Why bondage feels good?

[ameliajax]

Originally Posted by KoPilot

Oh I'm sure I do... I've known to like uncomfortable things because it just lets me lose myself in SOME kind of physical sensation.

And on the other hand, I'm extremely sensitive to noise and avoid loud things like the plague. Otherwise, panic.

I've done massive research, as you could imagine, and the sensory system is completely fascinating. It would be even more so if it weren't affecting my child, but still. It is so specific to the individual. No child, or adult for that matter, is the same. And triggers can change. You can go from sensory avoiding to sensory seeking. This could be what is affecting your friend, Stella.

And certain influences can affect you in some situations, but not in others.

I know with my son, when he was 3, he couldn't stand certain sounds. The hair dryer, the vacuum cleaner, certain toys that had that same droning type of sound. I think it was a spin art maker. Even elevators humming. He could hear that shit from a mile away and it would freak him out. Then, when he was 4, he couldn't get enough of those types of sounds. He would beg me to dry his hair, for like, an hour. He would hold certain toys up to his ear to the point I thought he was going to damage his hearing. He would follow me around when I was vacuuming, and sometimes lay on the floor next to the vacuum canister.

It keeps you on your toes, let me tell you.

But I do have the annoying habit of, whenever someone has a concern or complaint about their child or someone else's child's behavior, blurting out, "I bet it's a sensory issue!"

And restraint in some ways, is used on kids who are sensory seeking. Weighted blankets or vests, wrist or ankle bands, there are types of "heavy work" or "heavy play" that helps sensory seeking kids feel comforted and calm.

Maybe that's why some people who like bondage or even blindfolds feel a sense of calm?

I don't think that's why I like it, though of course, I have sensory issues of my own. Don't we all!

Sorry for hijacking!

[KoPilot]

Originally Posted by ameliajax

I've done massive research, as you could imagine, and the sensory system is completely fascinating. It would be even more so if it weren't affecting my child, but still. It is so specific to the individual. No child, or adult for that matter, is the same. And triggers can change. You can go from sensory avoiding to sensory seeking. This could be what is affecting your friend, Stella.

And certain influences can affect you in some situations, but not in others.

I know with my son, when he was 3, he couldn't stand certain sounds. The hair dryer, the vacuum cleaner, certain toys that had that same droning type of sound. I think it was a spin art maker. Even elevators humming. He could hear that shit from a mile away and it would freak him out. Then, when he was 4, he couldn't get enough of those types of sounds. He would beg me to dry his hair, for like, an hour. He would hold certain toys up to his ear to the point I thought he was going to damage his hearing. He would follow me around when I was vacuuming, and sometimes lay on the floor next to the vacuum canister.

It keeps you on your toes, let me tell you.

But I do have the annoying habit of, whenever someone has a concern or complaint about their child or someone else's child's behavior, blurting out, "I bet it's a sensory issue!"

And restraint in some ways, is used on kids who are sensory seeking. Weighted blankets or vests, wrist or ankle bands, there are types of "heavy work" or "heavy play" that helps sensory seeking kids feel comforted and calm.

Maybe that's why some people who like bondage or even blindfolds feel a sense of calm?

I don't think that's why I like it, though of course, I have sensory issues of my own. Don't we all!

Sorry for hijacking!

Personally, I find this stuff really interesting, and didn't even know the legit name for this until you posted.

[elizabethb451]

I'm not sure what it is about bondage, but I know even when I was a little girl, I enjoyed being tied up. As a grown woman, I have enjoyed bondage as foreplay to sexual intercourse. Some of my best, go to, "get it done now", fantasies involve being tied up and fucked really, really, really hard.
Liz

[Epsfinest2214]

that sounds so overwhelmingly sexy Liz....I am sure I would thoroughly enjoy that!

[Sir_Winston54]

Originally Posted by KoPilot

.... even though about buying a weighted blanket for myself for my anxiety. (Needless to say, I found out how expensive they are and quickly dropped the idea lol.)....

KP, there are ways to "create" a weighted blanket for yourself that would drastically reduce the cost. Just a brief Bing search on "Make your own weighted blanket" brought up these two articles of instruction, plus many more.

"How to Make a Weighted Blanket" from eHow, and

"Make your own weighted blanket" from the SPD website.

While there would, of course, be some expense involved, it certainly shouldn't be nearly as much as purchasing one from a corporate entity.

Good luck!