cheekygirl75
Brains of the Outfit
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Sorry if this didn't resonate well with you. But you err in thinking you are the only one who has ever faced these difficulties.
I never said nor indicated that I am the only one who has ever had depression (which, for the record, is a medical condition, not just "facing difficulties" in life).
The bottom line is, you either fight it with whatever seems to work...or you crawl under a blanket and wait to die.
I think my post clearly showed that I am trying to fight it, and just asking for help to get more resources to fight it, which doesn't equate to me just "waiting to die". Because obviously, what I'm doing now (trying to keep up with a stressful job & basics of life & failing) *isn't* working, so to keep fighting it, the resources I need right now are time and energy to figure out a better way to fight it. And just because the doctor has the impression that I will isolate myself if I'm not working, doesn't make it true.
The analogy to lifting an 18-wheeler is just hyperbole, I doubt doing one of the small tasks on your list would end up being as hard as trying to lift a truck I never said to do all of the "things" you have difficulty facing...I suggested trying to just do one thing.
Not hyperbole, but simile. Of course, one of the "small tasks" (quotes for condescension and dismissive-ness) wouldn't be as hard physically as lifting an 18-wheeler, but effort is effort, whether it's physical or mental. But since that image is apparently too different from dealing with a mental illness for you to understand, here's a closer one:
Telling someone with depression to just try to do one of the "things" (why was that in quotes in your reply?) that they don't have the *ability* (not that they just find difficult to face) to do at the moment on their own is like telling someone with a crushed spine to just sit in their room and just try to move one small toe. You know, they should just *force" that toe to move, without any other medical help or treatment, and eventually they'll be able to walk again!
But, sadly I hear in your words a refusal to accept the responsibility of doing your part in this hoped for recovery. Since you've been in counseling this may be something you've already been told. Nonetheless, my intention is to help and not stir-up anxiety...thus, I will leave it to others who may have better and more helpful words.
Yeah, asking for more or different help from medical professionals (when the therapy I've been working hard at for almost 3 years hasn't worked enough and the medications I've tried & taken faithfully as prescribed made things worse) is obviously me refusing to do my part in my recovery. I rescind the benefit of the doubt I gave you that this is coming from a good place - patronizing & judging someone you don't know is not trying to help, it's just being patronizing & judgmental.