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Old 11-14-2017, 08:53 AM   #1151
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My thoughts on this topic are neatly summed up by Anais Nin:

ďI do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I donít mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I donít mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.Ē
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Old 11-14-2017, 11:33 AM   #1152
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I have to say this is me too! I love to be used as he likes whilst we are fucking, my limits are quite flexible and yes the harder the pounding the better. Bite me, choke me, pull my hair, tie me up and just generally use me. But after we have finished I love to hear how happy he is with me and how much he loves me. It makes me feel worthy in some way to know how much I have pleased him by being his plaything.

And then back in real life I am back in charge and am back to my normal dominate self - more of a I know what I like type of personality but now and again, take that control away from me please!
I see now how this is a big part of the scene for many women the aftercare and loving. I think it is more of an emotional high than a physical one. Emotional fulfillment in the bedroom is a big part of relationship sex I feel. I get the feeling that her orgasms are not as important as the aftercare and loving. It is more about being available and pleasing to him and to know as a woman she completely succeeded.

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Old 11-14-2017, 11:11 PM   #1153
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I greatly prefer the man to take control, and hold or otherwise enforce his physical dominance over me. Like, I can struggle but he is going to do what he wants and I am going to take it...
you sound so willing and sexy..
Love women like you..
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Old 11-15-2017, 06:05 PM   #1154
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I've got to say I bloody love it..

I'm used to doing most of the work, so a man in total control is good.. 👌🏼
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Old 11-19-2017, 12:07 AM   #1155
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New here. For me being taken is my preference always! I want the man to be in charge.
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Old 11-21-2017, 06:22 AM   #1156
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interesting thread. I worry a bit sometimes about this kink of mine, as I am not sexist or mysoginistic in any way, but male dom does turn me on. My girlfriend of a few years ago sometimes liked it too, quite a lot of the time, she liked it gentle and romantic, which I was happy with too, but sometimes she liked me to treat her roughly, use and abuse her, slap her a bit, call her filthy names.

I bought her cheap clothes, which were a bit tarty looking, like blouses which were a bit too small so she looked like she was practically bursting out of them (she was a 36DD btw) short skirts and very high heels, then, dressed like a slut, she liked me to treat her like one, I would rip the blouse open, throw her on the bed and just fuck her as hard as I could, while pulling her hair and calling her a bitch, slut, whore etc

Other times we would go to a pub which was near her flat, and she would go in a dress which I had bought her, a tight, cotton, button through summer dress with nothing underneath, and just a pair of silver, ankle strap 6 inch heels, just as we left, she whispered to me that she didn't have a stitch on under the dress, and what was I going to do about it.

While we were in the pub, she would tease, running her fingers up and down the stem of her wine glass, feeling the bulge in my trouser front, under the table, until I grabbed her by the hand and led her forcefully back to the flat. I called her a fucking cock teasing fucking bitch, ripped the dress to shreds, threw her on the bed, and piled into her like a wild animal on heat, the two of us turning the air blue with the filthy language we shouted at each other!!!

Happy memories

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Old 11-22-2017, 05:46 AM   #1157
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I have often wondered how many women really like to be taken forcefully with the man in control.
My wife is not normally into S/M or anything like it, but sometimes I take her quite forcefully holding her hands over her head while fucking her and sucking and biting her tits and when she sits on top of me I grab her hips and ass very hard and force her down on my cock - and when we have done this she says afterwards that it was really good to be taken like that and to be without control.
Ihave had a similar experience with an earlier girlfriend, who normally liked it very gentle and soft, but sometimes got off really hard when I took command.
I would like to hear from both men and women your experiences and whether or not this would be an indication of her wanting more in that direction - and how I go about it - your help will be appreciated.
You can either send me a private message or give your opinion here - Thanks!
When a guy is with me, I have pretty much told him that he can do whatever he wants, but is not allowed to punch or kick or leave cuts or bruises or inflict harsh pain, otherwise it becomes kind of assault. But role playing is fun, take me by surprise, blind fold me handcuff me,gag me, warn me not to scream, tell me I am to do as my told, without questioning, and I will be rewarded, tie me up and then hey let the games begin. Being taken in a rough but playful way has to be consensual, & both or more parties be willing participants. If your wife likes it then have a set of rules that must be adhered to.To be held down, called filthy names & even have more than one man take me in any way he wants is super cool.
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Old 11-24-2017, 02:00 PM   #1158
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When a guy is with me, I have pretty much told him that he can do whatever he wants, but is not allowed to punch or kick or leave cuts or bruises or inflict harsh pain, otherwise it becomes kind of assault. But role playing is fun, take me by surprise, blind fold me handcuff me,gag me, warn me not to scream, tell me I am to do as my told, without questioning, and I will be rewarded, tie me up and then hey let the games begin. Being taken in a rough but playful way has to be consensual, & both or more parties be willing participants. If your wife likes it then have a set of rules that must be adhered to.To be held down, called filthy names & even have more than one man take me in any way he wants is super cool.
How do you like to be rewarded for your obedience?
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Old 11-25-2017, 11:02 AM   #1159
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interesting thread. I worry a bit sometimes about this kink of mine, as I am not sexist or mysoginistic in any way, but male dom does turn me on.

I bought her cheap clothes, dressed like a slut, she liked me to treat her like one, I would rip the blouse open, throw her on the bed and just fuck her as hard as I could, while pulling her hair and calling her a bitch, slut, whore etc

I called her a fucking cock teasing fucking bitch, ripped the dress to shreds, threw her on the bed, and piled into her like a wild animal on heat, the two of us turning the air blue with the filthy language we shouted at each other!!!

Happy memories
I have some memories like this^ as well. I think when I first starting feeling this Male Dom side, I would keep it to myself as I fucked my gf thinking it was bad. It was not until years later did I realize that some women really enjoy the rough fuck and being called names.

When I reflect on it, it seems to me that the name calling is about an "inner" anger at my gf for making me so hot for her. This lust comes out of me that I find hard to control, and it is her fault...because of how she dresses, how she acts, and how she teases me. So I call her a Slut, Whore, etc. And I like to hear her admit she is a slut, whore, but my slut and whore. After the sex and role-play is over I find it easy to do the cuddling and aftercare because my partner has indulged in the scene with me.

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Old 12-29-2017, 01:27 PM   #1160
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Making me sore?

I love being fucked hard. It turns me into cheetah. And cheetah is a very.....very naughty girl.


I day dream a lot about being taken forcefully. Yes I've been fucked hard, but I want my clothing ripped off,I want to be slammed against the walls, I want you to growl at me,pick me up,throw me around. Be rough with me. Show me I belong to you,and make me crave you. Fuck my face over and over and over. Make my pussy so sore until I am wincing but begging to be fucked again. Love being pounded hard during doggy. Pull my curly afro. Bite me....just go crazy on my pussy.

Yes, I love being taking that way. I love a man being in control. I love to please....
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Old 12-29-2017, 02:03 PM   #1161
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I highly enjoy being taken roughly. Having a guy take full control of my body and to do with what he pleases, there's something so erotic about that. While we're fucking I expect to be treated like I'm his play thing, there for his pleasure and he can do whatever he pleases, he can slap me, bite me, spank and choke me, forcefully thrust into me and just simply fuck me silly, but once we're both done and satisfied I want to be cuddled and held and taken care of. It's the aftercare that makes me feel like I've pleased him and in return that brings me pleasure. Interesting how the mind works around that.
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Old 12-29-2017, 03:54 PM   #1162
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I think for me it comes down to confidence, whether he's being rough or just forceful, taking away my decisions. A man having enough confidence and knowing what he's doing is just a huge turn on. Being taken roughly can be super, super hot, if I'm in the mood. The tricky part is to be able to read a girl to tell when she's in the mood for that kind of sex. But when he gets it right...
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Old 01-02-2018, 11:30 AM   #1163
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When a guy is with me, I have pretty much told him that he can do whatever he wants, but is not allowed to punch or kick or leave cuts or bruises or inflict harsh pain, otherwise it becomes kind of assault. But role playing is fun, take me by surprise, blind fold me handcuff me,gag me, warn me not to scream, tell me I am to do as my told, without questioning, and I will be rewarded, tie me up and then hey let the games begin. Being taken in a rough but playful way has to be consensual, & both or more parties be willing participants. If your wife likes it then have a set of rules that must be adhered to.To be held down, called filthy names & even have more than one man take me in any way he wants is super cool.
Very well said. Your thoughts perfectly match that of an older lady that I see. She has pretty much said the exact same thing to me and like you've said when its consensual and both parties are very clear and on the same page with one another it is so engrossing and fun. We have had many memorable moments together.
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Old 01-03-2018, 12:12 AM   #1164
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Love it when a guy knows what he wants and that he is welcome to take it so he doesn't have to go slow or hold back
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Old 01-03-2018, 08:59 PM   #1165
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I think for me it comes down to confidence, whether he's being rough or just forceful, taking away my decisions. A man having enough confidence and knowing what he's doing is just a huge turn on.
Totally agree.
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Old 01-03-2018, 09:21 PM   #1166
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Reason I take issue with the title is because I'm a guy and like it forced. Love it even.

But the main reason is that it's only going to further put in the "It's only women" mindset. Yes it happens more with them but titles like this don't even consider the other side of the fence. Women like being forceful too.
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Old 01-03-2018, 09:27 PM   #1167
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Reason I take issue with the title is because I'm a guy and like it forced. Love it even.

But the main reason is that it's only going to further put in the "It's only women" mindset. Yes it happens more with them but titles like this don't even consider the other side of the fence. Women like being forceful too.
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Old 01-03-2018, 09:54 PM   #1168
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Start a thread.
Done.

Bet you thought I wouldn't do it.
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Old 01-03-2018, 10:10 PM   #1169
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Done.

Bet you thought I wouldn't do it.
Congrats.
And Iím not interested in men who like to be forced, being a woman and a sub.
Enjoy it.
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Old 01-03-2018, 10:42 PM   #1170
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Congrats.
And Iím not interested in men who like to be forced, being a woman and a sub.
Enjoy it.
Which applies just as much in my thread as it does this one. If you didn't want another thread on the matter then why make the suggestion of making one? I think you're simply making excuses and trolling just because you look down on the fact that I take issue with the title of the thread.
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Old 01-03-2018, 11:58 PM   #1171
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Which applies just as much in my thread as it does this one. If you didn't want another thread on the matter then why make the suggestion of making one? I think you're simply making excuses and trolling just because you look down on the fact that I take issue with the title of the thread.
I suggested you make a thread that suits your needs, since you had issues with the existing thread. You then assumed I cared whether you did or not. I donít.

Good luck with your thread. Traffic there looks super heavy.
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Old 01-04-2018, 01:38 AM   #1172
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I suggested you make a thread that suits your needs, since you had issues with the existing thread. You then assumed I cared whether you did or not. I donít.
No, I simply assumed you was making a snarky, sarcastic reply to my original post and decided to make the thread to see how you would react knowing you're using sarcasm expecting events to turn out exactly as they did. You acted according to my plan.

If my thread serves its purpose of being a topic for all genders about why people are into the "rough stuff" then that's simply a bonus. I am quite sure you didn't even read it and have no interest in it, even before the post I am quoting. The fact that you are female does not change that my topic still applies to you and all others females and other genders either, which you had earlier used as an excuse, hence my deduction and previous comment on the matter. Regardless you simply used an excuse without getting all the facts, or otherwise lied unless someone wants to point out how my thread does not apply to females that like it forced. Why not post in both threads since it also covers forced and rough, along with asking posters why? Unless of course you actually had zero intention of joining in such a thread from the start despite the fact that it applies to both our needs as well as that of others. I also note that you are likely biased due to being female. As am I due to being male of course. Nonetheless I see no reason all genders can't be included on both sides of the fence. I for one take into consideration females that like to force it, males that like being forced into things along with transvestites and all other forms of being born as we are that can not be controlled. Along with females that like being forced and males that like to force females as well. You only seem to care when you have a place for you yet others can not share the spotlight.

Even this post isn't for you alone. I simply wanted to emphasise "All genders matter". It's easy to say you don't care when you're "in the group". But try saying it when you're not. Would you prefer 100 snowflake threads or one that lets everyone discuss the topic?

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I didnít read your post beyond snarky.
The title of this post states Women...
Want another topic?
Start another thread.

You did? Good for you.
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Old 01-04-2018, 12:39 PM   #1174
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Even this post isn't for you alone. I simply wanted to emphasise "All genders matter". It's easy to say you don't care when you're "in the group". But try saying it when you're not. Would you prefer 100 snowflake threads or one that lets everyone discuss the topic?
Here is the original post that started this thread below:


I have often wondered how many women really like to be taken forcefully with the man in control.
My wife is not normally into S/M or anything like it, but sometimes I take her quite forcefully holding her hands over her head while fucking her and sucking and biting her tits and when she sits on top of me I grab her hips and ass very hard and force her down on my cock - and when we have done this she says afterwards that it was really good to be taken like that and to be without control.
Ihave had a similar experience with an earlier girlfriend, who normally liked it very gentle and soft, but sometimes got off really hard when I took command.
I would like to hear from both men and women your experiences and whether or not this would be an indication of her wanting more in that direction - and how I go about it - your help will be appreciated.
You can either send me a private message or give your opinion here - Thanks!

This is a guy asking for advice on how to take control of his woman and if his description above is an indication that she wants more in that direction...his words.

He mentions he would like to hear from both men and women. Some threads are created to be specific, gender, body type, and even fetish specific. In that way, many of us can not feel alone in our fetish or interest. I like Curvy women, someone started a thread about Curvy women....great I joined. It does not mean I don't like other kinds of women, that is just my preference sometimes.

In this thread it is great to hear about Women and Men on how they go about the forced sex scene so it is safe for everyone. I like to be forced by women as well and reading how the women and men do forced sex scenes is still good info for me and a turn on... And I am a Switch.

In reference to the original post, I thought about how I could help IF I was not into forcing a woman at all, just the reverse? Maybe talk about how you are able to let your gf know you want to be forced so that could be helpful here? Or talk about why you like to be forced and maybe that would apply to a woman or two on here, which may help the OP as well.

I think my advice is it is about communication and understanding. Each woman is different in how she displays her interest for being forced. I try to be observant and as time goes on I pick up on things that let me know she wants more of being controlled. Of course the easiest way is just a frank discussion about fantasies and interests but I know most of us are afraid to go there.

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Old 01-04-2018, 01:50 PM   #1175
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I had a relationship with a wonderful lady after my divorce, who in regular life was strong and independent. Gradually, a very submissive side came out, and brought out in me a very dominate side. She was highly orgasmic to start with, so that wasn't the point of submission -- it was the feeling itself of submitting to me sexually. It wasn't there all the time, but little things at the right moment, like holding her down on a table, would send that shiver up submission up her spine (but not limited to little things -- we did do longer submission sessions involving restraints and nipple clamps and other things and toys, use your imagination). We were very close and talked allot, so I really learned what she was feeling when she felt submissive, and I became intuitive in knowing when and how to set her off. It was great fun. I recommend it to all as part of your sexual diet.
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