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See also: John Norman. I have absolutely no problem with people who want to play Gor as their personal fantasy between consenting adults, but from what I recall of his non-fiction utterances he seemed to believe that EVERYBODY was wired that way deep down inside.
AFAICT, BDSM is orthogonal to feminism. Some people find ways to make BDSM into a feminist statement, some incorporate it into very anti-feminist philosophies, many are somewhere in the middle.
That said, if you see M/f as problematic... spare a thought for PoC subs with white partners. I know one of my friends who does quite a bit of processing on that account.
Absolutely. And not to "and and" it, because race DOES have its own position, but I'll "and and" it anyway...
And Jews into Nazis, and "call me faggot" gay boys - in fact I'd say people are FAR more "squicked" by that kind of identity play and race play and race itself as an issue (doesn't mean they're not racist, just that there's a boundary) but "slut" and "bitch" get very little substantial examination.
It's a pet name for someone, maybe someone else doesn't want to have to be bathed it just to even enter an SM space. But guess what, mes amis, there is NO WAY to be into SM without listening to it constantly.
I'm thrilled that someone's got a grip on her sexuality again and YAYYYYY but when I hear M/f couples on this tangent I kind of want to punch someone in not fun ways, so really, the parties are more exhausting than they're worth.
It's a scene I can't just "not watch if I'm not comfortable" it's DEMANDED of every single participant to be exposed to this dynamic, constantly. Even women only parties I've been to that draw participants heavily from the pansexual community continue this dynamic and carry it throughout. It is DEMANDED of you. Go to a Domme party and guess what, it's a high tea with feminized "sluts" in service, great.
I've got no problem with this, sometimes I even like it, but you know what I like better? I like having fucking options.I get testy that everyone around me is "yayyyy we have sexual options" and I'm left outside the door on this one if I don't want their options and they DO NOT EVEN SEE IT.
The way I feel about "problematic sex" - the very existence of sex between unequal parties - is that the sex can be problematic without the people being problematized or pathologized. I think it's all about the fact that we have to negotiate the fact of inequality in a very personal fashion. People don't understand "the personal is political" I think. It's not supposed to be about Maoist "self criticism" sessions and litmus tests for your politics, it's supposed to remind you that your style of navigating these inequalities is another political "story", an awareness that your choices and preferences come from somewhere - that's more it.
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