Here's a quote I received by my Dom:
"This isn't like some secret koan or forbidden magician's knowledge. You can't dominate someone unless you can understand where they are and how to get them where you want them to be. The difference is entirely context: instead of trying to please me and, by extension, please yourself... do it the other way. Masturbate using my body. Indulge yourself, tease yourself, explore YOUR wants and desires through another's flesh. It's all perspective. It's why I find it so easy to switch because I'm not making any deep, fundamental change."
I'll be adding a story of how that went in some subforum soon, so if you're curious, be on the look out.
