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Old 01-19-2013, 06:00 AM   #51
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(Giggles) "That's pretty much what the SO always says - 'No such thing as a BAD one....but the OUTSTANDING ones are just so damn good you'll never look seriously at another woman afterwards.....' (I just LOVE him....) What helps a LOT is that he constantly tells me how good I am - you fellas might try it sometimes - positive feedback is a powerful thing"
This is something I am guilty of. I give compliments when in a new relationship but after a few months I tend not to. I know at time I have given compliments so they continue with the BJ or other acts. Sometimes its work, sometimes not.

I do agree with you peaches, positive feedback is great, I know it would work on me.
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Old 01-19-2013, 06:03 AM   #52
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This thread just makes me curious what ages people. I mean, in high school/college, I feel like every one of my straight female friends had sucked a guy off. . . and it totally shocks me that some people have never received oral. I feel like it's one of the basics, and generally comes before sex for me! I don't know, when I'm hot for someone, I wanna taste them all over. Definitely love feeling those fists in my hair, hips thrusting toward my mouth, moans and groans and compliments on my hot mouth and tongue. . . what's not to love?

That said, the boyfriend I was with before my husband barely made a SOUND in bed. . . I mean, I definitely swallowed his cum, so I'm guessing it was alright. But to hear not a syllable or sound of appreciation? Kind of a mood-killer for me. The appreciation is the incentive!
I have always used sound as a barometer to see how well I am doing. If I hear moans and groans then I know I am doing the right thing to her. If she is just lying there, then I know I am doing something not quite right. Time to try something else.
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Old 01-19-2013, 09:58 AM   #53
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... But to hear not a syllable or sound of appreciation? Kind of a mood-killer for me. The appreciation is the incentive!
No problem....want moans, whimpers, shrieks, crying or barking like a dog?
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Old 01-19-2013, 09:59 AM   #54
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As much as I love my wife and as much as I enjoy our sexlife, she does not enjoy, and is not that good at, giving blow jobs. She will suck my cock when we 69, but has not sucked me to orgasm in many, many years. I have basically given up on ever getting a proper BJ.

I know I should calmly, diplomatically discuss my desire with her and tell her what I like etc, but she is not into it and it shows.

BTW, I perform oral on her every chance I can (about half the time we make love) and I always make her come.

Sigh.
I'm sure she's loving every second of that sweet resentment-oral you provide for her...
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Old 01-19-2013, 12:39 PM   #55
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:11 PM   #56
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No problem....want moans, whimpers, shrieks, crying or barking like a dog?
Moans are always good...
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Old 01-20-2013, 06:13 AM   #57
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Moans are always good...
Tricky thing here is trying to not sound like you are in a porn movie, but still giving her encouragement.
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Old 01-20-2013, 08:56 AM   #58
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I few quick points.

I think there is such a thing as a bad BJ. I have lost a full hard on when my partner grudgingly sucked my cock.

I accept my part of the blame. But it is difficult to find the right time and circumstance to give a grown woman a lesson in how you like to get sucked. One would have to choose words very carefully. I fear my partner would be thinking, "Oh, is that the way his old gf did it?" or "Is that how those porn whores do it?"

And do I stop on of our rare sex sessions to have this chat? When, otherwise, could I bring this up?

I'd like to tell her:

wetter, make it as sloppy as you like
suck harder, I need to feel it
lick it, look at me, make it visually interesting
a little noise, moaning, slurping, would be hot
you can jack it with your hand and fondle my balls too, but
it's not just a handjob
and stop acting like my cum is battery acid
you don't have to swallow, but don't ruin my moment of ecstacy by recoiling or wrenching my cock away from yourself

But the bottom line has been mentioned. It is best when the woman passionately wants to do it. And some women, for a variety of reasons, just don't.

Sigh.
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Old 01-20-2013, 03:49 PM   #59
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I'd like to tell her:

wetter, make it as sloppy as you like
suck harder, I need to feel it
lick it, look at me, make it visually interesting
a little noise, moaning, slurping, would be hot
you can jack it with your hand and fondle my balls too, but
it's not just a handjob
These are similar to the commands my husband gives me. . . I always just take it as that's what he wants to feel right now, not some criticism of what I'm currently doing (as he says I'm the best little cocksucker). I like the directives. But I'm sure that's due to my sub-y tendencies. Oh, except he never has to tell me to make noise.
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Old 01-20-2013, 07:02 PM   #60
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I few quick points.

I think there is such a thing as a bad BJ. I have lost a full hard on when my partner grudgingly sucked my cock.

I accept my part of the blame. But it is difficult to find the right time and circumstance to give a grown woman a lesson in how you like to get sucked. One would have to choose words very carefully. I fear my partner would be thinking, "Oh, is that the way his old gf did it?" or "Is that how those porn whores do it?"

And do I stop on of our rare sex sessions to have this chat? When, otherwise, could I bring this up?

I'd like to tell her:

wetter, make it as sloppy as you like
suck harder, I need to feel it
lick it, look at me, make it visually interesting
a little noise, moaning, slurping, would be hot
you can jack it with your hand and fondle my balls too, but
it's not just a handjob
and stop acting like my cum is battery acid
you don't have to swallow, but don't ruin my moment of ecstacy by recoiling or wrenching my cock away from yourself

But the bottom line has been mentioned. It is best when the woman passionately wants to do it. And some women, for a variety of reasons, just don't.

Sigh.
have you ever watched porn together and when there is a BJ scene say that is hot or that's what i like or want to try?
personally my husband will comment on a video so i know he hates alot of saliva and loves the moaning and humming. i try and do what he likes as well as what i like
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Old 01-20-2013, 09:17 PM   #61
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I LOVE giving bj's! There is no set of rules I follow and I guess I've just been fortunate to be with men that are very open to telling me what they like. One bf liked me to suck him hard and fast, another liked slow and a lot of tongue action, one liked me to just sit still and let him fuck my mouth. Like everyone is saying it is all about communicating. I can't imagine being with someone and not having bj's be a part of our regular sex life. For you single men out there, don't give up until you find someone that enjoys giving as much as you enjoy receiving. For you married men, trying asking what you can do to make her more comfortable, maybe start off wearing a condom and work from there...
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Old 01-20-2013, 09:26 PM   #62
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I am so terribly sorry to hear in this thread all the men who don't get proper blowjobs from their significant others. Any goddess whose worth her salt should enjoy making love to her man with her mouth enthusiastically. Of course, said goddess will have married a wonderful man who will reciprocate the favor and show his Venus his appreciation....

Mutual respect and communication is the key.



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Old 01-21-2013, 03:44 AM   #63
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I have to agree ... the lack of men getting good head is a shame, and a terrible waste. Especially since they all love giving oral themselves!
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