face/head slamming, anyone into this?

[echoplex]

This is something I had never seen before until the other day.

I was watching this amateur video of this guy who was fiercely dominating and abusing his woman. Everything from spanking her, gagging her on cock, slapping her face, throwing her around, tying her up and pounding her from behind.

What I didn't see coming was when he grabbed a fistful of her hair from behind and started slamming her face down into the bed, yanking her back up and slamming, again and again. He did this a few times through the video. You could tell the girl was fine, just shaken a little, it wasn't really causing her much pain, but nonetheless looked brutal. I was instantly turned on. It was violent in nature, abusive and dark, intense and dominant, and for those reasons I couldn't have enjoyed it more. Especially knowing it was relatively harmless, but not completely. Being able to give that utterly degrading and intensely unpleasant experience to a female sub without the fatal consequence. It blew my mind, and I'd love to see more like it, but I've been unable to really find anything like it.

Anyone here into this, or have any experience with this kind of pseudo-violent rough play?

[2981notrohrm]

Nothing better than rough play - love hair-pulling, ass-slapping, full-on rough, hardcore, wild sex. I'd actually say it's somewhat more fun than regular BDSM - bring on the brutality in all forms. Doesn't matter who's in charge - skip the ceremonious horseshit and bring on the beatings.

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by 2981notrohrm

Nothing better than rough play - love hair-pulling, ass-slapping, full-on rough, hardcore, wild sex. I'd actually say it's somewhat more fun than regular BDSM - bring on the brutality in all forms. Doesn't matter who's in charge - skip the ceremonious horseshit and bring on the beatings.

I've never been to keen on what the difference is there, between proper BDSM and as you say, just hardcore wild sex.

[game_master24]

That is because the lines blur depending on the person.

For me its always been, rough sex is just sex done hard and fast. While bdsm sex occurs during a session if that makes sense...

In the example in your original post you described the dom as "spanking her, gagging her on [his] cock, slapping her face, throwing her around, tying her up and pounding her from behind." Using my definition that is a bdsm session.

If say the head slamming had happened when they were just having sex then well that is just rough sex. Keep in mind that is just mine own take on things.

[Sir_Winston54]

Oh, I slam my head into my desk quite frequently.

It has nothing to do with sex, though; it's usually in regard to witnessing auto-public-humiliation.

[2981notrohrm]

Originally Posted by echoplex

I've never been to keen on what the difference is there, between proper BDSM and as you say, just hardcore wild sex.

For me, BDSM is more formally, say, tying-up, flogging, torture, etc. Rough sex is more of the quick-and-dirty thing. The video you described sounds like a lot of both.

[Ahlam]

Head slamming? This sounds potentially bad for the brain.

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by Ahlam

Head slamming? This sounds potentially bad for the brain.

So too would be choking in that case, I would think. Just as anal is probably not good for the sphincter, deep throat not good for the pharynx, etc.

[Ahlam]

I've never experienced head slamming. I wonder at which point it ceases to be sport and induces something akin to shaken baby syndrome.

[KoPilot]

Originally Posted by echoplex

So too would be choking in that case, I would think. Just as anal is probably not good for the sphincter, deep throat not good for the pharynx, etc.

Yeah and PIV ain't good for the vagina, too?

Dude, it's called science. Brain damage is kind of in a completely different category than a little blood or roughed up mucous membranes. Not saying head injuries are off-limits, but there's no need to act like an ignoramus about it.

[redkitten86]

although I don't think I'd be into face slamming, it's rather different than shaking baby syndrome. In one case the recipient doesn't have a choice, in the other it should be agreed upon before hand. the receiver has to be interested, or at least willing.

since I've never experienced this, what is the draw? just curious as to the appeal from the dominants perspective...

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by KoPilot

Yeah and PIV ain't good for the vagina, too?

Dude, it's called science. Brain damage is kind of in a completely different category than a little blood or roughed up mucous membranes. Not saying head injuries are off-limits, but there's no need to act like an ignoramus about it.

Oh please, there are plenty of activities out there that could (key word) be considered just as "dangerous" if we're going to talk about the possibility of brain damage. Everything from contact sports to riding roller-coasters. Can't say I've ever heard of someone sustaining brain damage from headbanging at a rock concert.

[Netzach]

You know how, like, wrestling matches are often decided in advance?

You know how, like in a PORN VID people might make things look like something's happening that isnt?

Yeah. That.

If you want to make this a model for your sex life, fine. I just think I'd pick my risk-taking activities with someone who isn't a callous douche about the actual risk involved and who has a plan for minimizing it, not my concerns. Or someone who says "you're right, if we do this every night for a month, you may get fighter's dementia" instead of refusing to admit reality.

And I say this as someone who does faceslapping and risk-intensive ball busting. It's a collaboration. It's also made to look much worse in porn than it is in real life. Multiple takes, you know, can't go all out every time. Acting!

And Amateur is a genre.

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by Netzach

You know how, like, wrestling matches are often decided in advance?

You know how, like in a PORN VID people might make things look like something's happening that isnt?

Yeah. That.

If you want to make this a model for your sex life, fine. I just think I'd pick my risk-taking activities with someone who isn't a callous douche about the actual risk involved and who has a plan for minimizing it, not my concerns. Or someone who says "you're right, if we do this every night for a month, you may get fighter's dementia" instead of refusing to admit reality.

And I say this as someone who does faceslapping and risk-intensive ball busting. It's a collaboration. It's also made to look much worse in porn than it is in real life. Multiple takes, you know, can't go all out every time. Acting!

And Amateur is a genre.

Holy crap! How did I go from curious inquiry to "callous douche"? There is way too much inferring going on here. So back the fuck off.

When did I imply such an activity was impulsive and not planned? When did I imply there was no safety precaution taken? I know there is reason to approach with caution, I'm not stupid. Also, I KNOW that amateur is a genre, this was an amateur, as in HOME MADE film.

[echoplex]

Demonstration from said video.

[Netzach]

Oh. It looks more like "smell the mattress!" Whatever floats your boat.

[BiBunny]

Originally Posted by Netzach

Oh. It looks more like "smell the mattress!" Whatever floats your boat.

Haha, OMG, that was almost my exact reaction.

Damn, I thought it'd be more hardcore than that. Yeah, nothing to get all worked up about, IMO.

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by BiBunny

Haha, OMG, that was almost my exact reaction.

Damn, I thought it'd be more hardcore than that. Yeah, nothing to get all worked up about, IMO.

Aww... not hardcore enough for you guys? Tough crowd. If he had bloodied her nose, you'd all be calling me a monster. Anything short of that and you play it down! C'mon, the cam clearly shows the impact and in my defense, the GIF slows the video down a lot.

[123Josh]

Originally Posted by echoplex

Demonstration from said video.

Awesome!

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by 123Josh

Awesome!

Thank you. I knew I wasn't alone on this.

[Netzach]

Originally Posted by echoplex

Aww... not hardcore enough for you guys? Tough crowd. If he had bloodied her nose, you'd all be calling me a monster. Anything short of that and you play it down! C'mon, the cam clearly shows the impact and in my defense, the GIF slows the video down a lot.

It seems frustrating/humiliating in a hot way, potentially. I kind of file it under "humiliating" more than "violent", that's all.

[richard_daily]

Originally Posted by Netzach

It seems frustrating/humiliating in a hot way, potentially. I kind of file it under "humiliating" more than "violent", that's all.

Seemed like foreplay to me.

[echoplex]

Originally Posted by Netzach

It seems frustrating/humiliating in a hot way, potentially. I kind of file it under "humiliating" more than "violent", that's all.

That's what I was trying to get at in the OP. It emulates a violent act, but in this application it's as you say, done to be humiliating or unpleasant at the worst.

[Sir_Winston54]

I'm not entirely sure why, but my first association on seeing the extracted clip was of a child trying to punish/train a puppy who has peed/pooped in the house by repeatedly shoving the pup's nose into the mess...

ETA: I dunno. I just don't much relate to the whole humiliation thing, anyway, either private or public. Maybe that's why it doesn't relate for me.

[ownedsubgal]

um, yeah. the kind of thing happening in the video is not at ALL what i imagined based on the OP. when i think of "face slamming," i naturally thing being slammed into a hard surface, serious impact. not being forced to kiss a mattress.