My first new thread <am I Gay?>

[help_me_Rhonda]

When I joined yesterday, I wanted to meet guys, chat a little (or a lot) and maybe see what happens from there.

I am very new to all this stuff (posting, porno, etc.)- I mean not a virgin, and I've seen some porn in the past, but it wasn't for me. I was brought up strict, and recently moved out on my own.

I've been with two guys, and fucked one a few times, the other, just making out and I gave him head.

So, anyway, I come here, see the photos and all, and OMG- I am so turned on by the girls! I mean, the naked guys too, but not like the girls.

And chatting to a girl has been one of the hottest things I've ever done- and not so hot when chatting to guys.

I played around with a girlfriend when I was a teenager, but it didn't feel anywhere near as hot as this does (I never gave her head or anything, just felt her up)

Am I gay?

[albertaboy]

Who knows?

You may just be horny.

[Somehowyou]

I think you need to pursue this. I love women and years ago I started being attracted to shemales. I went to a gay bar just to see what I would do. If I was aroused I would have followed the urge but I ended up hitting on one of the only girls in the place. But now I am attracted to the cock-on-cock thread...so I may have to explore further. I suggest you do the same. Hit me up if you want to chat.

[help_me_Rhonda]

So what's the best way to meet girls here?

[EMPRESSLAINIE]

Rhonda - like the beach boys reference.Feel free to PM me and talk about anything. I consider myself lesbian. Nothing I like better than a hair pie.
But I also have slight leanings toward bi..Vin Diesel & Brad Pitt but he looked like a beautiful woman in middle school & in Troy as Achilles.

[Stella_Omega]

Are you gay?

Probably not. Most of us are bisexual, actually-- the number of people who remain attracted to one sex only all of their lives is quite small

There are two parts to your puzzle; one is sexual attraction, and the other is romantic attraction. I'd suggest that you take it as it comes. Be open to a relationship with a woman, but don't cut yourself off from the possibility of a relationship with a dude. Or even-- both.

And if you do find yourself in bed with a woman, don't try to pretend you already know how to make love to her, don't worry if sex isn't perfect that first time, or even the first five times. Let it be an exploration, say; "I want to try this thing, see if it works like the stories claim it does" and if it doesn't-- don't sweat it.

[help_me_Rhonda]

Originally Posted by Stella_Omega

Are you gay?

Probably not. Most of us are bisexual, actually-- the number of people who remain attracted to one sex only all of their lives is quite small

There are two parts to your puzzle; one is sexual attraction, and the other is romantic attraction. I'd suggest that you take it as it comes. Be open to a relationship with a woman, but don't cut yourself off from the possibility of a relationship with a dude. Or even-- both.

And if you do find yourself in bed with a woman, don't try to pretend you already know how to make love to her, don't worry if sex isn't perfect that first time, or even the first five times. Let it be an exploration, say; "I want to try this thing, see if it works like the stories claim it does" and if it doesn't-- don't sweat it.

Thank you Stella

[Etoile]

Originally Posted by help_me_Rhonda

So what's the best way to meet girls here?

Here? Over in the Personals forums! GLBT Personals if you specifically want that.

[EMPRESSLAINIE]

I was reading a report by Dr. Bushong where he discusses Brain Sex (not Brain Gender). He says that sexual preference is a male only thing, that all women form attachments to other women even if it isn't overtly sexual, so basically all women are bi: men are straight or gay.

[Etoile]

Originally Posted by EMPRESSLAINIE

I was reading a report by Dr. Bushong where he discusses Brain Sex (not Brain Gender). He says that sexual preference is a male only thing, that all women form attachments to other women even if it isn't overtly sexual, so basically all women are bi: men are straight or gay.

Wow. That makes absolutely no sense. Bisexual men are everywhere. Of course women form attachments to other women. Men form attachments to men too ("bro" etc). And plenty of women have ZERO interest in sex with other women, and are not bisexual. That is awfully ridiculous.

[help_me_Rhonda]

Originally Posted by Etoile

Here? Over in the Personals forums! GLBT Personals if you specifically want that.

I want that.

[blade_rocknut]

Originally Posted by EMPRESSLAINIE

I was reading a report by Dr. Bushong where he discusses Brain Sex (not Brain Gender). He says that sexual preference is a male only thing, that all women form attachments to other women even if it isn't overtly sexual, so basically all women are bi: men are straight or gay.

Men have a tough time *admitting* who they're attracted to. I believe that bisexuality in males isn't much different than in females, concerning commonality of predisposition. Many though, are still so caught up in societal pressures, they refuse to address that part of their sexuality.

[Somehowyou]

Originally Posted by Etoile

Wow. That makes absolutely no sense. Bisexual men are everywhere. Of course women form attachments to other women. Men form attachments to men too ("bro" etc). And plenty of women have ZERO interest in sex with other women, and are not bisexual. That is awfully ridiculous.

But someone with the title "Dr." said so. So it must be true!!!

[BiTodd]

You have a long life of self discovery ahead of you. Be ready for all kinds of revelations.

[help_me_Rhonda]

Originally Posted by BiTodd

You have a long life of self discovery ahead of you. Be ready for all kinds of revelations.

[mrno]

Originally Posted by help_me_Rhonda

I can help you discover if you are bisexual.

[prop69]

Originally Posted by help_me_Rhonda

When I joined yesterday, I wanted to meet guys, chat a little (or a lot) and maybe see what happens from there.

I am very new to all this stuff (posting, porno, etc.)- I mean not a virgin, and I've seen some porn in the past, but it wasn't for me. I was brought up strict, and recently moved out on my own.

I've been with two guys, and fucked one a few times, the other, just making out and I gave him head.

So, anyway, I come here, see the photos and all, and OMG- I am so turned on by the girls! I mean, the naked guys too, but not like the girls.

And chatting to a girl has been one of the hottest things I've ever done- and not so hot when chatting to guys.

I played around with a girlfriend when I was a teenager, but it didn't feel anywhere near as hot as this does (I never gave her head or anything, just felt her up)

Am I gay?

NOT GAY just BI-CURIOUS


Is that you in the Avatar

[wynterskies1]

Originally Posted by Stella_Omega

Are you gay?

Probably not. Most of us are bisexual, actually-- the number of people who remain attracted to one sex only all of their lives is quite small

There are two parts to your puzzle; one is sexual attraction, and the other is romantic attraction. I'd suggest that you take it as it comes. Be open to a relationship with a woman, but don't cut yourself off from the possibility of a relationship with a dude. Or even-- both.

And if you do find yourself in bed with a woman, don't try to pretend you already know how to make love to her, don't worry if sex isn't perfect that first time, or even the first five times. Let it be an exploration, say; "I want to try this thing, see if it works like the stories claim it does" and if it doesn't-- don't sweat it.

You might be gay, you might not be. You sound like you might be bisexual, but that's for you to decide. Stella's advice was good advice, in my humble opinion. Most people are a little more fluid in their sexuality than we're taught to believe. You don't even have to pick a label like "gay", "bi", or "straight" if you don't want to. Just be open and honest with yourself.

Like Stella said, don't worry about having "perfect" sex the first time you try it with a woman if you choose to try it. Like with men, you might not have great chemistry with the first woman you make out with.

Also, don't feel pressured to have sex with the first woman who wants to have sex with you if you're not as into her. It's true that the gay community is smaller than the straight community, but you'll find someone great to be with if you want to. Don't make the mistake of panicking and thinking your first gay date will be the only one you can find. There are more gay and bi people in the world than most people think!

Good luck!