Originally Posted by sexy_n_hot
How can I ask my man to play with me? asking him sounds very risky if he doesn't like it at all.
Rent a video. Watch it together. If he likes it (and you should be able to tell) then talk about trying it. Be careful with restraint, lots of caution about how, how tight, never left alone where you could find yourself in trouble without any help, safe word, person you can trust, etc. Do some reading and understand the risks so you can tell us how wonderful it was.