IrisAlthea
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I think you're quite right that we might need to expect other things from marriage and that monogamous might not be a working model for everyone.Judging from the high volume of people in their 50's who are third-ish-non-cousins-who-are-actually-half-brothers-and-sisters-and-more-or-less-know-it-cause-dad-was-away-sometimes in the small towns around me, non-monogamy seems to be the reality of "monogamous traditional marriage." (And not every woman involved was single either.) If something approaches a third of all relationships (someone going outside it) why can't we just accept that the norm isn't the ideal and that the ideal may not be realistic for all people? If you want it and you've got it, hooray for you, you know, but really it's not necessarily something we must all expect.
Discourse around this topic never gets past the equivalent of "Drugs are bad."
I'm just a huge fan of the idea that everyone in the marriage should be on the same page when it comes to what is expected in their particular relationship.
In other kinds of relationships too, actually.