How to delay orgasm?

electricblue66 said:

To the extent it's a problem...

Read up on Tantra breath and muscle control techniques - more applicable to a man seeking intense arousal and multiple orgasms, building up higher and higher; but the same principles might apply for a woman.

Google Margot Anand, and go from there.

I see a Tantra masseuse every few months, whenever I need a real re-charge, and have certainly learned how to control my own arousal much better. I'm getting too old to have the recovery I had as a twenty year old, but having a full rigid erection for a couple of hours without chemical assistance is pretty pleasurable for sure.

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Jada59 said:

My ex and I used to have Tantric sex. I can do it. I just can't seem to have self control when I am by myself. But I will look it up.

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electricblue66 said:

Teach yourself the periodic table, and when the orgasm is imminent, recite the trans-uranics. That'll slow you down .

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bone251 said:

Seems like that would be fun!
How does too many sound?

Get someone to edge you. It is very difficult to stop by yourself. Having someone else stop you does work better. After a long tease make them cum before you do so you can enjoy the horny while they cum.

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Jada59 said:

I seem to have this problem, which isn't actually so much of a problem, but...

I cum easily. Very easily. I don't even need stimulation to cum. A certain look from a certain person, hearing that same person's voice, hearing certain words being said to me, even seeing certain pics or vids. Instant orgasm or orgasms. I am also multi orgasmic.

Now, if I am with a partner, he can control my orgasms to an extent. I love being teased and I love orgasm denial. And often, this will work, especially if am tied down or he is doing little things here and there, such as in a public place where we can't get away with doing much. I was tortured in such a manner once for many hours. By the time we went to bed, I was all over him like an animal.

But by myself? Fail. Most of the time, I will start cumming quickly and I won't be able to stop stimulating and cumming. Example. Was sexting with someone earlier. He knows how easily I cum. He told me not to. The mere fact that he told me not to, put me right over the edge.

So... What can I do to delay the orgasm when I want to? Or when he wants me to?

Thanks!

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HBergeron said:

I only know the psycho-physiology of the female orgasm from the outside looking in, but if there are any true correlations with male sexuality, it would probably be along the lines of knowing your body, which I'm sure you do, but in a clinical, almost dispassionate way. Men have lots of stop-gaps for clamping down on an impending orgasm, you just need to find the female version of those techniques.

Is there a limit to the number you can have before you're 'all cummed out?' I get that in sub/dom play, it can be an inconvenience to 'not do what you're told'.

If you were a man, I'd tell you to marry my ex-wife - she'll delay it for years...

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formertroll said:

check out milovana webteases sometime for some inspiration and/or the cock hero videos on youtube if you're bi. there's women's versions too...the competitive aspect might help.

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Jada59 said:

Not bi. But I will look. Thanks![/QUOTE

either one should still work, just have to advanced filter differently on milovana or be sure you're finding male-centric videos lol

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formertroll said:

Jada59 said:

Not bi. But I will look. Thanks![/QUOTE

either one should still work, just have to advanced filter differently on milovana or be sure you're finding male-centric videos lol

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I shall try. I'm not good with stuff like that.

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Jada59 said:

formertroll said:

I shall try. I'm not good with stuff like that.

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i'll PM you a few options, perhaps you'll enjoy one enough to tell me about it lol

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Jada59 said:

i'll PM you a few options, perhaps you'll enjoy one enough to tell me about it lol

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Thanks!

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Jada59 said:

Hehehe. I don't want your ex and you don't want mine!

I guess I just need to work on stopping myself.

ETA: I can usually keep cumming for hours on end. Maybe a little break here and there to use the bathroom or get a drink of water.

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HBergeron said:

Then Go With It, Girl! (my humble advice). Maybe what you should do, if you play sub/dom, is to hide it if you're not allowed to cum yet - act like something hurts - it looks the same sometimes...

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twister947 said:

Magic pussy! What fun!

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Coracle24 said:

Maybe as your edging just back off a little more each time like you may only get 10 seconds the first time but slowly increase that time. you know your going to have an orgasm its not running away. just try to hold yourself in the moments of pleasure and don't concentrate so much the end result. be at peace that this feels really good i want to feel the pleasure and your in control to let go or stay in the moment.

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Cumference said:

Have you considered a light self bondage?

(Or a topical anaesthetic cream... )

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Josie_03 said:

Hi,

I'm also a multi-orgasmer...have you tried breathing techniques?

I'm been having a lot of core orgasms so I understand not being able to control it. But hey, if you can have multiples and keep going, why deny yourself?

I agree with what was said. Get some one to edge you. You'll have SO much fun

Josie

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