Advice on first encounter?

[Tango2]

I'm really horny lately thinking about the possibility of a male to male physical encounter; the first one since I was much younger. How to best go about it? I'm thinking a massage might be the best way to ease into it. Strictly physical, I am married and have no desire to have a long term emotional relationship with a guy....I just want to get off with him.

[StarrOftheNite]

a gay video and some wine usually help, other rec drugs up to the participants.

[SMBROS]

Im in the same boat, married but really need to get off and the idea of getting off with another guy has me more excited then I've been long time. The more stories and posts I read here I'd like to try again. I'd try with you but im over in Buffalo NY, anyone around my area?

[ravi64]

wine ,video and massage all part of it but go for it man

[jvillcouple]

From my experience. . . guys don't want a massage. . . they just want to drop their pants and have a quick blow job and leave. . . Hardest part is finding place to go when both are married.

[webshooter69]

Originally Posted by jvillcouple

From my experience. . . guys don't want a massage. . . they just want to drop their pants and have a quick blow job and leave. . . Hardest part is finding place to go when both are married.

A guy I met at a local BAM has a great solution. He has a climate controlled storage room. Small, but with an indoors entrance door, inside lock and light. He used it for minor storage but left room for suitable chair and a sofa, complete with end table with a drawer full of condoms!
Now I I could only get a key........

[none2_none2]

Originally Posted by jvillcouple

From my experience. . . guys don't want a massage. . . they just want to drop their pants and have a quick blow job and leave. . . Hardest part is finding place to go when both are married.

Over the years that wasn't my experience at all. Of course, I have very little interest in oral anyway. I looked for guys that might be interested in getting fucked. Those guys, especially the ones that might be a bit uncomfortable with the fact that they like getting fucked, really do like getting a full body message. I remember one fuck buddy in particular. He was in his early 40's when I first met him -- I was about 15-20 years younger. He was all hairy, muscular, and masculine -- just my type. He wasn't comfortable at first with getting fucked. In his case, as a young man he had prostate problems for which he had to take antibiotics. For such guys, sometimes the prostate can be rather sore even if that issue happened years ago. Anyway, we'd get naked, and I would give him a real long back rub. He had very muscular shoulders, back, butt and legs, so I think he really appreciated a message as more muscular guys can get rather stiff in the muscles. Anyway, I would give him a back rub for a good 30 minutes starting at the top and working my way down to his waistline. Then I would go down to his toes and work my way up to his ass. By that time, he was like putty in my hands, and slipping my cock in him was no big deal. Over the years as we got to trust each other, since he was both physically and disease wise clean, I would rim him before I fucked him, or add a dildo/vibrator to the mix. We would also try to explore to find out where other erogenous zones were. For some guys they have very sensitive nerves along the sides of the belly, sides of the back, areas of the buttocks where you typically get a shot. Each guy is different, and some either have thick skin or it doesn't work. You have to explore lightly with your hands to find those points if they have them. For whatever reason, this f-buddy and me had very similar nerve wiring, so he knew how to touch me to drive me crazy with goose bumps, and I could do the same for him.

Anyway, there is nothing more relaxing to someone who is going to get bottomed, than if the top cares enough to get his whole body prepared for that act. Rushing straight to fucking (or for that matter sucking) is not that great compared to a total sexual experience. If the goal is just to drain your balls, self-masturbation can do that. But as we all know, even that gets boring after a while. As to message, I also found that taking the time to message a guy and waiting until last to touch his cock/balls/ass, means he is more likely to leak pre-cum if he has any at all. The "anticipation" that he might get touched in his privates is enough to get the juices flowing.

This particular F-buddy was just one of many examples of guys who LOVED message prior to the act. Now granted, married guys that told their wives they were going out to the grocery store, they were in a different class. I think some of them would have liked messages, but when you have 15 minutes that luxury isn't an option. You simply have to have them drop their pants, bend over, and go for the glory. That can be fine too sometimes, but it is always nicer when you are not rushed as it prolongs the sexual stimulation.

[silkysmooth10]

Originally Posted by none2_none2

Over the years that wasn't my experience at all. Of course, I have very little interest in oral anyway. I looked for guys that might be interested in getting fucked. Those guys, especially the ones that might be a bit uncomfortable with the fact that they like getting fucked, really do like getting a full body message. I remember one fuck buddy in particular. He was in his early 40's when I first met him -- I was about 15-20 years younger. He was all hairy, muscular, and masculine -- just my type. He wasn't comfortable at first with getting fucked. In his case, as a young man he had prostate problems for which he had to take antibiotics. For such guys, sometimes the prostate can be rather sore even if that issue happened years ago. Anyway, we'd get naked, and I would give him a real long back rub. He had very muscular shoulders, back, butt and legs, so I think he really appreciated a message as more muscular guys can get rather stiff in the muscles. Anyway, I would give him a back rub for a good 30 minutes starting at the top and working my way down to his waistline. Then I would go down to his toes and work my way up to his ass. By that time, he was like putty in my hands, and slipping my cock in him was no big deal. Over the years as we got to trust each other, since he was both physically and disease wise clean, I would rim him before I fucked him, or add a dildo/vibrator to the mix. We would also try to explore to find out where other erogenous zones were. For some guys they have very sensitive nerves along the sides of the belly, sides of the back, areas of the buttocks where you typically get a shot. Each guy is different, and some either have thick skin or it doesn't work. You have to explore lightly with your hands to find those points if they have them. For whatever reason, this f-buddy and me had very similar nerve wiring, so he knew how to touch me to drive me crazy with goose bumps, and I could do the same for him.

Anyway, there is nothing more relaxing to someone who is going to get bottomed, than if the top cares enough to get his whole body prepared for that act. Rushing straight to fucking (or for that matter sucking) is not that great compared to a total sexual experience. If the goal is just to drain your balls, self-masturbation can do that. But as we all know, even that gets boring after a while. As to message, I also found that taking the time to message a guy and waiting until last to touch his cock/balls/ass, means he is more likely to leak pre-cum if he has any at all. The "anticipation" that he might get touched in his privates is enough to get the juices flowing.

This particular F-buddy was just one of many examples of guys who LOVED message prior to the act. Now granted, married guys that told their wives they were going out to the grocery store, they were in a different class. I think some of them would have liked messages, but when you have 15 minutes that luxury isn't an option. You simply have to have them drop their pants, bend over, and go for the glory. That can be fine too sometimes, but it is always nicer when you are not rushed as it prolongs the sexual stimulation.

I would be putty in your hands after reading that.....mmmmm. I would be putty in your hands several times, lol

[ignorantslut69]

I remember the first time I went to a guys house.

I was 21ish, earlier that week I was sucked in a mens room on campus.

He and I talked on line, then decided for us to meet. I went to his apartment, he was a TA had a single apartment off of campus. We talked, he offered to give me a back rub and I took him up on his offer. Well, he told me about some of his hook-ups and I got hard. I just reached down and undid my own pants as a way to let him know I was ready for more.

He did not know much more of a hint than that. He reached down and well the rest is history

J

[meflash]

Originally Posted by none2_none2

Over the years that wasn't my experience at all. Of course, I have very little interest in oral anyway. I looked for guys that might be interested in getting fucked. Those guys, especially the ones that might be a bit uncomfortable with the fact that they like getting fucked, really do like getting a full body message. I remember one fuck buddy in particular. He was in his early 40's when I first met him -- I was about 15-20 years younger. He was all hairy, muscular, and masculine -- just my type. He wasn't comfortable at first with getting fucked. In his case, as a young man he had prostate problems for which he had to take antibiotics. For such guys, sometimes the prostate can be rather sore even if that issue happened years ago. Anyway, we'd get naked, and I would give him a real long back rub. He had very muscular shoulders, back, butt and legs, so I think he really appreciated a message as more muscular guys can get rather stiff in the muscles. Anyway, I would give him a back rub for a good 30 minutes starting at the top and working my way down to his waistline. Then I would go down to his toes and work my way up to his ass. By that time, he was like putty in my hands, and slipping my cock in him was no big deal. Over the years as we got to trust each other, since he was both physically and disease wise clean, I would rim him before I fucked him, or add a dildo/vibrator to the mix. We would also try to explore to find out where other erogenous zones were. For some guys they have very sensitive nerves along the sides of the belly, sides of the back, areas of the buttocks where you typically get a shot. Each guy is different, and some either have thick skin or it doesn't work. You have to explore lightly with your hands to find those points if they have them. For whatever reason, this f-buddy and me had very similar nerve wiring, so he knew how to touch me to drive me crazy with goose bumps, and I could do the same for him.

Anyway, there is nothing more relaxing to someone who is going to get bottomed, than if the top cares enough to get his whole body prepared for that act. Rushing straight to fucking (or for that matter sucking) is not that great compared to a total sexual experience. If the goal is just to drain your balls, self-masturbation can do that. But as we all know, even that gets boring after a while. As to message, I also found that taking the time to message a guy and waiting until last to touch his cock/balls/ass, means he is more likely to leak pre-cum if he has any at all. The "anticipation" that he might get touched in his privates is enough to get the juices flowing.

This particular F-buddy was just one of many examples of guys who LOVED message prior to the act. Now granted, married guys that told their wives they were going out to the grocery store, they were in a different class. I think some of them would have liked messages, but when you have 15 minutes that luxury isn't an option. You simply have to have them drop their pants, bend over, and go for the glory. That can be fine too sometimes, but it is always nicer when you are not rushed as it prolongs the sexual stimulation.

wow this is how i had my frist anal, i had a guy come to my house for a 1 hour massage, i never planned on anal sex but after 20 minutes he had his cock in me. it went right in with no pain & he did me for the rest of the massage. iam not that into anal but i know that after a nice massage anyone could take my ass.

[none2_none2]

Originally Posted by meflash

wow this is how i had my frist anal, i had a guy come to my house for a 1 hour massage, i never planned on anal sex but after 20 minutes he had his cock in me. it went right in with no pain & he did me for the rest of the massage. iam not that into anal but i know that after a nice massage anyone could take my ass.

That for me is a big part of the turn on. Where is the challenge or the erotica if you just bend someone over and fuck them. I might as well use your hand.

To get a man who is horny to open up to the possibility of getting fucked and then actually ENJOY the act, that trips my trigger. The message route also prolongs the encounter. Quite frankly 5-10 minute sexual encounter sounds more like a draining than good sex. It would be like eating a meal in 5 minutes. Where are the tastes and smells if you gobble your food.

The message also is nice in that there is nothing that says you cannot touch the guys body with your dick while your giving a message. For instance, there is something very pleasant about laying your cock in the small of a guy's back (or his crack) while you are messaging his back.

I should also add that there is no reason to make it all message first and then all fucking. I remember how I would get memorized with my fuck buddy's hole when I would use my fingers or toes, tongue, dildo or vibrator on his ass. I loved watching things go in and out of him, sensing how his muscles reacted to the stimulation, listen to his breathing as it aroused him, seeing if a particular penetration might cause his penis to bead-out some pre-cum. Nevertheless, I might do that for a while, then go back to the message. Good sex to should last a while.

[Jenna2641]

Originally Posted by none2_none2

That for me is a big part of the turn on. Where is the challenge or the erotica if you just bend someone over and fuck them. I might as well use your hand.

To get a man who is horny to open up to the possibility of getting fucked and then actually ENJOY the act, that trips my trigger. The message route also prolongs the encounter. Quite frankly 5-10 minute sexual encounter sounds more like a draining than good sex. It would be like eating a meal in 5 minutes. Where are the tastes and smells if you gobble your food.

The message also is nice in that there is nothing that says you cannot touch the guys body with your dick while your giving a message. For instance, there is something very pleasant about laying your cock in the small of a guy's back (or his crack) while you are messaging his back.

I should also add that there is no reason to make it all message first and then all fucking. I remember how I would get memorized with my fuck buddy's hole when I would use my fingers or toes, tongue, dildo or vibrator on his ass. I loved watching things go in and out of him, sensing how his muscles reacted to the stimulation, listen to his breathing as it aroused him, seeing if a particular penetration might cause his penis to bead-out some pre-cum. Nevertheless, I might do that for a while, then go back to the message. Good sex to should last a while.

Very good none2! Sexy should be fun and enjoyable for all parties. The more imagination and time the great the pleasure for all parties! Glad you take the time to apply that most sexy of erotic toys, you mind! Hugs, Jenna