How to Show Appreciation

[morefreebound]

My fiance is very supportive of me, in all things, and I want to show him that I appreciate him, but I'm not sure how to do so. I tried asking the Almighty Google, but all of their ideas aren't really as tangible as I'd like. I already tell him that I love him, and thank him for the things he does for me, I just want to appreciate him more somehow.

Any ideas for me? I'd prefer non-sexual appreciation, but ideas on that front are also welcome.

[Christopher2012]

Tangible? I think you have the wrong idea of what tangible means. Tangible means that you can put your hands on it. (That's what she said.)

[blulilacgrl]

Originally Posted by morefreebound

My fiance is very supportive of me, in all things, and I want to show him that I appreciate him, but I'm not sure how to do so. I tried asking the Almighty Google, but all of their ideas aren't really as tangible as I'd like. I already tell him that I love him, and thank him for the things he does for me, I just want to appreciate him more somehow.

Any ideas for me? I'd prefer non-sexual appreciation, but ideas on that front are also welcome.

I know that my hubby most liked it when I sent him away for a guy's weekend. He and his friends took off for a weekend of God knows what. I didn't ask questions. I just made the arrangements, packed his bag and kissed him goodbye.

Honestly? (And forgive the generalization here guys) I have found most men to be rather simple. They are not necessarily looking for something big and complicated. Just give them time doing things they like to do. Either just the two of you or make arrangements for him to hang out with his friends. (I usually go the route of making arrangements for hubby to go with his friends since they don't get time to hang out as much as they used to)

So what does he like to do? Is there a sport that he enjoys? A hobby? Does he like beer? wine?

Give us a few of his interests and maybe we can come up with some ideas.

[alice27]

Not to be crude, but I think surprising him with a really deep and sultry blow job would do wonders, on top of the other ideas you might have in mind. Men like to feel desired and needed, and having their woman take control and spend time on making him feel incredible and having him finish, will make him feel sexy, needed, and appreciated. Men think differently, a woman may want a token or a weekend away- a gift involving thought, while touch is a huge motivator for men. You, just worshiping his cock and really teasing him, will make him lose his mind as well as re-establish his need to continue taking such good care of you, as he has been. sounds like you've really found someone amazing, you're a lucky girl. Just my two cents! Enjoy him!!

[fire_breeze]

Originally Posted by morefreebound

My fiance is very supportive of me, in all things, and I want to show him that I appreciate him, but I'm not sure how to do so. I tried asking the Almighty Google, but all of their ideas aren't really as tangible as I'd like. I already tell him that I love him, and thank him for the things he does for me, I just want to appreciate him more somehow.

Any ideas for me? I'd prefer non-sexual appreciation, but ideas on that front are also welcome.

How about reciprocating the support? Do little things for him without being asked? Fill up his car. Cook him his favourite meal for no reason. Rent a movie he always wanted to see but never got around to it. Send him off with the boys for the evening (and no texting).

Small gestures can say that you love him and show that you appreciate him.

[Paul_Chance]

Give him a small and simple token of your appreciation - something that he can keep forever to remember that moment. A piece of simple jewelry. A small figurine of something he enjoys. Doesn't have to be expensive. Should be permanent.

(The two greatest gifts I got were a slender gold chain from a lover, thanking me for something I had done - she literally took it off and gave it to me. And a gold pocket watch from my ex-wife when she "retired" me. Both are treasures - and neutral enough I don't have to explain them unless I want - but they hold great meaning to me.)

[OnceFuturePoly]

You may want to figure out which of the 5 love languages he speaks. Then you can zero in on his channel and really reach him.

[NippleMuncher]

Every person is different, so you're going to have to figure out what your man likes/wants/needs, and then find a way to provide that to him.

Things that come to mind are:
1 - Do something that I am normally responsible for, such as mow the lawn, take out the garbage, a particular house chore.
2 - A nice evening out, it doesn't necessarily have to be much, so long as it's doing something you both enjoy (dinner, movie, etc. )
3 - Rent him his favorite sports car for a weekend.
4 - Give him driver's training - meaning how to drive a race car, or even a performance car.
5 - Tickets to a favorite event - sports, music, theater, etc.
6 - A weekend get-away for the two of you, catering to the types of things he likes to do.
7 - "Boy" time - Time with friends, whether that be an evening or a weekend. This should be encouraged regularly, say a weekly card night or a monthly weekend camping trip, golf game, etc.
8 - Be adventurous in the bedroom. I'm not talking being freaky, just be willing to try new things, take control, initiate, something you don't normally do that he would like.

[MatthewVett]

Make sure he feels respected and admired. I think that's an often overlooked thing. But I absolutely love it when a girl makes me feel like that.

[oxphocker]

Yeah I'd have to agree with the feeling respected/admired part...

Something as simple as taking the time to really present a gesture of thanks. Getting a case of his favorite beer, frosting a pint glass in the freezer, pouring it super cold. Having that on hand the moment he walks in the door while you take his stuff and tell him to take a load off. A nice big kiss and perhaps doing it all while just wearing one of his dress shirts and nothing else. Would probably put a smile on anyone's face.

[Ozfetishguy]

Originally Posted by fire_breeze

How about reciprocating the support? Do little things for him without being asked? Fill up his car. Cook him his favourite meal for no reason. Rent a movie he always wanted to see but never got around to it. Send him off with the boys for the evening (and no texting).

Small gestures can say that you love him and show that you appreciate him.

I couldn't agree more with FB!

For me, actions speak louder than words. Small gestures like these show the depth of your love - you know and remember little things about him that many of his friends/relatives would probably think are unimportant details.

[MsQuote]

Always listen for those little clues when he talks. If he's like me, I never come straight out and say, "I'd like such-and-such for my birthday/Christmas ..." Instead, listen for things like, "Oh, I could go for a steak dinner (or whatever his craving is)," or "I've been meaning to read that book." Those are things you can act upon and surprise him with in a day or two.

The sexual stuff works, too. Take the initiative and go wild on him. Treat him to a tantric massage. Do something that's all about him. If he's as wonderful as you say, I'm sure he'll be incredibly responsive in his appreciation, which will amp things up for both of you, I'm sure.

[408w]

Some of the best presents in this world are free!!

;-)

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

You're intentions are so sweet....I'm sure he knows you appreciate him in everything you do already....

[NightL]

"Hey Hun, come attend to these corns on my feet." - then he will feel that he is wanted

[NightL]

bah - I have to come up with something nice...

just reach out from time to time and touch him - simple - he will see the look in your eyes and know.

[subwannabe]

Why don't you just tell him?

[thesweetsweetness]

Originally Posted by OnceFuturePoly

You may want to figure out which of the 5 love languages he speaks. Then you can zero in on his channel and really reach him.

This is what I first thought as well and was going to suggest.

[BeachMomma]

Tickets to his favorite sports team or concert.
An afternoon at a speedway driving a race car.
Send him out fishing for a day with his buddies.

What are his interests? What does he like to do with his friends? My husband doesn't get much time with his buddy, so I'd send them off to do something together.

If I wanted to do something with him, there's a mystery train near here that we've often talked about going on together. They serve a very nice dinner, and they stage a "murder" that the guests get to try to solve.

We try to go deep sea fishing once a year to spend time together - out of cell phone range so nobody can bother us.

He also loves cooking, so I'd try to send him to some special cooking class that I know he's interested in.

It just depends on your particular man's interests. Anything that lets him know you're thinking about him.

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

Nice suggestions Beach..... All very fun ideas...

[BeachMomma]

My "tangible" gifts for him aren't as much fun. I'm currently working on buying him a line of knives. (He's a professional cook.) Now, these aren't just ANY knives. If you've ever watched Chef Morimoto on the Food Network, they're HIS line of knives. I couldn't spell or pronounce the brand name if I tried.

The first knife in the series was a 9" chef's knife that cost close to $200. The second was a paring knife that was, if I remember correctly, close to $100. I haven't decided what the third knife will be; I'm waiting for hints.

I don't find knives to be all THAT exciting, but when he got them, he acted like they were the Hope Diamond.

[Primalex]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

The first knife in the series was a 9" chef's knife that cost close to $200. The second was a paring knife that was, if I remember correctly, close to $100. I haven't decided what the third knife will be; I'm waiting for hints.

As he is a professional cook, I would go for a fillet knife. Filleting begs for a good knife and it's likely he will actually use it.

After the third knife I would switch to other kitchen tools, like a good grater.

[NightL]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

I don't find knives to be all THAT exciting, but when he got them, he acted like they were the Hope Diamond.

I was given a 26cm Wusthof classic cook's knife - love it and love the person who gave it to me. Although the knife is big it is so well balanced I use it for most of my food prep. Had another wonderful knife given to me by a close friend. Since they weren't delivered via my back I guess they just like my cooking

Great idea BeachMomma - providing something of high quality to aid their passions.

[BeachMomma]

Originally Posted by Primalex

As he is a professional cook, I would go for a fillet knife. Filleting begs for a good knife and it's likely he will actually use it.

After the third knife I would switch to other kitchen tools, like a good grater.

I was thinking the fillet knife myself.

Originally Posted by NightL

I was given a 26cm Wusthof classic cook's knife - love it and love the person who gave it to me. Although the knife is big it is so well balanced I use it for most of my food prep. Had another wonderful knife given to me by a close friend. Since they weren't delivered via my back I guess they just like my cooking

Great idea BeachMomma - providing something of high quality to aid their passions.

He had a Shun that he used for work and loved it. He wanted a bigger chef's knife, so he picked out this particular Morimoto set.

He wouldn't let me touch his Shun, so he got me a knife in the same line as his last 2 knives. That's the knife we both use in our home kitchen. His work knives are just for work; they're sacred.

Our kitchen is already set up pretty much professionally. There are few items left that he wants or we need. He's been talking about an immersion blender lately, so that'll probably be in our near future too.

I have to admit; I was an avid home cook before we got married, but I didn't have professional equipment. It's a joy to cook with really good tools and utensils.

[Elaya]

For one guy... my ex...
I bought a very tiny notebook with blank, not line papers. I t might have been two inches by one, it was kind of artsy, simple and nice. Everytime he did something I appreciated, large, small, or miniscule, I would write in that little book.. thank you for.. I appreciate that you did.. I love you for...

My favourite is making a bit silly fuss over him slaying "the stink monster" (In my head that is.. I"m currently single) when I find the garbage has magically disapeared.

Anyway... after 3 months or so of keeping this notebook, when it was halfway filled, I gave him the book.

Honestly though.. I don't think he liked it as much as I'd hoped... still..

When I finally do find myself in another relationship... I've very excited about the appreciative parts..