social norms around spanking such as an older authority figure / younger student / youth. Spanking is usually a consecutive string of blows in a mostly uninterrupted sequence. Spanking usually has the connotation of a correction.

At least, that's how I think of it.

A smack on the other hand could be almost anything, from a friendly 'hey baby' smack as you walk behind her in the kitchen, to an encouraging 'get into doggie now' smack, to a hard 'I own you!' smack when you're both about to cum.

For me at least, the less formal smack holds more appeal. It lets me assert my dominance without introducing the 'you've been a bad girl' theme. I realize most of you probably favor the 'you've been bad' theme, but I'm not super in to it.

Am I the only one who makes this distinction?

AllenWoody said:

I don't know how better to phrase it, but spanking seems somehow formal to me.

There are a lot of social norms around spanking such as an older authority figure / younger student / youth. Spanking is usually a consecutive string of blows in a mostly uninterrupted sequence. Spanking usually has the connotation of a correction.

At least, that's how I think of it.

A smack on the other hand could be almost anything, from a friendly 'hey baby' smack as you walk behind her in the kitchen, to an encouraging 'get into doggie now' smack, to a hard 'I own you!' smack when you're both about to cum.

For me at least, the less formal smack holds more appeal. It lets me assert my dominance without introducing the 'you've been a bad girl' theme. I realize most of you probably favor the 'you've been bad' theme, but I'm not super in to it.

Am I the only one who makes this distinction?

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I can see that, but then for me it being formal kind of makes it more appealing, which is down to personal preference really. I just like the idea of something supposedly non-sexual and "formal" like a punishment for bad behaviour, being made pervy and sexual. Like for me the spanking scenario is most enticing when it is framed in a non-sexual way, like even role-played as an authority figure "disciplining" a youth as you say, but have the dom/domme lick the implement or pleasure themselves while administering the "punishment" to highlight the sexual undertones.

Sexual side of it

I am not sure why but spanking has an erotic side to me. I find it hard to imagine spanking without sex. I am sure there are some scenes where it could be just discipline spanking and no sex. But in my mind there seems to be a struggle between the spanker and spankee. It is almost like a woman trying not to orgasm. She at first just sits there not thinking she will react to your actions. As you continue to work on her she begins to move trying not to show the pleasure she is feeling. Finally it gets to the point that she is right on edge, very close to orgasm and can't control her body. Once you take her over the edge, and she has an orgasm, she becomes docile, and subservient. She is willing to do whatever you want.

Spanking seems to have a similar journey for the person being spanked. It could be a man or a woman, I just described it possibly for a woman above. When you are spanked, you get to a certain point where you go over the edge and become docile and subservient. You feel the sting on your ass, the endorphins flowing through your body, and you want to do anything the spanker asks of you. In my mind it is usually something sexual. I imagine myself kneeling and giving the woman who just gave me a spanking oral sex. Maybe as a thank you, I am not sure why, but I have this feeling of I will do whatever you want. When I am the Dom, I can see that feeling in my sub and I want her to give me a BJ or I take her on the bed like a hungry bull.

It is like there is a threshold, once a person passes that point they move into "sub" space and it is a VERY erotic thing. At least in my mind it is.


ES

eroticspank said:

I am not sure why but spanking has an erotic side to me. I find it hard to imagine spanking without sex. I am sure there are some scenes where it could be just discipline spanking and no sex. But in my mind there seems to be a struggle between the spanker and spankee. It is almost like a woman trying not to orgasm. She at first just sits there not thinking she will react to your actions. As you continue to work on her she begins to move trying not to show the pleasure she is feeling. Finally it gets to the point that she is right on edge, very close to orgasm and can't control her body. Once you take her over the edge, and she has an orgasm, she becomes docile, and subservient. She is willing to do whatever you want.

Spanking seems to have a similar journey for the person being spanked. It could be a man or a woman, I just described it possibly for a woman above. When you are spanked, you get to a certain point where you go over the edge and become docile and subservient. You feel the sting on your ass, the endorphins flowing through your body, and you want to do anything the spanker asks of you. In my mind it is usually something sexual. I imagine myself kneeling and giving the woman who just gave me a spanking oral sex. Maybe as a thank you, I am not sure why, but I have this feeling of I will do whatever you want. When I am the Dom, I can see that feeling in my sub and I want her to give me a BJ or I take her on the bed like a hungry bull.

It is like there is a threshold, once a person passes that point they move into "sub" space and it is a VERY erotic thing. At least in my mind it is.


ES

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Same here. Of course, different strokes for different folks, as they say. But I only know spanking as a form of foreplay.

I went to a dominatrix. She spanked me until I was begging for her to stop. I swore I would never go back. A week later I was over her knees again.

I love 2 b spanked! Never been bent over a knee. Just while being taken from behind. Mmmmm, just the thought. I might never b a good girl again.

Caligirl90 said:

I love 2 b spanked! Never been bent over a knee. Just while being taken from behind. Mmmmm, just the thought. I might never b a good girl again.

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Lol. Like you said, just the thought.