Find a woman...

[ChrisTimms]

...worth talking to on here.

I know I'm probably going to get bashed on this, because that's what forums are like, but I'd like to know how to find a woman who would be interested in talking?

I find that people don't give other people enough opportunities or time and patience to really get to know someone.

Can you imagine how many people we miss out on knowing when we don't try and talk to them -- try and give them a chance?

So I'm looking to find a woman who wants to talk ... about all things. Someone who wants to get to know someone they have never met before. Why? Isn't life about meeting new people and having different experiences.

I don't know, this might just be me.

But I'd still like to know how: PM's don't work and trying to talk on a message board leads to nothing.

Thanks,
Chris

[Firebrain]

The best thing to do is be honest and upfront about yourself - and do so in as few words as possible. Also, few women respond to men without a profile picture. Most of us want to know who we're talking to - what you look like, what you do, things you enjoy, whether you prefer stuffing your fist up a walrus or a quiet evening in with hot chocolate etc.

[Randolph]

Seems like good advice... except the walrus thing - they have really big teeth

[NippleMuncher]

This forum is no different from any other, in that unless YOU post and interact, no one is going to know who you are. Rather than worry about 'how' to meet and talk to a woman on a site, how about just getting out there and introduce your self, get involved in ongoing topics or start your own. When people know who you are, they'll be less inclined to ignore PMs or other contacts from you.

[TallMan60]

Be interested and interesting. Don't lead with sex. There are lots of women who love to talk with "real" men who act like normal people.

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[human_male]

Originally Posted by Randolph

Seems like good advice... except the walrus thing - they have really big teeth

You only have to worry about the ones who don't like that sort of thing. Y'know, the uptight ones.

[Randolph]

Hmmm, tricky...so how can you spot a walrus who's up for it?

[scotsmitch2001]

how upright their "tusk" is?

[Eilan]

Originally Posted by ChrisTimms

I find that people don't give other people enough opportunities or time and patience to really get to know someone.

You just joined November 12th, and you want other people to be patient?

Reminds me of when my husband and I were semi-active on AFF, where men would complain, "I've been a member of this site for a whole week and I haven't gotten laid! What's your problem, ladies?"

Originally Posted by NippleMuncher

This forum is no different from any other, in that unless YOU post and interact, no one is going to know who you are. Rather than worry about 'how' to meet and talk to a woman on a site, how about just getting out there and introduce your self, get involved in ongoing topics or start your own. When people know who you are, they'll be less inclined to ignore PMs or other contacts from you.

Exactly! We all started out at that point, and it's intimidating as hell to join a conversation when everyone seems to know everyone else because they have a history together, even if it is just online. For some folks, this is more than just a "porn board," and like pretty much any other online community, n00bs are (mostly) viewed with suspicion.

IMO, the question the OP should be asking shouldn't be "How do I find a woman/man/walrus worth talking to?" but rather "How do I present myself as someone worthy of conversation or friendship?"

Of course, this assumes that one wants real conversation or friendship as opposed to cyber.

[NippleMuncher]

Originally Posted by Eilan

Of course, this assumes that one wants real conversation or friendship as opposed to cyber.

For everything else, there's Mastercard. If cyber is the case, then I'm sure we could dredge up a list of 900 numbers ...

[kaycee217]

Originally Posted by Firebrain

The best thing to do is be honest and upfront about yourself - and do so in as few words as possible. Also, few women respond to men without a profile picture. Most of us want to know who we're talking to - what you look like, what you do, things you enjoy, whether you prefer stuffing your fist up a walrus or a quiet evening in with hot chocolate etc.

What she said, basically.

If you make posts revealing a little about yourself (what you like, your opinions about current events or sexual issues, etc.) then eventually post a well thought out ad, you will likely "find a woman worth talking to on here."

Also, luck plays a factor as well and the more time you spend on Lit, the more likely you'll get lucky.

[SweetErika]

Originally Posted by Eilan

IMO, the question the OP should be asking shouldn't be "How do I find a woman/man/walrus worth talking to?" but rather "How do I present myself as someone worthy of conversation or friendship?"

Of course, this assumes that one wants real conversation or friendship as opposed to cyber.

Reading this should be mandatory.

Originally Posted by ChrisTimms

I don't know, this might just be me.

But I'd still like to know how: PM's don't work and trying to talk on a message board leads to nothing.

It IS you...plus all the other people who come here expecting to get something for nothing (or very little).

I know that's harsh, but as Eilan said, you're voicing a sentiment heard here and elsewhere all the time.

And you might not want to hear this either, but most of us connect on the boards first--and often solidly and/or over a lengthy period of time--prior to having more in depth conversations privately. So, find a board or three (besides AmPics and Personals) that suits you and become a regular so others can get to know you. Give it time and perhaps send some friendly PMs when you feel like you connect with people in public and would like to get to know them better (in non-creepy ways).

[JustSkye]

Originally Posted by TallMan60

Be interested and interesting. Don't lead with sex. There are lots of women who love to talk with "real" men who act like normal people.

exactly.

[RedheadedHaze]

Originally Posted by TallMan60

Be interested and interesting. Don't lead with sex. There are lots of women who love to talk with "real" men who act like normal people.

There's the truth of the matter.

[GrnEyedGrl]

Originally Posted by TallMan60

Be interested and interesting. Don't lead with sex. There are lots of women who love to talk with "real" men who act like normal people.

EXACTLY....I hate it when I get PM's from a man just telling me how they want to fuck me. Be interesting, seem interested in me, not just my pussy.

Of course, I am here to look for a good time too, but I also like good conversation as well...