tiny_tits journal and random thoughts

Each relationship, whether it lasts one night or a life time, is different. We each have different wants, needs and desires. My suggestion figure out what turns you on, first alone. When I was in college, I met a few too women that claimed that did not pleasure themselves, its important that you do that. Figuring out what gets your engine going will help you guide him.

Sex isn't easy, its fun, but not always like it looks in pornos or stories. We all have bad days, a muscle is tight, stress at work or home. Take time relax and explore each others bodies, don't just jump into vaginal or oral play, slowly work your way around each other's bodies and work up to the fun. Unless you are a wedding and only have time for a quickie outside, then just get into for the thrill...:D
 
What's helped me...

I have to echo communication it doesnt have to be crazy
And let him know you are thinking of him in naughty ways when he isn't around. That drives my husband wild.

I started with quite tame things - texts like - all slippery, and soapy in the shower and missing him sort of things. Don't feel you have to go the whole hog straight away.

Don't forget to tell him, oh I love it when you do that or very appropriate noises. That's way he takes your cue as well.

Simple things like a secret hot look that only he sees and putting your hand in his pocket looking for change etc.
 
Consider

What turns me on, and my goals, is being hot and desirable. Not being passive and uninspiring.

Please articulate what you consider as uninspiring and what you believe would be more passionate

You're getting a lot of good information from fire_breeze. Perhaps you should consider asking her if she'd mentor you?
 
Thanks, all.

You really helped me understand that it's not my 'tiny tits' that inhibited my social life, but more self esteem.

I am working on that, and have now had five dates with the guy I met at the wedding- things are going pretty well.

Since this is more of a pic thread, I am now addressing another issue I have, over here.

I'm guessing this dude is the focus of your attention currently.
How are things going with him?
 
Hey, Tiny_Tits, the mere fact of your quest on this thread, alongside your avatar, is such a turn on! If you were my bad girl, this is what I would want from you:

Surprise me sometimes by coming to me naked, or bottom-half naked; like, it's not yet bed time and I'm watching TV and you snuggle up to me without a stitch on, claw at my chest and twine a leg around mine and we take it from there.

I'd like you sometimes to say, 'no, let me undress you' and have me stand quite still in the bedroom as you strip me real slow and deliberate, feeling, kissing and biting every part of me as it gets exposed.

When we're both naked and standing, get on the floor and get into some serious cock worship, taking care to be gazing up at me adoring as well as admiring every inch of my junk. Slide around and clutch and kiss at my thighs and butt too, and then come between my legs from the back to suck at my balls.

When we're fucking be proactive; I mean, talk to me about what it's like for you, what I'm like in you. Tell me how you want it. Use your nails on my back and arms. Respond to the savagery of kissing with your lips and tongue and sucking.

And be re-active / submissive when I have ideas about changing positions; let me play around with you like a rag doll every which way at my whim.

Enjoy oral, giving and receiving, at any time I want it, like if I want you to suck cock after I've been in your love honey some as well as before, and if I want to go down on you as a follow-on to us both climaxing.

If your guy hasn't quite learned how to give you explosive orgasms, teach him what he needs to do, and when he does, let it really explode: the hugest delight for a genuine lover guy is to experience his woman going totally out of control, but never faking!

Now, good, bad, it's all relative. Some people probably think what I've written is tame. But do the above for me and you're a bad girl enough!

Simon
 
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First of all, apologies up front for
(a) not looking back beyond the first few pages for a similar thread
(b) the use of 'girl' instead of woman or female. Somehow, "Bad Woman" doesn't sound quite right.

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I'm looking for tips, tricks and hints for the inhibited or shy woman who needs to learn how to let go. Ideas on how to be a bad girl in the sense of letting go and allowing yourself to enjoy what the world of sex has to offer.

I really feel I have a ways to go. I know its not just as simple as stripping and crawling to him on my hands and knees, or just jumping on the bed naked.

What I'm looking for are hints on being seductive, exciting, erotic.

How about use of sex toys, props, dressing naughty, Kind of a 'how to turn up my personal volume'. But more in a technical sense, rather than discussing my personal self esteem.

So guys, what is a turn on for you in the bedroom?
Girls, what helped you become more exotic / erotic / naughty in the bedroom?

*PS* I am not looking for PM's.
If you respond to this topic by PM, consider this as your response:

Thank you for your reply, but please respond on the thread, so others can agree / add to / disagree.

Everyone has their own kinks, turnons, turnoffs. I would say the key is open communication with your partner...and not being afraid to try new things but having the sense to say how you feel about things you're not crazy about. If you're truly comfortable with a partner, your true sexual being will emerge.
 
See, now, as a guy, and one who's just had his heart utterly crushed, I often wonder about the same thing. I'm terrified of opening my mouth next time I meet someone and letting out all the horrifically filthy things I want - which makes me scared of not being sexually compatible with anyone. Slightly different issue to yours, but similar enough. Seems to me that people are giving you great advice, and I echo them. Communication with a partner is really important, as is feeling confident in yourself. You need to feel hot and sexy before you can make someone else do that. I feel really hot and sexy when the right girl is holding my hand and smiling at me, or I nail a decent choir solo, or a difficult diagnosis. You should think about what makes you feel great. People can tell, and when you realise you're an absolute boss that any guy would be lucky to have! (I've not met you, but between the pictures from your other thread, the clear open-minded desire for what you want in your sex life, and frankly being okay with everything that you've said on the list, you clearly are! Good luck! :D )
 
First of all, apologies up front for
(a) not looking back beyond the first few pages for a similar thread
(b) the use of 'girl' instead of woman or female. Somehow, "Bad Woman" doesn't sound quite right.

------------------------------------------------------------
I'm looking for tips, tricks and hints for the inhibited or shy woman who needs to learn how to let go. Ideas on how to be a bad girl in the sense of letting go and allowing yourself to enjoy what the world of sex has to offer.

I really feel I have a ways to go. I know its not just as simple as stripping and crawling to him on my hands and knees, or just jumping on the bed naked.

What I'm looking for are hints on being seductive, exciting, erotic.

How about use of sex toys, props, dressing naughty, Kind of a 'how to turn up my personal volume'. But more in a technical sense, rather than discussing my personal self esteem.

So guys, what is a turn on for you in the bedroom?
Girls, what helped you become more exotic / erotic / naughty in the bedroom?

*PS* I am not looking for PM's.
If you respond to this topic by PM, consider this as your response:

Thank you for your reply, but please respond on the thread, so others can agree / add to / disagree.
I found that you need to feel comfortable with the toys by yourself, then slowly introduce them to your partner. Some guys are very inhibited with toys, as they feel they are not "man" enough for them.
 
I can appreciate that. Initially I was a bit intimidated when my last partner introduced them - or admitted she'd bought them - but clearly there's a difference between having a person and a toy. We may not vibrate, but we do cuddle! :p
But yeah - if you explain to him WHY you think it might be fun, and that it is just that, then he should be okay. Depends on how insecure he is. If he's really insecure you may have to be careful and show how much you appreciate just having him. Hopefully that'll build his confidence up to where he'll be okay with it.
Anything else, be honest and open - that's the best way. :)
 
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Sooo... I took the first step and introduced toys to our sex play.

I first gave him a 'heads up'- I texted him asking if he liked 'to watch' (I find texting an easier way to discuss sex).

He did.

So I put on a show for him. Had to get a bit drunk first, but it was well received. It felt a bit awkward to be fully naked on the bed with him fully clothed, just watching, but hot as well. He learned that I enjoy a bit of anal play as well.

Thanks to all for the tips- always open to more!
 
Sooo... I took the first step and introduced toys to our sex play.

I first gave him a 'heads up'- I texted him asking if he liked 'to watch' (I find texting an easier way to discuss sex).

He did.

So I put on a show for him. Had to get a bit drunk first, but it was well received. It felt a bit awkward to be fully naked on the bed with him fully clothed, just watching, but hot as well. He learned that I enjoy a bit of anal play as well.

Thanks to all for the tips- always open to more!

Next time you should suggest that he be naked too. :) Make it visual and interactive for him.
 
Next time you should suggest that he be naked too. :) Make it visual and interactive for him.

That's how we ended up, but I wanted him to only watch first. I was waiting for him on the bed when he came over.
 
That's how we ended up, but I wanted him to only watch first. I was waiting for him on the bed when he came over.

How long did the "watching" portion last? Did you invite him to use the toys on you? Or were you in complete control?

I love to provide my gf a helping hand when she wants.
 
Sooo... I took the first step and introduced toys to our sex play.

I first gave him a 'heads up'- I texted him asking if he liked 'to watch' (I find texting an easier way to discuss sex).

He did.

So I put on a show for him. Had to get a bit drunk first, but it was well received. It felt a bit awkward to be fully naked on the bed with him fully clothed, just watching, but hot as well. He learned that I enjoy a bit of anal play as well.

Thanks to all for the tips- always open to more!

Did you two have anal sex?
 
How long did the "watching" portion last? Did you invite him to use the toys on you? Or were you in complete control?

I love to provide my gf a helping hand when she wants.

For the first time, I was in control. Lasted about 10-15 minutes.
No, he didn't use my vibe on me.
 
Out of curiosity:

What is your goal? To have a long term relationship with this guy or that he brags about you to his friends?
 
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