How to convince wife for intercourse

Hi all, I am new to this forum.
I am married since 2 and half years. I am the one who took her virginity. Since beginning I had to persuade and literally beg her to allow me to do intercourse. She has good libido but she comes by rubbing herself naked against my naked body and while making out she loves getting her boobs squeezed, pinched, sucked, bitten,etc, but she doesn't maintain that kinda wilderness when I am inside her. She would just allow me to enter her and wait for me to cum as I move and after I cum she would cum in her own traditional way by rubbibg herself against me, but no intercourse. What can I do in this case? Any video or any guide will be extremely helpful. Thanks in advance.

crunchbulkhead said:

Hi all, I am new to this forum.
I am married since 2 and half years. I am the one who took her virginity. Since beginning I had to persuade and literally beg her to allow me to do intercourse. She has good libido but she comes by rubbing herself naked against my naked body and while making out she loves getting her boobs squeezed, pinched, sucked, bitten,etc, but she doesn't maintain that kinda wilderness when I am inside her. She would just allow me to enter her and wait for me to cum as I move and after I cum she would cum in her own traditional way by rubbibg herself against me, but no intercourse. What can I do in this case? Any video or any guide will be extremely helpful. Thanks in advance.

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Welcome to Literotica

I am unsure what you mean by 'intercourse' - the definition is penis-in-vagina (or ass, but let's go with the more conservative one). By your own admission, "she allows you to enter her". I am, based on what you have written, going to go on a limb and say that you place your penis in her vagina, and then you come in her. Based on the generally accepted definition, you just had intercourse, i.e. you put your penis in her vagina.

Now, if you are asking about your wife cumming during intercourse, many women can't orgasm through intercourse alone. Many need some other stimulation, such as masturbation or oral or toys or grinding on a swiffer stick. Them are the facts.

That said, you should sit down and talk with you wife in a respectful, non-judgemental way and discuss this with her. Maybe she needs more to get off. Maybe she cannot get off without any clitoral stimulation (something that is incredibly common). Maybe she likes what she does. Maybe she is not a huge fan of actual penis in vagina (and no, it doesn't mean she's putting out. It just means she's not a huge fan). Talk, listen and then experiment together - and don't pressure her into having an orgasm (if that's what you mean) whilst you are in her because that's a sure way of her not getting to the big finish.

Sex is not just what you do in bed, it is also about communication, talking openly, honestly and acceptingly in a respectful environment. You absolutely should have these conversations with your wife, as she is the only one who can truly answer.

And my general philosophy is (and one that quite a number of How-Toers echo): if you can't talk about sex with the person you want to have sex with (or your medical doctor), you shouldn't be having it.

Good luck

crunchbulkhead said:

Hi all, I am new to this forum.
I am married since 2 and half years. I am the one who took her virginity. Since beginning I had to persuade and literally beg her to allow me to do intercourse. She has good libido but she comes by rubbing herself naked against my naked body and while making out she loves getting her boobs squeezed, pinched, sucked, bitten,etc, but she doesn't maintain that kinda wilderness when I am inside her. She would just allow me to enter her and wait for me to cum as I move and after I cum she would cum in her own traditional way by rubbibg herself against me, but no intercourse. What can I do in this case? Any video or any guide will be extremely helpful. Thanks in advance.

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As firebreeze says, communication is the key.

But, yes, some women are threatened by intercourse; it's quite a scary thing when you think about it....a (usually) bigger guy on top of you....

You could try talking to her, reassuring her when you're inside her. That would be nice.

Another suggestion might be to enter her from behind when she is lying face down on the bed. That way she doesn't have to worry about you on top of her, your weight etc. and just focus on her own pleasure.

Of course, it will be tricky making these suggestions to her....!

I would suggest that you spend a lot of time in foreplay (e.g. rubbing, fingering, licking her clit, maybe a small vibrator/dildo, etc.). As has been said, many women need more stimulation that penetration alone. Spend enough time bringing her to the edge of orgasm several times...when she can stand no more, mount her and hopefully she can orgasm with you inside her. ( As a side note; You didn't say how long you can continue with the intercourse before you ejaculate/cum...it may be you're just not lasting long enough.)

Further, since she likes physical stimulation of her clit, it seems that she would be more in control of that of she were on top...you will also be able to stimulate her nipples in this position. And as others have already said, lot's of love, open conversation, maybe some shared fantasies...anything that brings you both closer emotionally...then experiment with various things until you find a perfect match for you both. Best wishes to you both !

I think you need to do a bit of reading about the female orgasm. Others have offered some extremely useful thoughts, but I suspect you need some information about basic mechanics first. For most of us, orgasm is best and more reliably achieved by clitoral stimulation, and it sounds like that's what your wife is seeking ... I'm going to hazard a guess here and say you really should BOTH google 'clitoris' just so you've got a very clear idea of where that is, and so that you know that it's NOT where you're putting your penis during intercourse. For some women, orgasm can also be achieved through vaginal stimulation, but for a lot of women who cum through 'traditional' intercourse, it's because their clitoris is being stimulated somehow too.
Once you've got the fundamental mechanics sorted out, think how to best operationalise that knowledge for the benefit of all. As one suggestion, armed with your new expertise on the location of the clitoris, stimulate that yourself during intercourse. I can cum through vaginal stimulation alone, but if someone throws in some clitoral stimulation as well, results tend to be pretty favourable.

Also, do NOT watch porn to learn about this stuff. That way lies madness.

There is some good advise here.

Use it.

Also read the Blank Manuals on the main page here on the "How to" Board.

Really sorry for the late response and thank you all for all the tips and suggestions

Sorry but I had been real busy in life. Please accept my apologies for responding late and thank you all.

How to last longer enough

yukonnights said:

...when she can stand no more, mount her and hopefully she can orgasm with you inside her. ( As a side note; You didn't say how long you can continue with the intercourse before you ejaculate/cum...it may be you're just not lasting long enough.)

I have to agree that when I was inside her I won't last more than 5 minutes and may be less than 2 minutes when I am over her and she keeps pushing herself up wanting more. Is there a problem in me or is it normal for a guy to ejaculate early inside her when he is being rubbed real hard. Is there any way I can increase my duration while inside her even if she gets real wild?

Any help from anybody in this forum will be highly appreciated.

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Help her get off a couple of times before you even think about intercourse.

Get a magic wand or a toy that she likes, lots of forplay so she is totally primed, when you do get to intercourse, try different positions that work best for the two of you and away you go.

My wife doesn't cum often from vaginal intercourse, but after a couple of orgasms she does, it's more of a continuation. IN our case, the fact that forplay has gone on for quite a while seems to make me last longer too.

It's not usually helpful to get to worried about what's 'normal' or not, and rather focus on what's working or not working for the two of you. You can, however, extend the length of time - a boyfriend of mine some year ago did. Google 'premature ejaculation'. (He got a book from the library, but it was pre-internet.) You will need her on board for this though, if it's the same process my then-BF followed, as it involved a lengthy process of stimulating but stopping just before he came. Sometimes the stimulation was him masturbating (without me around), but sometimes it involved me. However, there was also lots of stuff that was great for me and not particularly stimulating for him, so I was still having fun. It did work, but it took a bit of commitment, as it's not a quick process.

crunchbulkhead said:

yukonnights said:

...when she can stand no more, mount her and hopefully she can orgasm with you inside her. ( As a side note; You didn't say how long you can continue with the intercourse before you ejaculate/cum...it may be you're just not lasting long enough.)

I have to agree that when I was inside her I won't last more than 5 minutes and may be less than 2 minutes when I am over her and she keeps pushing herself up wanting more. Is there a problem in me or is it normal for a guy to ejaculate early inside her when he is being rubbed real hard. Is there any way I can increase my duration while inside her even if she gets real wild?

Any help from anybody in this forum will be highly appreciated.

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This helped my partner

Try looking up this site http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-eat-girl-out-tips-ex-porn-star

There is a lot of information on various different topics for teasing a woman how to get her to orgasm with foreplay and intercourse.

As a woman I can verify it worked for me and my partner.

I hope this helps.

Man that's tough stuff, does it hurt her physically?

thank you so much, this is very informative and damn useful

thank you so much, this is very informative and damn useful

SubTulip said:

Try looking up this site http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-eat-girl-out-tips-ex-porn-star

There is a lot of information on various different topics for teasing a woman how to get her to orgasm with foreplay and intercourse.

As a woman I can verify it worked for me and my partner.

I hope this helps.

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Further journey

So, now we do not have problem in intercourse. It hurts her initially for few seconds and then is like wild cat, banging herself against me, asking for more and more and and moaning and also screeming (which I had to stop as next room my parents sleep, she doesn't mind me stopping, she is in fact asking for more, to pinch her boobs but slowly and sensually) When I fuck her persuaded by her most demanding voice to rip her apart, I am in cloud9.

Due to busy schedule we still manage to fuck at least thrie a week now. And when we fuck, its like a war has ranged, a war to please each other more. Ohhhh god...... the way she looked at me before taking my erect dick in her mouth, tempted me to cum there and there. So I took my dick outta her hand, trying to pass the wave.

Thanks to all again, for your kind suggestions and wishes.

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When she bangs against me and I get so excited that I come within 3 minutes time. How bad I wish I could bang her hotter, in another pose. After I cum, my dick is still erect, so I can actually keep banging her. I badly wish to keep banging her without cumming and cum only after she has cum. I wish I could hold on more. My sexologist said, when inside her, if I cum within 3 minutes, then that's considered normal.

But I just wanted to check that is there any natural and safe way to increase the durability? Something like Kegel's excercise, or any physical excercise or food, something that won't have any side effects.

Got to know, needs practice. thanks for sharing this.

However, there was also lots of stuff that was great for me and not particularly stimulating for him, so I was still having fun. It did work, but it took a bit of commitment, as it's not a quick process.

Got to know, needs practice. thanks for sharing this.

KimGordon67 said:

However, there was also lots of stuff that was great for me and not particularly stimulating for him, so I was still having fun. It did work, but it took a bit of commitment, as it's not a quick process.

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Great to hear of your successes, sometimes we need to be the ones to learn instead of expecting our partners to. I think that's what you did. That's what we need to do when something isn't working, we need to try and fix it, not wait for our partners.

Happy Humping (sorry) couldn't help it

One very simple method of increasing the length of time you have between going in to your woman and ejaculating: Be very very slow at the beginning: go in gently, and then when you are right in, both of you try and give some attention to other parts of your bodies together, lots of kissing while staying still inside her, sucking her breasts, her caressing your back - anything which takes the attention away from the extreme pleasure for you being inside her love honey. And then, gradually build the amount of energy you put into fucking her, and her grinding on you. That might result in you having longer at it before you cum.

Another thing you could try is coming out of her altogether before your build to cumming becomes unstoppable, and while out of her, continue stimulating her with your fingers or your mouth. Then, when you have calmed from the sense of 'nearly cumming', enter her again - but gently first, so that you don't shoot during that first thrust back inside her!

suckonsimon said:

One very simple method of increasing the length of time you have between going in to your woman and ejaculating: Be very very slow at the beginning: go in gently, and then when you are right in, both of you try and give some attention to other parts of your bodies together, lots of kissing while staying still inside her, sucking her breasts, her caressing your back - anything which takes the attention away from the extreme pleasure for you being inside her love honey. And then, gradually build the amount of energy you put into fucking her, and her grinding on you. That might result in you having longer at it before you cum.

Another thing you could try is coming out of her altogether before your build to cumming becomes unstoppable, and while out of her, continue stimulating her with your fingers or your mouth. Then, when you have calmed from the sense of 'nearly cumming', enter her again - but gently first, so that you don't shoot during that first thrust back inside her!

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Wow that's awesome advice!