Originally Posted by LadyofFlame
Hi all, I haven't posted here before (in fact, I very rarely post anyway) but I was hoping that you might be able to give me some wisdom.
I have been involved in an increasingly D/S sexual relationship for about 9 months. The sex is incredible but I know he could push me further. I'm finding it hard to gauge how far he's willing to take this. I trust him without question and know that he would never do anything that put me in danger but I don't know how best to show him that I could take more.
This is all very new to me. I'm just feeling a little bit lost.
In regards to the highlighted part of your post. No, you don't know he won't go too far, cross lines and/or damage you physically and/or mentally to some degree. It's simply not possible for you to know such things about another person. No " Sir Domly Master Esquire, the knower of all " .........can be expected to inheritly just know what or what not to do within scene. It doesn't drive out like that in the reality of hands-on D/s kink sexuality.
You, or any other little letter sexual being, has a responsibility to weigh in and directly, or indirectly via a checklist.......express their desires and limitations to their big letter partner. Thus they'll have parameters to safely work within during scene. Then realign and revisit old topics as dynamics change and priorities shift over thine. ( trust me, they will change as two people grow together in a full time/face time relationship )
As with any relationship, communicate, communicate and communicate a bit more........if you expect the relationship to flourish healthily within safe parameters.