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Yes? No? Howso?
Discuss.
I would call it an "ideal" for us, but something I've been disappointingly unsuccessful in achieving. I will say that Sir has never outright insisted on total financial submission, and has often been clear about what it "my" money. But, as a married couple and with my two kids to raise, it's been complicated. It's probably THE biggest source of contention between us. I'm not deliberately resistant, but I have years of financial independence to counter what he wishes from me. It's incredibly frustrating for both of us.
You're right, I am.
Ok so for the record: I mean financial donimation as either the "pay me tribute" variety or the "may I have a little more allowance this week, sir/ma'am?" variety.
I can relate to the bolded part very much.The funny thing about this aspect of our overall dynamic is that it's probably the most obvious to my vanilla friends and the thing that makes them bounce off walls the most. I swear most of them are less likely to blink if I tell them that I love to be tied up and caned until I cry than when I tell them I need to check in if I'm considering making a purchase that wasn't previously discussed.
I can see how this can be hot but it has never worked that way for me for some reason. Not from any side of it.Financial Domination as in money-is-a-taboo-fucking-hot-toy. And gift-giving has a strong protocol of kindness that it's amazingly out there to shatter. And it's superrb if you like humiliation in some forms.
Pets don't usually buy their own toys, but sometimes sexually rejected hump faces buy toys for Mistress to use on pretty ladies not on their repulsive selves. (And they love this.)
For me, it's an extension of power and humiliation. It goes best with a heaping helping of brutal humiliation. And it's tingly-making all kinds of WRONG inversion of what's supposed to happen when a totally nice man gives you something expensive and thoughtful. The nice man also loves this inversion.
The funny thing about this aspect of our overall dynamic is that it's probably the most obvious to my vanilla friends and the thing that makes them bounce off walls the most. I swear most of them are less likely to blink if I tell them that I love to be tied up and caned until I cry than when I tell them I need to check in if I'm considering making a purchase that wasn't previously discussed.
My young daughter (about 5 at the time) asked me "why can't you decide, Mom?" when she wanted to buy some candy at the store and I stood there hesitating, saying "I'll have to ask Dad." He was at work and wouldn't be home for hours.
In that moment, I didn't think I was giving her a good role model - I wanted her to feel that she could always make decisions about her own life - so that night, I asked him for more freedom when I was alone with the children.
It led to a lot of conflict over the money I was spending.
In our household, it is always easier if I have permission. And avoid surprises.
I work with women who are financially dependent on their husbands, who never even touch money and must ask for everything that they need. Though many of my co-workers can't imagine living that way, I think it would alleviate a certain kind of stress - create others, perhaps, depending on the generosity and character of your husband - but I certainly can imagine living that way.
What's also interesting to me is that many of these marriages are arranged. Is decision-making a learned behavior? And by extension, free will?
NoRead this thread like 3 times now. Just can't wrap my brain around the idea. Does that make me a bad sub?
Not weirdHow frickin weird that I can trust him with my body but not my money?
All of the above/none of the aboveIs that normal or sensible or stupid?
Like everything else, it dependsI mean, what if you split up?