I just posted to Neska94 under thread "It was just a fantasy. But why not make it a reality." She's in the same place you are, a newbie just playing around with the idea of getting involved.
It was a long post, and simply, I'm pooping out, but I really did try my best to make some helpful suggestions based on a long time in the scene and spending all my time with people involved in it. I offered some concrete ways to see what it was like, starting within the privacy of your own bedroom, to "sight seeing" without participation if you decide to give it a try. Not generalizations but usable ideas.
Take a peek at it. It applies whether you're leaning top or bottom. At worst, you might decide to exchange notes with Neska94, and give each other some moral support.
Hope this was useful, even if half assed on the suggestions part.