The Cheating Thread

[Killjoy24]

Originally Posted by desiresmore

I've never cheated so far, been together for 14 years. Just awakening to realize that I'm in a passionless marriage with no excitement and the wife doesn't want to share her pleasure with me. So I'm actually considering it. If I could find the right woman or couple to take me in, I'd probably do it. But I'm looking for something ongoing and long term, not just a one time thing.

So far, the internet has not been a successful way to meet people for this. I am a busy professional so I don't have a lot of time for socializing and the clubs/bars. I hope to one day experience all the things that I long for while I'm still young and can enjoy it.

You may want to find out if she is cheating on you?
Just some strong advise!

[desiresmore]

Thanks Killjoy24, but I am 100% positive she is not. She is the most non-sexual woman I've ever met (this was not the indicidation I got before we got married). I don't really want to go around sleeping with everyone or cheating up a storm, I just want one couple or one woman to have an ongoing fwb thing with. Don't know if I'll ever find what I'm looking for, but I'm positive that she is not cheating. There are a number of reasons for that, but too personal to divulge here.

[Killjoy24]

Originally Posted by desiresmore

Thanks Killjoy24, but I am 100% positive she is not. She is the most non-sexual woman I've ever met (this was not the indicidation I got before we got married). I don't really want to go around sleeping with everyone or cheating up a storm, I just want one couple or one woman to have an ongoing fwb thing with. Don't know if I'll ever find what I'm looking for, but I'm positive that she is not cheating. There are a number of reasons for that, but too person to divulge here.

Well I know a couple who may be interested but you may want to get our backgroud first by checking the link in my signature.

[desiresmore]

Originally Posted by Killjoy24

Well I know a couple who may be interested but you may want to get our backgroud first by checking the link in my signature.

I've read your story. No judgement here, I thought it was beautiful. And I'd be very grateful for any help you could give getting me connected. If anyone wants to know the details of my story I can PM them...

[The_shadow_rising]

Now this is my kind of chaos.

As an author of cheating stories on Lit (women cheating), reading this discussion has been...inspiring ...this discussion really needs to continue...

[shadowtracey]

I'm still here and still keen to post, but unsure what people want to know about lol, or what to say. I'm happy sharing at least some of my secret life online, mostly because no-one knows who I am and I do get a buzz out of sharing my antics lol

I cheat maybe once a week on average, mostly when my boyfriend / fiancee is working nights which tends to be over the weekend

Sometimes it's risky, sometimes it's far from it. The risky sex can give some awesome orgasms But just fucking my lover at his place is thrilling

[spankmegirl23]

Ive never type this so a bit nerves saying i have cheated i was cheated on alot in the past i felt the hurt but one boyfriend we had the sex part down good i mean we was good together but we had fights for stuid reason after we ended we didnt speak for along while when we did he was with someone we started friends then our texting grow to what fun we had when we was nothing i felt open with him bout sex with him i didnt hide my body he loved it he knewl what i liked knew how to make me moan soon our just texting went to meeting and acting was awhile ago its been over a year sinces i just talked to him and i miss it ive been with my bf 3 years i had other son before we meet then we had a son so we have a 4 and 2 and he is a dad to my first we had our promblems we do at times im lucky i get it once a month i cant stand it and it drives me crazy my ex comes to my mind like i said i have not talked to him but my ex was always wanting sex we did it 5days out of the week and that was good i cum 3 times at most with him so it was good Ive had no one to talk to about it who who would??

[martinchevalier]

Originally Posted by shadowtracey

I'm still here and still keen to post, but unsure what people want to know about lol, or what to say. I'm happy sharing at least some of my secret life online, mostly because no-one knows who I am and I do get a buzz out of sharing my antics lol

I cheat maybe once a week on average, mostly when my boyfriend / fiancee is working nights which tends to be over the weekend

Sometimes it's risky, sometimes it's far from it. The risky sex can give some awesome orgasms But just fucking my lover at his place is thrilling

I would love to hear more of your stories about your relationship with your lover. More details about how your lover draws out your inner-slut in a way your boyfriend cannot. How you use your relationship with your boyfriend to make the sex with your lover that much hotter.

I wish you would swing by my place on your next jog, or better yet, we could meet at the gym.

[smilingrelaxed]

Originally Posted by spankmegirl23

Ive never type this so a bit nerves saying i have cheated i was cheated on alot in the past i felt the hurt but one boyfriend we had the sex part down good i mean we was good together but we had fights for stuid reason after we ended we didnt speak for along while when we did he was with someone we started friends then our texting grow to what fun we had when we was nothing i felt open with him bout sex with him i didnt hide my body he loved it he knewl what i liked knew how to make me moan soon our just texting went to meeting and acting was awhile ago its been over a year sinces i just talked to him and i miss it ive been with my bf 3 years i had other son before we meet then we had a son so we have a 4 and 2 and he is a dad to my first we had our promblems we do at times im lucky i get it once a month i cant stand it and it drives me crazy my ex comes to my mind like i said i have not talked to him but my ex was always wanting sex we did it 5days out of the week and that was good i cum 3 times at most with him so it was good Ive had no one to talk to about it who who would??

Thanks for sharing .... sounds like your ex would not be a problem if your bfd would do more for you ....

[Emerson40]

Originally Posted by spankmegirl23

Ive never type this so a bit nerves saying i have cheated i was cheated on alot in the past i felt the hurt but one boyfriend we had the sex part down good i mean we was good together but we had fights for stuid reason after we ended we didnt speak for along while when we did he was with someone we started friends then our texting grow to what fun we had when we was nothing i felt open with him bout sex with him i didnt hide my body he loved it he knewl what i liked knew how to make me moan soon our just texting went to meeting and acting was awhile ago its been over a year sinces i just talked to him and i miss it ive been with my bf 3 years i had other son before we meet then we had a son so we have a 4 and 2 and he is a dad to my first we had our promblems we do at times im lucky i get it once a month i cant stand it and it drives me crazy my ex comes to my mind like i said i have not talked to him but my ex was always wanting sex we did it 5days out of the week and that was good i cum 3 times at most with him so it was good Ive had no one to talk to about it who who would??

I got about half way through his and then had to stop.
Try hitting the enter key a few times, and the occasional comma or period would do your story no harm.

Punctuation is your friend

[Ashleigh_XOXO]

Originally Posted by Emerson40

I got about half way through his and then had to stop.
Try hitting the enter key a few times, and the occasional comma or period would do your story no harm.

Punctuation is your friend

You made it further than I did! I'm a masochist, but the English teacher part of me gave up on the second line.

[The_shadow_rising]

For my part, I write stories of women cheating, and that's what I'm interested in...

So the more tales of adventures the more inspiring as far as I'm concerned.

[spankmegirl23]

Originally Posted by Emerson40

I got about half way through his and then had to stop.
Try hitting the enter key a few times, and the occasional comma or period would do your story no harm.

Punctuation is your friend

Im Sorry i was nerves lol thank u for the tip

[spankmegirl23]

Originally Posted by smilingrelaxed

Thanks for sharing .... sounds like your ex would not be a problem if your bfd would do more for you ....

Thats all i felt i felt so wrong doing it but im 22 i want sex
how is that so wrong? it took me awhile to not text him
i seen him and i would try my hardest not to look into his eyes he had eyes that you look
you knewl he wanted you,We both had our promblems and lead on each other

[LunaSolara]

Nope, never cheated. Not even "just-the-internet-chat-thing cheat." I'm a one-guy kind of girl and if I tell you that it's just you and me, you can count on the fact that I'm telling you the truth.

Now, if it's just a casual relationship and there is a spoken mutual understanding that we'll be seeing other people--that's a another story. But, of course, I wouldn't consider that cheating since it's agreed upon and understood from the getgo.

I guess my philosophy is why pretend that I'm in a monogamous relationship if that's not the case? I wouldn't want someone to deceive me and I won't do it to someone else.

No judgment to anyone who has cheated; every person and every situation is different. We all walk in different shoes and have different life experiences and circumstances.

It's actually really interesting reading the varied perspectives.

[Funkytown]

I have cheated on my wife 2 times. The first time we were dating early in the relationship and she went out of town, some booze and being around the wrong women and I woke up in the morning next to a strange girl.
The 2nd time my wife refused to do certain things that I wanted, and when I am denied the things I want or need I will find a way to get them. I met a couple that wanted the same things I did and we got a hotel room out pf town and we made a weekend out of it. My wife never found out about either time but now she is interested in some of the things that I went looking for the 2nd time. And we are thinking of setting up a weekend and exploring some things.

[RuReal]

Cheated on a girlfriend and really not proud that I did it back then. The reasons were stupid, but it did happen.

I am married now and really if I did get that kind of itch I would talk to the wife about it and I am almost 100% sure I could act on so said impulse. I think the aspect of lying to your partner is the disturbing bit about cheating, but I think that being able to have sex with someone outside of a marriage should really not be the end of the world. A good working relationship should be able to tolerate something like that. Sex can just be sex.

[imready2]

Very interesting thoughts and commments. Enjoy the stories on how it happens, when it does!

[Porkwarrior]

Originally Posted by Lokishoney

I have always had serious issues with monogamy. To me, as a woman, it reeks of need for ownership due to insecurity. Fucking isn't loving. If I love you, I'll stay with you, even if he is better in bed than you are. Of course, I understand it goes both ways. No problem.

As a younger woman, I always thought there was something wrong with me because I would get bored with a new guy after about three months and I never found that *magical* bond that made every other attractive man fall off the planet.

But, I didn't like the way the dishonesty felt, so I finally decided, wth, from now on I'm straight up about it - "I really like where this is going, but with me, fidelity is alot like bigfoot. Other people will tell you about it, but there's a real good chance you're never gonna see it."

If he could handle it - awesome. If not, I understood and respected his decision. "Sorry, my body. I do what I want with it. Too bad it's not going to work out between us."

Fortunately, I have found a few men that could handle it. Happily.

Very nicely put, and an excellent honest self-examination of your own sexuality!
That is EXACTLY the same philosophy I approached myself & the opposite sex with for most of my life. From 15 until I was almost Thirty I didn't have a single monogamous relationship, because I cheated on my first serious girlfriend and knew I would do it again. Instead I sought out women with exactly that viewpoint (and even converted a few along the way! ). Besides, sex with a confident, independent, open woman is just awe inspiring.

Well I did fall in love with a confident, independent, open woman, all other women fell away for me, and when she asked what I fantasized about when I jerked off I had to be honest and tell her the truth. "You". And that was the truth, for a few years. Until the sex died on one side of the relationship, the arguments & blaming started, until I am living in an almost platonic arrangement where once a month I might be privy to an hour of unimaginative "obligation sex". Yaaaaay for marriage (said no cheerleader...ever).

So I cheated, three times so far in spur of the moment flings that were mostly unsatisfying. Once I "blackmailed" a co-ed for a blowjob to drive her back to her dorm late at night, another was going down on my wife's friend after her marriage fell apart and she was separated, and a third was perusing the escort ads in the back of a local paper and spending an afternoon with a young hooker in her apartment.
And now I am looking for my first full blown affair, looking to savour that taste of physical intimacy that I used to have but lost many moons ago.

[imready2]

Originally Posted by Porkwarrior

Very nicely put, and an excellent honest self-examination of your own sexuality!
That is EXACTLY the same philosophy I approached myself & the opposite sex with for most of my life. From 15 until I was almost Thirty I didn't have a single monogamous relationship, because I cheated on my first serious girlfriend and knew I would do it again. Instead I sought out women with exactly that viewpoint (and even converted a few along the way! ). Besides, sex with a confident, independent, open woman is just awe inspiring.

Well I did fall in love with a confident, independent, open woman, all other women fell away for me, and when she asked what I fantasized about when I jerked off I had to be honest and tell her the truth. "You". And that was the truth, for a few years. Until the sex died on one side of the relationship, the arguments & blaming started, until I am living in an almost platonic arrangement where once a month I might be privy to an hour of unimaginative "obligation sex". Yaaaaay for marriage (said no cheerleader...ever).

So I cheated, three times so far in spur of the moment flings that were mostly unsatisfying. Once I "blackmailed" a co-ed for a blowjob to drive her back to her dorm late at night, another was going down on my wife's friend after her marriage fell apart and she was separated, and a third was perusing the escort ads in the back of a local paper and spending an afternoon with a young hooker in her apartment.
And now I am looking for my first full blown affair, looking to savour that taste of physical intimacy that I used to have but lost many moons ago.

Interesting variety of situations. The second one I find most intriguing...

[Porkwarrior]

Originally Posted by imready2

Interesting variety of situations. The second one I find most intriguing...

Yes in hindsight that probably deserved to be in a "Married" th'd instead of a "cheating" th'd.
For me I do not get a thrill cheating on my wife, quite the opposite it is something that is my baggage and I try my best to keep as distant as possible from it. Don't mention her, try not to think about her, and hopefully not impact her at all.

Fulfilling something that is, and always will be, a big part of me. Best friends & room mates are fine. But connecting to somebody on a physically intimate level only is something that every healthy person should crave.

And blowjobs, hard sweaty fucking & feeling somebody's thighs clamp down on your head after your tongue gave them their third orgasm of the night is pretty damn awesome too.!

[jhuson]

I recently did with a co-worker while on a trip. It was inevitable.

It was crazed and wild (we'd been flirting and texting for a year) but unfortunatealy we were too drunk and much of it is still a blur.

I'm a bit conflicted about it but still felt like I had to get it out of my system as my love life at home has never really been what I wanted from day one.

[xxxPleasures]

I've done it twice. Although I didn't go all the way. This was within the first few months of our relationship and we've now been dating each other for two years and known each other for three. He still doesn't know.

The first time I cheated was because my boyfriend had been horrible to me and made me cry at a party. So I went around the corner and a guy kissed me which led to a hand job. All was done out of sadness and anger. I felt incredibly guilty immediately afterwards. For days, I cried over what I'd done without him knowing. I knew if he'd found out, he would DEFINITELY break up with me as he is overly jealous and was/is so in love with me. I felt almost sick being around him with this heavy feeling I was carrying around while he treated me like a princess. It was one of the worst experiences in my life, knowing I'd betrayed my baby I'm such a way over something so stupid.

The second incident was with my manager at the time. I went out for work drinks with a group of people from work including both managers. Too many rounds were bought and I was soon way too drunk while one of the managers came up to me and kissed me on the dance floor. A while after he tried to do it again and I would not let him. He even tried to get me to go back to his house but I declined and told him how much I loved my boyfriend. My boyfriend never found out I was out that night. It was the only time I'd lied to him about being out and instead said I'd been at a friends house. The same feeling of guilt flooded over me. I cannot even explain how full on, horrible and long lasting this feeling was. I never went back to my job after that and had to lie to my boyfriend about the reason why as well.

I have learnt from my experiences of cheating. I've not only learnt to never do it again, but also a lot about my self. Neither experience was pleasurable or worth it and in the end I only hurt myself and jeapordised a beautiful romance. I do wish I had never cheated although I'll admit that I am quite naive so maybe I needed to experience the feeling of overbearing guilt to never do it again and lucky it happened earlier on it our relationship. I am now the best I can possibly be to my boyfriend and never ever take him for granted. I truly hope that we get married one day as I love him with all my heart and will leave my silly mistakes in the past!

[imready2]

Still like the comments and input!

[Porkwarrior]

Originally Posted by Porkwarrior

And blowjobs, hard sweaty fucking & feeling somebody's thighs clamp down on your head after your tongue gave them their third orgasm of the night is pretty damn awesome too.!

Haa haa, it was just as fun as I remember. All of it.