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Try to go for "the second coming".
How long is his refractory period after an ejaculation?
Make him come (or be a bit dominant and tell him to masturbate for you) an appropriate time in advance before you go for penetrative sex.
It might take a bit more work on your part to get him erect..... But it will take a lot more work to make him come.
Be ready to accept, that he may not be able to come the second time. It is not your fault, but physiology, and remember that you are having fun and experimenting.
but one of the main things will be getting him over that hump after he cums of initially being super sensitive.
I have to disagree with the "second coming" concept.
Why, is because it is rewarding a bad behavior. Better to break a bad habit, then reward it. When he gets older, he will less likely be able to have a second coming and will still be a minute man the first time.
You are welcome to your opinion, but, pardon my bluntness, you're flat out wrong.
The "second coming" is based in reality, an inexperienced and untrained man is going to pop with VERY LITTLE effort because his penis and brain isn't used to this type of stimulus, it is a sensory overload, of sorts. Edging and "second coming" work to train him to the new sensations, with practice, he can achieve longer duration.
The caveat here is that he's got to be willing to increase his staying power for any sort of efforts to pay off. If all he wants to do is get it up, get it in, get it off, and go to bed, then there is absolutely nothing that can be done to increase his stamina.
IF, however, he cares in the slightest for his partner, a man will work to achieve longer duration, which will not only benefit his partner, it will benefit himself. So, if you believe that a woman is nothing more than a cum receptacle, then you're right, there's nothing that can be done to sustain your stamina. IF you care about your partner, then most of the advice offered here is spot on in helping to achieve longer duration.
I'm 32 he is 34
We've been married 9 years
We've been having sex for about 13 years
---its always been this way.
Sex happens about once a month but lately more
We are each others firsts
This trains the mind to thinking that it's okay to come quick, as long as you have a crutch to fall back on like a second coming. However, what happens when he gets older and second comings are less likely? oops! There goes the crutch! Now he has the harder task of learning to get it right without any youthful enthusiasm to support him.
Mission: failure inevitable.
However, I agree that it depends on his hunger to appease his partner over the hunger of pleasing himself, whether he will gain control of his orgasms.
It occurs to me, we are both wrong . . . he HAS been trained, he's been trained to have a short fuse and that it's ok that he's got a short fuse. His wife has been telling him for 13 years that it's ok, and he obviously doesn't care to correct it, if he did, this wouldn't still be a problem 13 years later.
So now the questions are, why has it been allowed for 13 years, and why are they only having sex 1 a month. More importantly, why weren't these two things rectified early on?
...not for nothing, but I knew this since my first post, but was trying to avoid going into a tangent because I already have suppositions of "why" which discussing them are not going to be helpful to the OP.
Pardon my lack of caring to go back and check, has anyone seen the OP since her original post? Seems to me someone truly interested in finding a resolution, much less the opinion of the people being asked, would check back in on a thread they started. Oh well, not uncommon for hit and runs.
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We're excited to try more and build on our relationship.
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Sorry for not responding much after my initial post. I have been checking in frequently to see what everyone has to say. We have tried many things, and I think it's getting better. We try to have sex more, (which helps), we try the edging technique, and we have tried the 'second coming' idea.
We're excited to try more and build on our relationship. If you have any other ideas, please feel free to share!
Maddie
If you have any other ideas, please feel free to share!