Breast play and nipple clamps

[blackbisket]

Hey all, my question is. How should I bring up the idea of nipple clamp use to my gf, I have a pair but just dont know how to go about putting the idea out there in a way that wont come a cross pourly and freak her out.

Any help with this would be much welcome

[eastern sun]

Originally Posted by blackbisket

Hey all, my question is. How should I bring up the idea of nipple clamp use to my gf, I have a pair but just dont know how to go about putting the idea out there in a way that wont come a cross pourly and freak her out.

Any help with this would be much welcome

Demonstrate them on yourself. See if she wants to try.

[blackbisket]

Originally Posted by eastern sun

Demonstrate them on yourself. See if she wants to try.

IDK if that was a real response or a joke. Anyway my Nipples are to small for the clamps I own and I dont have breasts to play with, lol.

[eastern sun]

Originally Posted by blackbisket

IDK if that was a real response or a joke. Anyway my Nipples are to small for the clamps I own and I dont have breasts to play with, lol.

It was a real response. I know men who love nipple clamps. Have you tried them? Do you know what they'll feel like when she uses them?

[thelovingsadist]

As a general rule of thumb, if its possible (and at times it isn't), I prefer to test new toys and techniques on myself before testing them on a sub.

For starters, the solo practice helps me learn how to actually properly use it. Second, knowing exactly how things feel allows me to have a damn good guess at how it will feel for the sub, which gives me the capacity to have even more control over them.

I don't always LIKE the things I do to myself following this rule, but some of the things I have learned have been invaluable. And it usually inspires a few good ideas, too.

So if you feel up to it, go ahead and follow eastern suns advice. Trust me, there are MUCH worse things then nipple clamps to try on yourself.

[blackbisket]

Well taken point then, ive done this before with a past fling so I know how it feels. I just really dont know how to bring them into plat as my gf now is a little shy.

[thelovingsadist]

The best way to bring things into a relationship is to just talk about it. And I don't mean be all "I wanna clamp yer nipples, so raise yer shirt up!" Be gentle, even more so since she's shy. Talk about your interest in it. Ask her if she's thought about it, or similar things.

Communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship, so communicate.

[xelliebabex]

From a subs point of view introducing anything new can be a bit scary but I find the question, "Do you trust me?, settles a lot of my nerves, because subs as a rule know that their Dom's will not put them in true danger or harm them beyond what they can physically take.

If I could suggest, there are a lot of different sorts of nipple clamps out there and some are much harsher than others, perhaps starting with the tweezer type which can start as very mild and build up from there when she is comfortable with the level of discomfort/pain. Using alligator clips without rubber edges for a first time experience can scare a girl from trying a second time.

Just some thoughts...

Plus I agree whole heartedly with 'The Loving Sadist' communication is key to any good relationship bdsm or not.

[Red Sonja]

The only advice I can think to add to the wonderful advice already provided is... how does she react when you just twist her nipples? If it's a favorable response, then that might be your opportunity to begin the conversation, "Hey, I notice you seem to like this, I have an idea..." Mind you, I'm not suggesting you do it right at that moment, just that is your segue.

Just a thought...

[blackbisket]

Thanks for all the great advice, it will help me in working on what to say and do. She dose kinda like me playing with her nipples come to think of it, so maybe that a good way to find out her thoughts.

Thanks Sonja

[LuvBelle7]

Originally Posted by blackbisket

Thanks for all the great advice, it will help me in working on what to say and do. She dose kinda like me playing with her nipples come to think of it, so maybe that a good way to find out her thoughts.

Thanks Sonja

Have always loved nipples being sucked...given gift of nipples rings witb small suctioner. Loved feeling of suction on nipples. Later gift of small vibrating clamps got me hooked....within same week I bought myself several styles of nipple clamps. Instant turn on.

[knot_sweet]

If your current girlfriend is mostly vanilla, or someone you haven't tried to talk to about nipple clamps and such yet, may I suggest something a little more inocuous like paper clips, clothes pegs or art clips first?

Something you can find casually around the house may be less intimidating to begin with than something purpose bought.

[KWAL]

Well most my advice was covered by kont sweet red sonja and the loving sadist. Man I can stress open honest communication cuz that's what builds trust.

Did ya try hanging then from yoour headboard and bringing it up in a relaxed and fun maner such as I saw these and thoought of your awsome breast or maybe even over some drinks in a playfull fun mood or something like that?

[Eliphaz]

most male nipples are perfectly capable of being clamped.

[HunterR87]

I have a question that goes along with this I need suggestions on nipple clamps for a sub that has larger then normal breasts. thank you.

[KWAL]

HunterR87. Get bigger clamps lol. More info on what your trying to do expirance levels etc would be of help. Sometimes to start they are very sensitive and if you dont have a tention device on it maybe clamp more twords the back of nipple or even behind it. Hope that helps.

[HunterR87]

KWAL. Bigger clamps might work but I have found through my experiences with a different submissive that the tweezer style clamps seem to work well and give a bit more control over the pressure on the nipple I find. I may have to try other styles with this one though. For more information anyone is welcome to pm me I would really like others input.

[Kilveti]

Originally Posted by eastern sun

It was a real response. I know men who love nipple clamps. Have you tried them? Do you know what they'll feel like when she uses them?

I've had my nipples clamped, it's odd at first but you learn to enjoy it. BTM I'm a man

[bhndblueyes88]

1) "POORLY". sorry, I'm drunk and it was bothering me

2) Does she like her nipples played with in a more aggressive manner? If she does, just ask her if she'd like to try something stronger like clamps. That's all the input I needed. If you haven't tried, try manual stimulation first. If she just plain doesn't like it, I suggest you respect that OR find really really mild clips that are more for your aesthetic pleasure and explain to her that they won't hurt/"do the thing she doesn't like", but would turn you on at little to no cost to her. She may go for it just for that reason.

Just my thoughts

[Primalex]

Originally Posted by bhndblueyes88

2) Does she like her nipples played with in a more aggressive manner? If she does, just ask her if she'd like to try something stronger like clamps. That's all the input I needed.

This.

I was desperately checking the thread for a clue from the op why _she_ would want nipple clamps in the first place.

[Primalex]

Originally Posted by eastern sun

Demonstrate them on yourself. See if she wants to try.

Somehow I picture Dr. Frank N. Furter now, approaching Janet and asking her if she likes the nipple clamps on him.


I...don't think this is a good idea.