Curious Newbie

Farawyn said:

There are a few threads here and the cafe, by Dommes and/or switches. You should check them out.
I'm not a Domme, but some of my friends here identify as switches, and they will be happy to talk to you if you poke into those threads.

There is also this.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=266656

Good luck and welcome to Lit.

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John Blackhawk said:

well the thing to do in your case would be engaging in some sexual roleplaying with a willing partner. That's just my point of view.

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Lascivity said:

Definitely, definitely have a look around Fetlife if you haven't already. It's the go-to place for kink-related stuff. You don't need to be active on there in order to join groups, lurk, learn and discover new stuff. Even if you end up just having a shadow profile, I highly recommend it - plus it'll help you find out about events in your area.

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seethelightattheend said:

True... I did mention that I'm a virgin, but the first step is getting sexual active. I feel ready to explore the way I feel, but I'm not sure if I'm ready to rush headfirst into sex. Plus, I'm not too confident in my abilities. I'd definitely like to research more first.

Besides, how am I supposed to find a willing partner? I feel like it requires a lot of trust and confidence to ask your partner "Can we do some 'controlling' roleplay?", unless your relationship is based on such exploration, in which case I feel too inexperienced to take charge.

Also, what are some logical steps (of increasing intensity) I can follow to introduce myself into the BDSM world?

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John Blackhawk said:

I meant online sexual roleplaying sorry Online sexual roleplay partners are quite easy to find just put an ad in the bdsm personals forum (its under the regular personals forum on here) and among the first logical steps i took was watching porn vid clips and read stories.

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seethelightattheend said:

Hi. I'm a curious, virgin newbie.
Often times, I don't know how to feel, but I'm getting better and more accepting. I think I am a "Domme", just based on the personality traits and "fantasy scenarios" I'm attracted to. However, I'm honestly not sure how to explore these feelings.

So far this is what I think I have determined:
- I am attracted to submissive males and females
- I am more open to female Dommes (Whether I identify myself as the Domme in the situation or am okay with light bondage is anyone's guess)
- I enjoy control, but am a bit nervous about how far I'm allowed to go

Are there any specific sites I should check out? Stuff that can... help me explore and ease me into discovering/realizing my interests? I don't think I want to get thrown into the deep end and, as a Domme, there's definitely a lot more responsibility on my shoulders.
I was reading another post where someone suggested the female sub read literature written by other female subs. Is there any equivalent like that for female Dommes?

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Farawyn said:

Just don't post your locale or your age unless you wanna get slammed by PMs.
I have an inactive account there. I'm 95 and from Antarctica according to my profile.

Oh. And don't post your tits either, if you want to take it slow.
I shouldn't have done that, either.

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