Duncan1981
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Welcome to the BDSM side of things. Enjoy yourselves.
New faces, come say hello...
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FurryFury
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Help? How?
FurryFury
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There is a saying, "Can't never could." I use it with my kids often. I'm sure they hate it.
It means never give up. Never use the word can't because it's just not true. You simply haven't found the right set of circumstances and hard work to make it happen.
To that end I'd suggest finding online resources if you are CERTAIN there are no local options. There usually are but people don't usually bother to do a good search, whisper in the right ears and find them. Anyway, if you are quite certain then keep trying online. Try the personals. Try other sites.
I am not a mistress btw. So, no, I can't help you in the ways you were probably thinking.
Good luck.
FF
SweetSassyVixen
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hello
I have been on Lit for a while but havent actually logged in for a bit now. Just looking for friends to chat with.
I have been on Lit for a while but havent actually logged in for a bit now. Just looking for friends to chat with.
Annamichele
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Hi
Hi everyone!!! I have been on here a few months and have enjoyed being a part of this site!
annamichele
Hi everyone!!! I have been on here a few months and have enjoyed being a part of this site!
annamichele
deathbystencil
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I`m Andrea. I was here a long time ago posted only like three posts in 2006 and then stopped coming here.
So I am back now, although I am not sure why I didn`t come back sooner!
So I am back now, although I am not sure why I didn`t come back sooner!
Ok, so while in reality I am not technically *new* to Literotica, I have never posted anything on here; be it my personal works or on any forum here until recently.
I am 23 and happily married, my husband and I have 2 beautiful children currently ages 2 yrs and 3 months
Anyway, the entire reason I am posting is because I am actually in search of help and was wondering if there would be anyone interested in giving me some advice.
Okay so almost as soon as I started having sex on a regular basis I realized that I was really into the kinky side of sex. At first I was really *REALLY* embarrassed about it and it has taken me a long long time to actually accept this part of myself as who I am naturally. I don't know much about BDSM; Only what i've read. What I am struggling with now is that I would LOVE to explore this. I want my husband to Dominate me in every single way that HE wants to. We have talked a lot, recently about our sex life and so I happen to know that he is open to the idea but I get the feeling that he is either embarrassed about reading this stuff online or is just reluctant to give me what I want because he thinks I may not be able to handle it.
First off, I'll make it quite clear that I am NOT in any way into severe pain. However, that being said, I do like to get spanked. (So far we haven't used any other instruments except his hand and to be honest I am a little intimidated by the thought of using a flogger, a crop, or even a paddle...) Secondly I suppose I should say that DOING things for him...whether he asks or its purely something that I know he would like for me to do....its such a turn on to me. I absolutely hate to clean...but he asked me to and recently every time I do I just get this heady thrill that I can only assume is my submissive nature taking over. Yesterday I did something that normally I would never do. I would never go pantie-less in public...but I did because I knew it would love it....and of course it did
So I want to do this for him. I want to guide him to his Dom side if it is even possible...I want to be his sub in every way.
Anyway, if anyone would like to give me any advice, please don't hesitate to pm me
Sorry this was so long!
I am 23 and happily married, my husband and I have 2 beautiful children currently ages 2 yrs and 3 months
Anyway, the entire reason I am posting is because I am actually in search of help and was wondering if there would be anyone interested in giving me some advice.
Okay so almost as soon as I started having sex on a regular basis I realized that I was really into the kinky side of sex. At first I was really *REALLY* embarrassed about it and it has taken me a long long time to actually accept this part of myself as who I am naturally. I don't know much about BDSM; Only what i've read. What I am struggling with now is that I would LOVE to explore this. I want my husband to Dominate me in every single way that HE wants to. We have talked a lot, recently about our sex life and so I happen to know that he is open to the idea but I get the feeling that he is either embarrassed about reading this stuff online or is just reluctant to give me what I want because he thinks I may not be able to handle it.
First off, I'll make it quite clear that I am NOT in any way into severe pain. However, that being said, I do like to get spanked. (So far we haven't used any other instruments except his hand and to be honest I am a little intimidated by the thought of using a flogger, a crop, or even a paddle...) Secondly I suppose I should say that DOING things for him...whether he asks or its purely something that I know he would like for me to do....its such a turn on to me. I absolutely hate to clean...but he asked me to and recently every time I do I just get this heady thrill that I can only assume is my submissive nature taking over. Yesterday I did something that normally I would never do. I would never go pantie-less in public...but I did because I knew it would love it....and of course it did
So I want to do this for him. I want to guide him to his Dom side if it is even possible...I want to be his sub in every way.
Anyway, if anyone would like to give me any advice, please don't hesitate to pm me
Sorry this was so long!
FurryFury
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Welcome Sithiria
You can't make your husband into a Dom if he isn't bent that way. He may be and if so, lucky you!
Here is what I always recommend. Share an explicit fantasy that you want to come true in real life with him. Have him share one with you.
Then play them out if possible.
There is a huge difference between fantasies you love but don't want to have happen in real life because it would kill or maim you or the right circumstances will never happen. Do not confuse him with one of those kind of fantasies. Try to make sure he doesn't confuse you with one of them either.
A BDSM inventory checklist can be fun to fill out to find your mutual areas of kink.
Also looking at toys or porn if you and he like that sort of thing online can get things going.
Please don't shy away from clear and direct communication. That's the only way you'll both know what you are talking about.
Think about a safe word, as well as soft and hard limits for both of you.
Read erotic books together if you are bent that way. Send each other spicy notes if you are both into that.
But be prepared that he might NOT be a Dom in his essence. Even if you see him that way and want it dearly.
Still, if you are both open to play, and want the best for each other, you can make it interesting and fun for you both.
FF
You can't make your husband into a Dom if he isn't bent that way. He may be and if so, lucky you!
Here is what I always recommend. Share an explicit fantasy that you want to come true in real life with him. Have him share one with you.
Then play them out if possible.
There is a huge difference between fantasies you love but don't want to have happen in real life because it would kill or maim you or the right circumstances will never happen. Do not confuse him with one of those kind of fantasies. Try to make sure he doesn't confuse you with one of them either.
A BDSM inventory checklist can be fun to fill out to find your mutual areas of kink.
Also looking at toys or porn if you and he like that sort of thing online can get things going.
Please don't shy away from clear and direct communication. That's the only way you'll both know what you are talking about.
Think about a safe word, as well as soft and hard limits for both of you.
Read erotic books together if you are bent that way. Send each other spicy notes if you are both into that.
But be prepared that he might NOT be a Dom in his essence. Even if you see him that way and want it dearly.
Still, if you are both open to play, and want the best for each other, you can make it interesting and fun for you both.
FF
Scotsman69
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My Lit stories
Have a look at my BDSM Lit stories. They may give you both some ideas.
Scotsman69
Have a look at my BDSM Lit stories. They may give you both some ideas.
Scotsman69
Ok, so while in reality I am not technically *new* to Literotica, I have never posted anything on here; be it my personal works or on any forum here until recently.
I am 23 and happily married, my husband and I have 2 beautiful children currently ages 2 yrs and 3 months
Anyway, the entire reason I am posting is because I am actually in search of help and was wondering if there would be anyone interested in giving me some advice.
Okay so almost as soon as I started having sex on a regular basis I realized that I was really into the kinky side of sex. At first I was really *REALLY* embarrassed about it and it has taken me a long long time to actually accept this part of myself as who I am naturally. I don't know much about BDSM; Only what i've read. What I am struggling with now is that I would LOVE to explore this. I want my husband to Dominate me in every single way that HE wants to. We have talked a lot, recently about our sex life and so I happen to know that he is open to the idea but I get the feeling that he is either embarrassed about reading this stuff online or is just reluctant to give me what I want because he thinks I may not be able to handle it.
First off, I'll make it quite clear that I am NOT in any way into severe pain. However, that being said, I do like to get spanked. (So far we haven't used any other instruments except his hand and to be honest I am a little intimidated by the thought of using a flogger, a crop, or even a paddle...) Secondly I suppose I should say that DOING things for him...whether he asks or its purely something that I know he would like for me to do....its such a turn on to me. I absolutely hate to clean...but he asked me to and recently every time I do I just get this heady thrill that I can only assume is my submissive nature taking over. Yesterday I did something that normally I would never do. I would never go pantie-less in public...but I did because I knew it would love it....and of course it did
So I want to do this for him. I want to guide him to his Dom side if it is even possible...I want to be his sub in every way.
Anyway, if anyone would like to give me any advice, please don't hesitate to pm me
Sorry this was so long!
Okay, just to clarify...I would never try to force him into a position he wasn't comfortable with. I will love him regardless...
Rereading my post though, I didn't mention that my husband and I have talked about it. He is willing to try anything at least once so long as it is agreed on by the both of us...
And just like I said before....if, once we try this in the best way that we know how, he decides that it isn't for him, I can and will go back to the way things were...we can always just have wicked kinky sex lol
Rereading my post though, I didn't mention that my husband and I have talked about it. He is willing to try anything at least once so long as it is agreed on by the both of us...
And just like I said before....if, once we try this in the best way that we know how, he decides that it isn't for him, I can and will go back to the way things were...we can always just have wicked kinky sex
lol
FurryFury
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I didn't mean you were trying to force him. Believe me, I've been where you are. My husband was willing to try too.
*hug*
FF
*hug*
FF
Okay, just to clarify...I would never try to force him into a position he wasn't comfortable with. I will love him regardless...
Rereading my post though, I didn't mention that my husband and I have talked about it. He is willing to try anything at least once so long as it is agreed on by the both of us...
And just like I said before....if, once we try this in the best way that we know how, he decides that it isn't for him, I can and will go back to the way things were...we can always just have wicked kinky sex
marieR19
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*peeks in shyly*
Hey people. I'm not new, but I kinda drifted away from here for awhile. I see lots of old friendly faces (Hi FurryFury!) and lots of new people, and I've been away so long that I rather feel like a newbie.
This year has been horrible, over the summer my mother spent 3 weeks in the hospital and then 2 months in rehabilitation, and it was extremely difficult for me (I still live with her, so it was even harder to handle...). Obviously, the submissive part of me was shoved to the back as I was forced to be all adult and responsible and serious about stuff. (She's much better now, back at home and looking for a job...)
I've started writing again, and reaquanted myself with a guy who I'd been talking to for awhile who... well, there are possibilities. Which made me think of Lit. So, yeah, I'm back. Hi!
Hey people. I'm not new, but I kinda drifted away from here for awhile. I see lots of old friendly faces (Hi FurryFury!) and lots of new people, and I've been away so long that I rather feel like a newbie.
This year has been horrible, over the summer my mother spent 3 weeks in the hospital and then 2 months in rehabilitation, and it was extremely difficult for me (I still live with her, so it was even harder to handle...). Obviously, the submissive part of me was shoved to the back as I was forced to be all adult and responsible and serious about stuff. (She's much better now, back at home and looking for a job...)
I've started writing again, and reaquanted myself with a guy who I'd been talking to for awhile who... well, there are possibilities. Which made me think of Lit. So, yeah, I'm back. Hi!
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