cynical_bitch
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Hello!
I've been having an issue recently and I feel like this is the only place that I could get good advice from about this sort of thing at the moment.
So, my partner and I have been together for 3 years and usually reside in California. We live together, have a pretty good sex life, and although I have some qualms I would say we have a healthy relationship that I would like to continue.
I am currently on the other side of the country for work and will be for the next 6 months or so. I talk to my partner every night and we share sexy pictures, which is great, but I am desperate for physical affection. I can't take time off of my job to see him and he can only visit me once next month. So after he is gone, that still leaves me masturbating for another 5 months all by myself.
I've managed to make some friends while I am here with the people that I work with, one of whom is a guy a little older than me who I find attractive (no clue why, but I do). Not in the "I-have-romantic-feelings-for-him" way, but in the "He'd-probably-be-pretty-fun-in-bed". He's expressed interest in a physical relationship with me, and made sure that I knew that it would be on my terms and that if I didn't want one or wanted to stop for any reason, that would be fine and we could go back to just being close friends.
I would love to start something purely physical with this guy, but when I have mentioned open relationships in the past, my partner got fairly upset. I believe this is mostly because he imagines me leaving him for another guy, which I wouldn't do anyway. I would have no intentions of ever leaving him to be with this guy, and my partner is more important.
So the question I guess is how do I approach the topic of me having a purely physical fuck buddy while I am out here without making him feel threatened? I don't want to hurt him or make him worry about our relationship - I just have a very active libido and think it would be nice to exercise it with one person who I have "permission" to do things with.
Sorry it's long...thanks for reading!
I've been having an issue recently and I feel like this is the only place that I could get good advice from about this sort of thing at the moment.
So, my partner and I have been together for 3 years and usually reside in California. We live together, have a pretty good sex life, and although I have some qualms I would say we have a healthy relationship that I would like to continue.
I am currently on the other side of the country for work and will be for the next 6 months or so. I talk to my partner every night and we share sexy pictures, which is great, but I am desperate for physical affection. I can't take time off of my job to see him and he can only visit me once next month. So after he is gone, that still leaves me masturbating for another 5 months all by myself.
I've managed to make some friends while I am here with the people that I work with, one of whom is a guy a little older than me who I find attractive (no clue why, but I do). Not in the "I-have-romantic-feelings-for-him" way, but in the "He'd-probably-be-pretty-fun-in-bed". He's expressed interest in a physical relationship with me, and made sure that I knew that it would be on my terms and that if I didn't want one or wanted to stop for any reason, that would be fine and we could go back to just being close friends.
I would love to start something purely physical with this guy, but when I have mentioned open relationships in the past, my partner got fairly upset. I believe this is mostly because he imagines me leaving him for another guy, which I wouldn't do anyway. I would have no intentions of ever leaving him to be with this guy, and my partner is more important.
So the question I guess is how do I approach the topic of me having a purely physical fuck buddy while I am out here without making him feel threatened? I don't want to hurt him or make him worry about our relationship - I just have a very active libido and think it would be nice to exercise it with one person who I have "permission" to do things with.
Sorry it's long...thanks for reading!