Recently I had to come out about my BDSM side to my roommate. It wasn't organic or planned, more of a side effect of mixing my kinky friends and my vanilla ones. He took it fairly well and while he doesn't discriminate against me, he also doesn't want it around him. Which is very fair. I've also opened up to a female friend of mine and she told me about her submissive fantasies. My question for the forum is what have you found is the best way for you to "come out" about your kinky side? Has coming out ever brought about new dynamics to a relationship? For instance I opened up to a girl I've known for years and it completely scared her away. Dynamic changed to zero.