Searching for something I can't explain. Anyone feel the same?

[photobuff56]

Nicely stated and I believe more people than you would think have your same concerns, most are confused or not willing to go with their instincts. I have think if your young just follow your heart, once you get married I think it makes it more difficult unless your wife is opened to new things.

[beachcomber83]

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[verycurious1960]

Hey there BC..
Just thought I would drop a line and let you know once again you are not alone. This is actually my first post on a site like this and it is liberating yet very scary. This part of me has always been there but was pushed down and kept quiet for many many years. But because of a dear, old, lover & friend it has been brought to the surface and I really don't know what to do with it. After many many years in a "very traditional" marriage I stand talking & looking at people I know wondering what they would think if they really knew the thoughts that I have. The book 50 Shades that has recently come out touches the surface of what I think most woman truly desire and want.
I have vowed that no matter what I will not settle for anything less than someone I am comfortable enough with to open up completely and honestly with. I want someone that I can have that ultimate intimacy with. Now the problem is first finding someone I feel that may be possible with and then finding a way to just open up and bring up the subject. Too bad the old flame isn't available.
Best of luck to you and remember...don't settle.

[beachcomber83]

Just thought i would bump my old post and see who might be lingering around here these days.

Hope everyone is well.

[TravelBiYou]

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[MadaamMeg]

Hi ya, Yea I understand what you are feeling. I think to some degree I will always feel that way with most people. But when I learned who I was (a life style Domme) I was able to start to find the kind of person I connect with and was able to start to bridge that gap. So my advice would be to do some soul searching and figure out what makes you happy. And then look for the ying to your yang. Good luck, and remember that they are out there.

[Spudicus]

It's ironic that the feelings I have these days are completely mirrored by what you wrote, Beach. I'm newly single after 16 years, and having to go through the ritual of opening myself up to someone new frankly scares the shit out of me. I was married young, and now I have to learn to date, something I was never good at. How do I reconcile how I feel with meeting someone who gets me? How do I open up to them and share how I truly feel, not just about love and sex, but about the world around me? It's challenging, I'm sure. It's also quite frightening. However, the alternative, to me, is even worse. I do not want to spend my life alone. I want to share it with someone, whomever and wherever they may be.

I have always been a people-watcher, and this lends itself to wondering what goes on in their mind. DO they think like me? Do they share the same fantasies and naughty thoughts that seem to continually run through my mind? Are they the lady in public and the insatiable one behind the bedroom door? It's fascinating....and daunting. Sigh - we're kinda 2 peas in a pod here, as I'm a little bit lost right now, and looking down different avenues to find my way again. I have faith in myself that I'll find it, but right now, the way is a bit murky....

I didn't intend to hijack the thread, but writing this down and posting it is a little cathartic for me.

[tiedtits4me]

Originally Posted by loralei3000

I think most of us feel this way especially after being on a site like this one. I feel that if I meet someone I can speak with about my kinks then they lose all interest in the rest of me. Like I become just a fetish and not a person. And the people I don't talk to about them don't get to see a complete picture of who I am.
I wish I had an answer to this problem, if you find one let me know.
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Oh boy do i feel that.

I actually find it harder to open up about my kinks now because i've been treated like that so many times.

I've always struggled opening up.

I fear that i'll never find that person that fits me all round, outside the bedroom and inside.

[beachcomber83]

Many thanks to all for the kind thoughts and comments.

[beachcomber83]

Just bumping my old thread and seeing who is out there.