you can see by the number of posts i have that i am not new here...but i havent been around for a while.....and have just seen this thread
I am a married male with natural sub tendencies in the bedroom. Wife is more vanilla than the vanilla-est thing you can think of!! she has spanked me probably half a dozen times in our 20 year marriage but hasnt in about 4 years.....the last time she called it my "sickness"......
I have a Mistress - in the D/s sense. we play maybe fortnightly...and she is bringing out my deeper submissive tendencies. She spanks and humiliates me and frankly i love her for it. I am not ashamed nor embarrassed to see her ..when i am with her its the one time in my life i can be ME.
our one hard limit - unfortunately - is no marks that will last longer than 6 or 7 hours.....so far we have kept to it.
of course wife is completely oblivious to it.
great thread - thank you for starting it