Like Rainshine, I don't really have any advice but the pain in your post is palpable. I just wanted to wish you luck. That's definitely a tough situation. Hugs!
Mine is different, my wife is losing to cancer, it's been 4 months sense a kiss, chemo makes her mouth blister and sore. I do miss sex, making love. Even if we were not that good at it. I don't want to make this a sad post,,,, guys hug your lovers.
at most for a month, but when he's gone I miss his smell and his warmth. And I miss opening the door and welcoming him home at the end of horrible days.
I put on one of his shirts and splash his cologne on me and go to bed.
I've felt the anger even though it's not his fault. But I had to get over that because it's just not productive.
*hugs if you're missing someone*
Three years so far for me...had to take a job across the country and now we only see each other for a few weeks every six months or so.
I think some of the biggest problems are that we were only together for about six months before I had to leave and take this job so we were still learning a lot about each other and the distance has put a real strain on that. She's not very good at communicating online and most of our conversations are very bland which has started to upset me in this past year. Even with video skype, she isn't very inclined to talk much....I have to drag conversations along at times because she never takes the initative. I've even brought this up before but I don't know if she realizes how much it bothers me.
On the sex side of things, she was a virgin before me...and while our sex life is ok when in person, it's completely non-existent online. She was abused when she was younger and so she gets very uncomfortable around the topic of sexuality. I've been trying to help her out but I'm not a therapist and I can't get her to talk about it all that often. It's incredibly stressful to be isolated away from friends, family, and have to deal with an SO with issues. I've honestly thought about saying enough is enough several times now but I just don't know.
I agree that communication is a huge part of an LDR, and if you can't get that part to work there probably isn't much chance for the long run.
I just wanted to wish you luck. That's definitely a tough situation. Hugs!
