Anal Only Lifestyle

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So I happened to stumble upon a new forum recently for practitioners of AO or the Anal Only Lifestyle.

http://www.analonlylifestyle.com/

Apparently this stemmed from a similarly themed blog and tumblog.

I have to admit that as a lifelong fan of anal sex (actually, one of my earliest posts here was asking about my preference for anal), it is very interesting to read others so committed and vocal about their anal preference. Members seem to range from those who enjoy the majority of their sex being anal to those who have completely forbidden any form of vaginal penetration of stimulation in their relationships.

Interestingly also, there seems to be no strong correlation between these folks and the practice of BDSM, whereas anal and bdsm seems to have a strong tie on this board.

So, other than wanting to share this because I find it interesting and figured a few others of you would as well, I am now curious about how prevalent this lifestyle may be among the community here and to what extremes it goes to.

I'll go first. In my first long term relationship, we did start having anal sex fairly early on and she was my first. I wanted it a lot more than she did, and hence we had much more vaginal sex than anal, although quite a fair amount of anal as well. In my next long term relationship anal was introduced much earlier and there was more of it. I would say we were about 50/50 between anal and vaginal. In my third and last long term relationship we had anal sex on our first date and the majority of our sex was anal. We still did vaginal sex quite often (we had a lot of sex), but our routine typically involved starting with vaginal before finishing anally. If I had to guess, I would say 80% of my ejaculations over the course of our 4 year relationship went into her anus.

Since then I haven't had any long term relationships, but have had multiple short term friends with benefits type situations and most of these have been either mostly anal or anal only. I suppose I have gotten more insistent on my preference over time and my partners have either rolled with it or not. I have been really surprised by how many women were ok with it, at least in the short term, although there were of course also those who thought it strange or unacceptable.

Would others care to speak about their experience? I do find it most interesting as the male fascination with fucking women in the ass is quite clearly a part of the zeitgeist, but typically I find it presented as an occasional kinky sort of act and not the strict alternative that many are actually using anal sex as in their relationships.

I'm really interested to hear the experiences of others.
 
So I happened to stumble upon a new forum recently for practitioners of AO or the Anal Only Lifestyle.

http://www.analonlylifestyle.com/

Apparently this stemmed from a similarly themed blog and tumblog.

I have to admit that as a lifelong fan of anal sex (actually, one of my earliest posts here was asking about my preference for anal), it is very interesting to read others so committed and vocal about their anal preference. Members seem to range from those who enjoy the majority of their sex being anal to those who have completely forbidden any form of vaginal penetration of stimulation in their relationships.

Interestingly also, there seems to be no strong correlation between these folks and the practice of BDSM, whereas anal and bdsm seems to have a strong tie on this board.

So, other than wanting to share this because I find it interesting and figured a few others of you would as well, I am now curious about how prevalent this lifestyle may be among the community here and to what extremes it goes to.

I'll go first. In my first long term relationship, we did start having anal sex fairly early on and she was my first. I wanted it a lot more than she did, and hence we had much more vaginal sex than anal, although quite a fair amount of anal as well. In my next long term relationship anal was introduced much earlier and there was more of it. I would say we were about 50/50 between anal and vaginal. In my third and last long term relationship we had anal sex on our first date and the majority of our sex was anal. We still did vaginal sex quite often (we had a lot of sex), but our routine typically involved starting with vaginal before finishing anally. If I had to guess, I would say 80% of my ejaculations over the course of our 4 year relationship went into her anus.

Since then I haven't had any long term relationships, but have had multiple short term friends with benefits type situations and most of these have been either mostly anal or anal only. I suppose I have gotten more insistent on my preference over time and my partners have either rolled with it or not. I have been really surprised by how many women were ok with it, at least in the short term, although there were of course also those who thought it strange or unacceptable.

Would others care to speak about their experience? I do find it most interesting as the male fascination with fucking women in the ass is quite clearly a part of the zeitgeist, but typically I find it presented as an occasional kinky sort of act and not the strict alternative that many are actually using anal sex as in their relationships.

I'm really interested to hear the experiences of others.

As a guy I love giving and receiving anal rim jobs. My ex wife and I had a lot of anal sex. We'd each each other. I'd fuck her ass and she'd fuck mine with a dildo.
 
I've become less and less of a fan of vaginal penetration as time goes by, and I think I'm at the point where I can safely say that I wouldn't mind going the rest of my life without putting a dick in there. Other stuff, sure. But I'm not a fan of friction.

I wouldn't mind doing anal full-time if I still had to do the penetration thing, as it really doesn't feel all that different from vaginal. The friction is different, but the overall feeling is basically the same to me.

We can't really do that, though. I'm... somewhat irregular. :V

So we're basically Oral Only at this point.
 
Awww this makes my vagina sad, and it's nice. I've been told it's extraordinarily nice, "super vagina" was the term.
However, I'd say I'm a fan of both.
I like dick & fingers during, fingers everywhere, cocks and all, yes please!
 
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Right now, I'd rather be penetrated in the back hole than the front one, but it's just a preference, just right now.

But I guess it's a lifestyle, who knew? Do i get a badge or a secret handshake?
 
Quote "I have been really surprised by how many women were ok with it, at least in the short term...."

Not be be a total Debbie downer but, ALWAYS wear a condom.
AIDS/HIV cases are frightenly on the rise in both hetero and homosexual communities. It seems people have forgotten what a devastating thing it was/is and are barebacking like crazy. HIV/AIDS as well as anal transmitted HPV are on the rise in staggering numbers. Heterosexuals and homosexuals alike, please, wrap it.
 
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Sounds boring... :( only anal? Why limit yourself? I'll take a little of everything, please. ;)
 
My Daddy loves anal as do I. We've had to stick to plugs and vibes at the moment though because we're trying to conceive.

When we first got together we rarely did vaginal sex.. so it's quite nice to have this and he's been enjoying vaginal sex more so recently too.

Looks like we will have a nice balance between the two
 
Quote "I have been really surprised by how many women were ok with it, at least in the short term...."

Not be be a total Debbie downer but, ALWAYS wear a condom.
AIDS/HIV cases are frightenly on the rise in both hetero and homosexual communities. It seems people have forgotten what a devastating thing it was/is and are barebacking like crazy. HIV/AIDS as well as anal transmitted HPV are on the rise in staggering numbers. Heterosexuals and homosexuals alike, please, wrap it.

I have to expand on this. HPV is the number one cause of anal cancer. Anal cancer cases and deaths have been rising, but survival rates have not. Condoms can help reduce HPV transmission but since it is a skin to skin infection it can not completely prevent transmission. Anal sex is not necessary to get anal HPV.

It is still controversial whether or not a annual anoscope exam would have an effect on long term survival. Women go t for annual Pap smears to check for cervical dysplasias caused by HPV. These exams have reduced deaths from cervical cancer. It makes sense to me that getting anal exams would be a smart thing to do.

As someone who for the last eight years have had regular and frequent anal sex I do get an annual anoscope exam. I work in a hospital where we do a fair amount of chemotherapy and at least in my institution we have seen a significant rise in anal cancers in young (30-40yr old) female patients who are not HIV positive.

Anal sex has always hurt a bit at first but the feeling once we get going has always made me have the most intense orgasms. Anal sex after an intense caning/flogging/beating is a feeling that can not in any way compare to vaginal sex.

I wouldn't want an anal only relationship, though. I like sex of all kinds and PIV sex has it's own kind of intimacy and specialness.
 
ecstaticsub's post got me thinking, and a bit of a google search later. While there is a HPV test for women, there is not one that is approved for men at least in the US, I don't know if there is one in Europe. If a test could be approved for both that could go a long ways towards preventing this form of cancer.
 
I can't imagine limiting sex with a female to anal only. Like the OP, I really like anal...but my ideal would be to start vaginal; finish anal most times.

Sometimes though, a good hip snacking, sweat slinging pussy pounding just hits the spot.
 
ecstaticsub's post got me thinking, and a bit of a google search later. While there is a HPV test for women, there is not one that is approved for men at least in the US, I don't know if there is one in Europe. If a test could be approved for both that could go a long ways towards preventing this form of cancer.

Not really. The test for woman only test the cells the brush comes in contact with leading to many false negatives. There are also many false positives. So far the best preventative measure is the HPV vaccine. However, it too is limited by only covering 4 strain. But they are the most common strains.

Anal cancer is extremely slow growing so having a qualified person look in your ass every year with an anoscope seems to me to be the best way to prevent this cancer if one frequently has anal sex.
 
I've become less and less of a fan of vaginal penetration as time goes by, and I think I'm at the point where I can safely say that I wouldn't mind going the rest of my life without putting a dick in there. Other stuff, sure. But I'm not a fan of friction.

I wouldn't mind doing anal full-time if I still had to do the penetration thing, as it really doesn't feel all that different from vaginal. The friction is different, but the overall feeling is basically the same to me.

We can't really do that, though. I'm... somewhat irregular. :V

So we're basically Oral Only at this point.

KoPilot, am I correctly inferring from your post that you are a female in a relationship with another female?

I find you comment of anal feeling not all that different from vaginal quite interesting. How true can this be? Are lots of women finding this to be the case? Is the idea that the vaginal canal is the female sexual organ corresponding to the penis a simple falsehood? I suppose we've all read "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm", so there's that.

Right now, I'd rather be penetrated in the back hole than the front one, but it's just a preference, just right now.

But I guess it's a lifestyle, who knew? Do i get a badge or a secret handshake?

Why rather be penetrated in the back hole than the front hole?

Sounds boring... :( only anal? Why limit yourself? I'll take a little of everything, please. ;)

I think this is a really interesting point. It seems to me from reading the posts in this community and looking at their corresponding porn tumblog that for a lot of these folks it isn't just about preferring the asshole, but a fetishization of pussy denial.

I think denial of all kinds is a great tool to be played with in the bedroom, but the long term and permanent denial of the vagina isn't something I'd be interested in either.

I have to expand on this. HPV is the number one cause of anal cancer. Anal cancer cases and deaths have been rising, but survival rates have not. Condoms can help reduce HPV transmission but since it is a skin to skin infection it can not completely prevent transmission. Anal sex is not necessary to get anal HPV.

It is still controversial whether or not a annual anoscope exam would have an effect on long term survival. Women go t for annual Pap smears to check for cervical dysplasias caused by HPV. These exams have reduced deaths from cervical cancer. It makes sense to me that getting anal exams would be a smart thing to do.

As someone who for the last eight years have had regular and frequent anal sex I do get an annual anoscope exam. I work in a hospital where we do a fair amount of chemotherapy and at least in my institution we have seen a significant rise in anal cancers in young (30-40yr old) female patients who are not HIV positive.

Anal sex has always hurt a bit at first but the feeling once we get going has always made me have the most intense orgasms. Anal sex after an intense caning/flogging/beating is a feeling that can not in any way compare to vaginal sex.

I wouldn't want an anal only relationship, though. I like sex of all kinds and PIV sex has it's own kind of intimacy and specialness.

Thanks for the health notes. Always good to remember that there are potential consequences to our behavior that we need to be aware of.

I can't imagine limiting sex with a female to anal only. Like the OP, I really like anal...but my ideal would be to start vaginal; finish anal most times.

Sometimes though, a good hip snacking, sweat slinging pussy pounding just hits the spot.

I enjoy starting vaginal, finishing anal as well.

Agree about the pussy. The pussy is a little friendlier than the ass, if you ask me. Definitely has it's place, in my book.
 
KoPilot, am I correctly inferring from your post that you are a female in a relationship with another female?

I find you comment of anal feeling not all that different from vaginal quite interesting. How true can this be? Are lots of women finding this to be the case? Is the idea that the vaginal canal is the female sexual organ corresponding to the penis a simple falsehood? I suppose we've all read "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm", so there's that.

I'm female-assigned married to a dude. Interesting that you ascertained that I was in a lesbian relationship, though.

My situation, truthfully, is complicated. I'm trans* and have some gender baggage, but mostly I've been dealing with this BIID thing lately and it really seems to impact how I process tactile sensation, which, as I've discovered over the past few years, is lacking. So basically, I don't really have erogenous zones. Nipple stimulation doesn't feel like much of anything special, and genital stimulation is similar. Occasionally it will feel particularly good, but getting to that point is finicky because, well, I don't process the sensation of friction in the same that others seem to. It's irritating to me and rarely pleasurable. Orgasm also doesn't feel wholly good either, so I don't often have a reason to pursue climax.

This may be why vaginal and anal feel similar to me; without sufficient differentiation in sensation, they're both just holes with slightly different openings with one offset from the other. Last time I got a hard fucking, I realized that I could not, for the life of me, tell which hole he was using. I figured that most other people probably could.

I've had one g-spot orgasm, and it was interesting. I've tried to have more since, but the friction thing really is a drag and he usually gets tired before he can get me there.

Oral and anal, to me personally, are gender-neutral, so I guess on an emotional level I can appreciate them more even though I can't really differentiate between vaginal and anal.
 
I love anal because of the different type orgasm it gives me, but I would never want my pussy to go unused. I would like to go 50/50, but Sir says no, that he doesn't want me anywhere near a prolapse condition. he took a picture for me after a particularly brutal and satisfying reaming :eek:, I want to stay out of the pink sock club.
 
I'm female-assigned married to a dude. Interesting that you ascertained that I was in a lesbian relationship, though.

My situation, truthfully, is complicated. I'm trans* and have some gender baggage, but mostly I've been dealing with this BIID thing lately and it really seems to impact how I process tactile sensation, which, as I've discovered over the past few years, is lacking. So basically, I don't really have erogenous zones. Nipple stimulation doesn't feel like much of anything special, and genital stimulation is similar. Occasionally it will feel particularly good, but getting to that point is finicky because, well, I don't process the sensation of friction in the same that others seem to. It's irritating to me and rarely pleasurable. Orgasm also doesn't feel wholly good either, so I don't often have a reason to pursue climax.

This may be why vaginal and anal feel similar to me; without sufficient differentiation in sensation, they're both just holes with slightly different openings with one offset from the other. Last time I got a hard fucking, I realized that I could not, for the life of me, tell which hole he was using. I figured that most other people probably could.

I've had one g-spot orgasm, and it was interesting. I've tried to have more since, but the friction thing really is a drag and he usually gets tired before he can get me there.

Oral and anal, to me personally, are gender-neutral, so I guess on an emotional level I can appreciate them more even though I can't really differentiate between vaginal and anal.

Makes sense, thanks for the clarification!

I love anal because of the different type orgasm it gives me, but I would never want my pussy to go unused. I would like to go 50/50, but Sir says no, that he doesn't want me anywhere near a prolapse condition. he took a picture for me after a particularly brutal and satisfying reaming :eek:, I want to stay out of the pink sock club.

Always love hearing about girls who want more anal than they're getting! Brings a semblance of balance to the world.
 
The last several guys I've dated have not been interested in anal sex. Even the guy I'm just sexting is only interested in it rarely, while I'd like it on a regular basis. The sexting partner is really well hung though, and I would probably be extremely nervous if he actually wanted to fuck my ass regularly.
 
I could live an anal only lifestyle. I'd prefer it the BDSM way, though. I like everything the BDSM way.
 
The last several guys I've dated have not been interested in anal sex. Even the guy I'm just sexting is only interested in it rarely, while I'd like it on a regular basis. The sexting partner is really well hung though, and I would probably be extremely nervous if he actually wanted to fuck my ass regularly.
Anal sex is magnificent...I enjoy mutual anal play with a woman who enjoys it as much as I do.
 
I like anal a lot - it's great. But I couldn't live without "regular" sex. To me vaginal sex is more romantic and intimate. As hot and intense as anal can be, I just don't get that feeling of closeness from it.

I have a friend who does the anal only thing. I just don't get it, but as with most things - whatever rocks your dinghy.
 
I was wondering if this thread was going to get any more love. I'd like to hear from anyone in an AO or close to AO lifestyle.

For those that do anal, what % of sex being anal is the average?
 
I was wondering if this thread was going to get any more love. I'd like to hear from anyone in an AO or close to AO lifestyle.

For those that do anal, what % of sex being anal is the average?

I'd say 90% our intercourse is anal, the rest of the times it's mostly oral. We rarely do vaginal anymore. Then again, a lot of our sex doesn't involve anything going into any cavity of mine.

We were anal and oral only for the first six-ish months of our relationship, but eventually had vaginal sex frequently for around 3 years. Then about 3 years ago I had to get my pill prescription renewed and I thought I'd like to try what it'd be like to be off the pill. I used to have cramps that made me not be able to walk straight and because of that I had been on the pill since I was 13, so I just wanted to see if time had possibly fixed the cramp thing and if life would be any different without the extra hormones in my body. I went off the pill, vaginal sex became really infrequent and then almost nonexistent. It was never an actual decision to almost stop having vaginal sex, it just happened.

I still remember the first time we had vaginal sex. It made me giggle and blush like crazy. It felt so intimate and weird, and to add to it was also the first time we had sex without a condom. I remember very fondly the first months of our relationship, the first anal only phase. The pussy denial fetishization sums up a lot of our relationship then, especially as I knew he was seeing someone else occasionally and had vaginal sex with her at the same time. Good times.

These days being mostly anal doesn't push any special buttons for me anymore. It's a shame, really. As a sensation I definitely enjoy anal more than I enjoy vaginal, but I'm not real intercourse-y a person.
 
Me too Seela, I'd love to get my tubes tied (Laparoscopy) and get off the pill, but I'm worried about the long term side effects. Anyhow I would guesstimate that 30-35% percent of our intercourse is anal. Like I said, I would prefer 50/50, but Sir is very thick and he is concerned about doing permanent damage to me, which is fine. I would rather give up some anal and not have an anal prolapse.
 
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