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Old 08-09-2018, 09:33 PM   #1
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So here's a question... could you, would you or have you ever forgiven a cheater?

Inquiring minds want to know .

For the record, no, I dont think I ever could.
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Old 08-09-2018, 09:49 PM   #2
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Old 08-09-2018, 11:05 PM   #3
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Old 08-09-2018, 11:18 PM   #4
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I don't think the question is so much, would you forgive them, but would you trust them to never cheat again.
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Old 08-09-2018, 11:25 PM   #5
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I don't think the question is so much, would you forgive them, but would you trust them to never cheat again.
There ya go Noor. Forgiveness is easy, in reality required if you want to move on. But, at least in my case, don't think I've forgotten or that we'll ever be more than casual friends in the future.
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Old 08-09-2018, 11:27 PM   #6
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There ya go Noor. Forgiveness is easy, in reality required if you want to move on. But, at least in my case, don't think I've forgotten or that we'll ever be more than casual friends in the future.
Totally understandable.
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Old 08-10-2018, 04:12 AM   #7
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Is said cheater named Peter and is he a consumer of pumpkin?

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Old 08-10-2018, 04:52 AM   #8
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Is said cheater named Peter and is he a consumer of pumpkin?

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Is he the one that had the wife and couldn't keep her?
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Would really depend on the circumstances. Forgive? Probably. Forget? No.
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They're all a bunch of cheatin' whores. Every damn one of them.
Or maybe that was just the ex wife. I get her and every woman who ever lived confused.
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Old 08-10-2018, 05:43 AM   #11
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Is he the one that had the wife and couldn't keep her?
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They're all a bunch of cheatin' whores. Every damn one of them.
Or maybe that was just the ex wife. I get her and every woman who ever lived confused.
Surveys suggest that you are likely right about more than half of them. From what I've observed it seems to be simply a matter of opportunity and incentive.
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Old 08-10-2018, 06:30 AM   #12
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No I haven't, once the trust is gone it's pointless really. Sometimes you just have to wait for your heart to catch up with your head though.
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Old 08-10-2018, 06:37 AM   #13
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There ya go Noor. Forgiveness is easy, in reality required if you want to move on. But, at least in my case, don't think I've forgotten or that we'll ever be more than casual friends in the future.

Where did you find the time to put your penis inside so many women in so many different states?

Did you fly for Delta?

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No I haven't, once the trust is gone it's pointless really. Sometimes you just have to wait for your heart to catch up with your head though.
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Where did you find the time to put your penis inside so many women in so many different states?

Did you fly for Delta?

That dude was probably drowning in tail. All the pilots were back then. To be an airline pilot in the age of submissive women and questionable methods that were legal.
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Old 08-10-2018, 07:35 AM   #16
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forgiveness

we are all going to fail and do things that hurt the people we care about the most
many people say - oh...id never forgive him or her if they cheated on me
but the reality is.....couples make all sorts of transgressions
the truth is that in most cases cheating really has nothing to do with the spouse
it has everything to do with the brokenness inside the cheater

i contend that if you love the person....you forgive them, try to understand why it happened....and talk about how it has affected you both

for people who have a conscience, cheating is a double edged sword....yes....you may get laid and it may be hot/exciting etc....but you also have the guilt of the whole thing....

anyway...i have been cheated on and aside from normal immediate anger and resentment i was able to work through it, we stayed together, and ultimately i would say we even got some ? eroticism in the long run.

forgiveness is as much for the forgiver as for the forgiven......let it go.....and you are much more at peace with yourself as well as him or her

just my 2 cents fwiw
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Old 08-10-2018, 07:45 AM   #17
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Old 08-10-2018, 08:32 AM   #18
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So here's a question... could you, would you or have you ever forgiven a cheater?

Inquiring minds want to know .

For the record, no, I dont think I ever could.

Almost everyone here is a cheater, a fact they’ll all deny, justify or attack anyone who says it.

The truth is no, you can’t trust a cheater.

But cheaters, like the mentally ill, are often great in bed, for a while.

So I don’t judge them.
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Old 08-10-2018, 10:23 AM   #19
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I will play chess with them again, but never for money.
Having said that, I will cheat at Monopoly. If you don't notice that I have landed on your property, I'm not going to point it out. Also if no one is looking, I will turn a mortgaged property back over. If the banker is asleep...
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Old 08-11-2018, 02:51 PM   #22
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It boils down to a matter of trust and a case of mind over matter.

If you don't mind it doesn't really matter.

If I trust someone and they don't lie about such things...that goes a long way.

If I don't trust them are come to believe they are untrustworthy, They are already gone from my heart. They just haven't physically left yet.

Else it's some really good pussy and I have not found a better replacement yet.

A second chance is like a used car. It doesn't last as long as a new one and I can talk myself into treading it in without having several major breakdowns!
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we are all going to fail and do things that hurt the people we care about the most
many people say - oh...id never forgive him or her if they cheated on me
but the reality is.....couples make all sorts of transgressions
the truth is that in most cases cheating really has nothing to do with the spouse
it has everything to do with the brokenness inside the cheater

i contend that if you love the person....you forgive them, try to understand why it happened....and talk about how it has affected you both

for people who have a conscience, cheating is a double edged sword....yes....you may get laid and it may be hot/exciting etc....but you also have the guilt of the whole thing....

anyway...i have been cheated on and aside from normal immediate anger and resentment i was able to work through it, we stayed together, and ultimately i would say we even got some ? eroticism in the long run.

forgiveness is as much for the forgiver as for the forgiven......let it go.....and you are much more at peace with yourself as well as him or her

just my 2 cents fwiw
This sounds like a lot of crap to me.

To answer the question, no, I would not forgive a cheater - I don't care if it had anything to do with me or not.
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Old 08-12-2018, 07:05 AM   #24
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There ya go Noor. Forgiveness is easy, in reality required if you want to move on. But, at least in my case, don't think I've forgotten or that we'll ever be more than casual friends in the future.
Who did she cheat on you with? Someone from here?
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Old 08-12-2018, 07:11 AM   #25
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Nope. If you cheated once you'll do it again.

You lost any trust I may have had in you (I don't trust people to begin with).

One strike. You're out.
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