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Old 01-09-2017, 11:45 AM   #1
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I just need a little advice. I have never done a video of myself for a man but my partner is truly special. Ironically, however, he is very sexually inexperienced though he is 25 years my senior. I mean extremely limited in experience. As a matter of fact, he's seeking therapy now because sex is our biggest issue. It's going on a year together and we still haven't made proper love. The odd part? He brings down all of my sexual inhibitions and I am hoping to get him to that point too. I've been more than patient.
So, back to the topic at hand. His birthday is this week and I wanted to make an erotic masturbation video for him. The question is, how would it be the most erotic? Totally nude with closeups or in lingere with my hand just in my panties and dirty, loving talk? Is it better to go full out dirty girl for him or leave something to the imagination? Like I said, just a hand in panties or totally spread wide?
Also, should I send it to him via email as a surprise or share it with him when I see him in person? I'm quite enthusiastic about making it but I want it to be right.
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Old 01-09-2017, 11:55 AM   #2
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I just need a little advice. I have never done a video of myself for a man but my partner is truly special. Ironically, however, he is very sexually inexperienced though he is 25 years my senior. I mean extremely limited in experience. As a matter of fact, he's seeking therapy now because sex is our biggest issue. It's going on a year together and we still haven't made proper love. The odd part? He brings down all of my sexual inhibitions and I am hoping to get him to that point too. I've been more than patient.
So, back to the topic at hand. His birthday is this week and I wanted to make an erotic masturbation video for him. The question is, how would it be the most erotic? Totally nude with closeups or in lingere with my hand just in my panties and dirty, loving talk? Is it better to go full out dirty girl for him or leave something to the imagination? Like I said, just a hand in panties or totally spread wide?
Also, should I send it to him via email as a surprise or share it with him when I see him in person? I'm quite enthusiastic about making it but I want it to be right.
Thanks for Reading.
What I find extremely sexy is a view of a very private moment, undressing slowly, exploring at the same time, finally naked. Low light. Not so sexy is the high heels only, spread eagled on a bed with a close up and brigh lights. I like the women and setup as done on the Itouchmyself site.
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Old 01-09-2017, 12:11 PM   #3
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I'll have to check that out. Thanks. I guess the big thing is I want to address him as I do it. Make it strictly about him.
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Old 01-09-2017, 12:13 PM   #4
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Lingerie is always the best way to go. The allure of what's hidden is always greater than full nakedness. It also helps to accent the best parts of your body.

One thing you want to make sure is that lighting is good. Shoot a few test shots just to see how the picture is turning out. Get yourself a neon/diode white lamp or do it with daylight near the window - those lights are best and help to make the colors right.
Also if you use the lamp you may want to go for indirect lighting. Like shine it at the wall or something big and white, so that you are illuminated by the reflected light. Because if you point a lamp at yourself there will be really odd shadows behind you.

Make sure your room is very clean behind you with as little detail as possible.

Now for what you should do. I think it depends on the length that you are aiming at, but I would say the best thind would be to sit in a chair (or on your bed with pillows behind you) with your legs spread. If you go the chair route make sure it's stable and you can use other chairs to place your legs upon.
THis is the easiest position that lets you both face the camera and demonstrate all your goods.

make sure your camera is above you and looking slightly down on you. This way psychologically you look more submissive, less threatening, and overall impression of the video will be nicer. That is, if he's not into femdom - in that case do reverse.

Smile, but naturally. Look directly into the camera at least occasionally.

If you can, then do sexy undressing/striptease. If you can't make it work - don't bother. =) Better skip it than produce an awkward video.

Act natural. Don't go the dirty talk route if you don't feel like it. For me, personally, the ideal thing would be a few worda at the beginning of the video, where you say "Happy birthday" and explain your idea, maybe throw in a few phrases that you feel like saying like "I feel so horny doing this..."
Then as you get deeper into the action I suggest you stay silent and just make sexy sounds. Again, men are different, but I personally find it distracting when women talk too much. But the most important part - stay yourself. Don't force it. If you feel like talking - talk, if you don't - just let your breathing talk for you.

As for if you should expose pussy or not - for me ideal would be starting the video with it hidden but taking it out later, towards the end or as you start to seriously masturbate.

As for the "script" of your video I'd go for this:
0) dress in lingerie
1) You are sitting in your seat, lingerie on, panties on.
2) You talk about this being his birthday present and how you think of him a lot and so on. I suggest you practice it a bit so it sounds natural. If your breasts are not exposed - take them out at this point (if your lingerie allows it, if not - no problem Leave them hidden and play with your pussy while it's still hidden by your panties.
- this part shouldn't be too long, 20-30 seconds will do
3) You finish your speech with "Happy birthday, enjoy your treat" and at this point either shift your panties to the side or take them off. Or, if you chose so, just leave them on and masturbate like that.

Alternative script - more naked.
0) you start with your T-shirt on and some mini-skirt. Ideally - thigh-high stockings too.
1) You talk your speech completely casually. You explain that this video is a present for him.
2) As you finish your speech and say "Happy Birthday" - you roll your T-shirt up to expose your naked breasts, you spread your legs and pull your mini-skirt up, and then do your thing.

And I do think that you should watch it together, preferrably when you have time alone. This way:
A) you make sure he watches it
B) it's more intimate
C) There's a chance he gets to make love to you after watching it after all.
One advice: don't look at him while he watches. Be at his side and look on the screen even if he looks at you. If you look at him this may stress him out because you obviously expect reaction and at this point he may be not sure which he should give.

Be happy!
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Old 01-11-2017, 12:30 PM   #5
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Well, I made my 5 minute video and am fairly pleased for a first timer with less than stellar means. I was very enthusiastic to make it and plan to surprise him tonight with the results. Oddly enough, I'm suddenly feeling very shy about it. I felt very confident doing it but now....*L* It isn't the finished product itself that bothers me but showing him. How odd...
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Old 01-11-2017, 02:35 PM   #6
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That's natural. But get your wits together! I'm sure the result will be good. Tell us how it went afterwards.
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Old 01-11-2017, 10:18 PM   #7
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Well, he certainly didnít expect it and enjoyed it. I showed it to him just before he went home out of the blue in his truck...I like the idea that he now has to dream about it...
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Old 01-11-2017, 11:03 PM   #8
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I've come to this late, but there was already lots of great advice here.

I wonder if you are able to tell us what you did in the end. I don't need intimate details, but some general information would be great, and also help anyone digging this thread up later.

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Old 01-11-2017, 11:21 PM   #9
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Well, he certainly didnít expect it and enjoyed it. I showed it to him just before he went home out of the blue in his truck...I like the idea that he now has to dream about it...
It sounds like a winner! He's hard driving home!
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Old 01-11-2017, 11:54 PM   #10
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Unfortunately, I shot it on a phone camera (will invest in an actual video camera if I make him more) but it didn't come out too bad. I chose to wear some black lingere and stockings with black sheer panties. I began by wishing him a happy birthday, sat back in a chair and diddled in the panties first before taking them off. From a distance, I played in the chair and then moved closeup to the camera. I even fingered my bottom up close briefly. Throughout the video, I made sure I did some dirty talk about my desire for him.
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Old 01-12-2017, 01:05 AM   #11
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Great job!

By the way, about your problem. Have you tried just going for it? Leaning in for a long kiss and put your hand down his panst while he's distracted? Take the initiative?

Just make sure you have a condom at hand.
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