tryn2Bgood
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Recently realized that I worry too much...about everything, a lot. From little things that dont really matter much to big, possibly life changing decisions. Planning and packing for vacation, or 'overpacking' because what if something happens and you need this or that? Spend extra money on new furniture you really want, but what if your car breaks down next week? A better job offer comes along, but what if you take it and don't like it as much as your old one? End a relationship that's 'just fine' but not 'perfect' and possibly not find another one that even comes close? The million 'what ifs' that could happen as a result of any choice you make...
I do a lot of favors or things to help out other people, even when it makes it hard on me. It's hard for me to say no because I'll worry about them not being able to find someone else to help. And on the rare occasion I decide to be selfish and spend the day doing things for myself, I start to feel guilty and worry about all the other things that could have gotten done instead.
One at a time these things aren't really that difficult, but when several of them pile up at once it can be pretty stressful. I overthink, over analyze, and over plan in order to be comfortable with making a decision. Never viewed it as a 'problem' before (although I think I require a lot more 'alone time' than most people), but I would love to be able to worry less. But then, what if I stopped worrying about things and everything fell apart due to my lack of concern?
To help myself manage I usually make lists. Organization helps. I have lists for everything. To do lists. A list of priorities. Wish lists. Pros and cons lists. Lists of what kind of lists I need. Lol. I make sure to include things that can easily be checked off so I can see some progress to avoid feeling overwhelmed. I sometimes force myself to take a break from responsibilities so I don't get burned out. Other times I relieve stress by writing, exercising, or spur of the moment recklessness (not really).
If anyone has similar issues I'd love to hear what helps you cope. Or if you are a carefree, happy-go-lucky person please share your secret!
I do a lot of favors or things to help out other people, even when it makes it hard on me. It's hard for me to say no because I'll worry about them not being able to find someone else to help. And on the rare occasion I decide to be selfish and spend the day doing things for myself, I start to feel guilty and worry about all the other things that could have gotten done instead.
One at a time these things aren't really that difficult, but when several of them pile up at once it can be pretty stressful. I overthink, over analyze, and over plan in order to be comfortable with making a decision. Never viewed it as a 'problem' before (although I think I require a lot more 'alone time' than most people), but I would love to be able to worry less. But then, what if I stopped worrying about things and everything fell apart due to my lack of concern?
To help myself manage I usually make lists. Organization helps. I have lists for everything. To do lists. A list of priorities. Wish lists. Pros and cons lists. Lists of what kind of lists I need. Lol. I make sure to include things that can easily be checked off so I can see some progress to avoid feeling overwhelmed. I sometimes force myself to take a break from responsibilities so I don't get burned out. Other times I relieve stress by writing, exercising, or spur of the moment recklessness (not really).
If anyone has similar issues I'd love to hear what helps you cope. Or if you are a carefree, happy-go-lucky person please share your secret!