The Men who Crave Cock but aren't attracted to Men Club!

Stella_Omega said:

I know, I know-- almost every dude who responds will say that it's hot.

I bet there are a lot of reasons, though.

Someone just said that they think it's because you guys want to suck your own cock.

I think another reason because most of us like being the bottom once in a while, and guys don't always get the chance to be the passive partner.

What's your reason?

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It takes a certain amount of enthusiasm for a man to perform oral on another man. Maybe it's a cuckold reason rooted in humiliation. Maybe it's just a fetish and the man performing the oral does not want intimacy - but just the act. But a "straight' man that wants to perform oral, I mean really wants to perform it, is not straight IMO. Bi at a minimum.

boredVAwife said:

Guys is it really that cut and dried? You suck, he cums and you shake hands and walk away?

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Shake hands? We fist bump now

I don't want to suck cock

I want to eat pussy.

The following is MY OPINION, and I do not represent any sort of community or group.

Stella_Omega said:

I know, I know-- almost every dude who responds will say that it's hot.

I bet there are a lot of reasons, though.

Someone just said that they think it's because you guys want to suck your own cock.

I think another reason because most of us like being the bottom once in a while, and guys don't always get the chance to be the passive partner.

What's your reason?

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I'm attracted to phallic objects. I love rubbing dildos on my cock, and although I've never been penetrated by a strap-on, I will explore pegging and all of its various facets. From this aspect it is a stimulation to my own sexual desire.

If I could suck my own cock I would, but it's absolutely different wanting to suck another one. Once I was with my girlfriend and she became very dominant very fast... I was eating her out pretty ferociously when she held her fingers in front, blocking me from her muff. I thought she was stopping me for a split second... But she wasn't. She wanted me to suck her fingers while she held them in from of her hot, wet sex. A sort of symbolic submission that showed how deep our sexual combination was. (I obliged to her urging, by the way. )

There is a slight "passive" or "sub" vibe to it, but for me it isn't like cucking or BDSM-style submission; it has more to do with complete sexual serendipity and showing your partner that you are willing to do whatever necessary to make every one of their sexual fantasies come true, and adopting them into your own.

boredVAwife said:

I would like to get an answer to a deeper question. An honest answer and not one that is a knee jerk. Why not be honest? It isn't like we are gonna show up and bitch slap ya. I'd like for the guys to answer this in addition to Stella's question. (please) Do you honestly have 0 desire for intimacy from the man you are giving the blow job too? Not even a little bit? That is the part I simply cannot grasp because when I have had the opportunity to be with a woman, the sex part was not the best part. Sometimes not even close. When there has been sex involved I wanted more than that. I wanted her. Guys is it really that cut and dried? You suck, he cums and you shake hands and walk away?

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I'm not attracted to men. I love love very few men. For me to feel comfortable sucking or being sucked by another man there would have to be some form of attraction(or lack of revulsion at least!) and SOME sort of a connection or common ground within our personalities. I would LOVE to hate-fuck certain women, but I could NEVER "hate-suck" a man I didn't like, if that makes sense.

I'd call it more of a smiling, nodding understanding than a full-on homosexual intimacy.

And btw, you can call me bisexual for what I've just said, but in truth I would never date, exclusively have sex with, or *truly* be fully and satisfactorily attracted to a man. Trying to slap a label on me shows me just how little people have advanced in their understanding of human function. (But if it makes you feel any better, call me a faggot... I do enjoy such things when I'm being subby!)

Stella asked an intellectual question about this topic. If you care to elaborate on your motivations I'd encourage you to think about it a bit and post here:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=40033341#post40033341

TheLM said:

I'm attracted to phallic objects. I love rubbing dildos on my cock, and although I've never been penetrated by a strap-on, I will explore pegging and all of its various facets. From this aspect it is a stimulation to my own sexual desire.
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(But if it makes you feel any better, call me a faggot... I do enjoy such things when I'm being subby!)

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Let's see; not attracted to men, check. No real desire to suck a real live cock, check. Normal sense of friendship and even love towards a few male friends, check. You are certainly not gay or bi in any definition that I know of.

Stella_Omega said:

Let's see; not attracted to men, check. No real desire to suck a real live cock, check. Normal sense of friendship and even love towards a few male friends, check. You are certainly not gay or bi in any definition that I know of.

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I should note that I would want the man to be attractive, so somehow I have some sense of what I'd want a man to look like (for him to be an acceptable suckee), so in at least some sense there is a sort of attraction, but it's not like I see a man and because he looks a certain way that causes me to want to be involved with him. It's a very strange difference.


(and just so we're clear, I'm not worried about being gay or bi, that implies that those orientations are somehow less desirable; I'd embrace whatever I felt, I'm just being honest in this thread)

Thanks for the clarifications, LM But I guess I'm a bit confused-- are you saying that you do fantasize about it? I got the impression that you would suck a substitute-- such as a dildo-- maybe strapped onto a woman.

Stella_Omega said:

Thanks for the clarifications, LM But I guess I'm a bit confused-- are you saying that you do fantasize about it? I got the impression that you would suck a substitute-- such as a dildo-- maybe strapped onto a woman.

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I've sucked a non-harnessed dildo, fingers that were symbolically phallic etc. But yes, I would love to suck a strap on.

I would also love the opportunity to suck a real cock as well, withstanding all of the nitpickings and second-guessings I've already mentioned.

Both are a fantasy still, but I can easily see them both coming true when the time is right.

maybe we just want to prove we can do it better than our wives!

Ill chime in to give my 2 cents. I enjoy getting bj's and love going down on a woman, so i always wondered what it would be like to give a bj. I think if i could reach my own cock with my mouth i wouldnt be interested to try it on another guy.

As far as labels go, take sex out of the equation and the orientation of a person falls on the gender that person has emotional feelings for. If its same sex, that person is gay. If they dont have a preference and could fall in love with either sex, that person would be bi.

Im not attracted to guys and i dont want to have an emotional bond or fall in love with a guy. I am extremely attracted to women and would be content with life if i never experience giving a guy oral.

After all, if you had a friend of the same sex and they asked for a massage and you gave one, does that make you gay or bi? After all you did make your friend feel good and relieve stress. Just because you please a sexual organ on a person of the same sex it shouldnt change your sexual orientation. Its society and parents that teach us that, and in my opinion thats ignorant

Again, just my 2 cents. No one has to agree with my opinion, id just appreciate it if people didnt bash me for sharing it.

*all typos courtesy of my cellphone with auto correct function disabled

Short answer: it looks like fun.

Great thread op. I look fwd to reading other responses.

carlg111901 said:

After all, if you had a friend of the same sex and they asked for a massage and you gave one, does that make you gay or bi? After all you did make your friend feel good and relieve stress. Just because you please a sexual organ on a person of the same sex it shouldnt change your sexual orientation. Its society and parents that teach us that, and in my opinion thats ignorant

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ROFLMAO! I LOVE that notion! Wouldn't this be a totally different world if sex was considered no less nor more meaningful than a good massage...

What a concept. Don't I wish.

Never thought about it

I have to admit I never thought about it, but it would matter to me what the guy looked like. I wouldn't want him to be a big hairy man's man. That guy I would drink with, but the guy who's cock I want to suck should be hairless, kind of a pretty boy, and younger. I don't know why, but that's what I picture when I fantasize

No strap-on

I don't get the strap-on thing. Maybe if the girl wearing it was taslking dirty to me about a real cock, I would get in to it then, but I don't get the plastic in the mouth thing. I would rather a girl make me suck a real one

cock3523 said:

I don't get the strap-on thing. Maybe if the girl wearing it was taslking dirty to me about a real cock, I would get in to it then, but I don't get the plastic in the mouth thing. I would rather a girl make me suck a real one

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She wouldn't have to "make" me - I'd happily volunteer

Stella_Omega said:

Let's see; not attracted to men, check. No real desire to suck a real live cock, check. Normal sense of friendship and even love towards a few male friends, check. You are certainly not gay or bi in any definition that I know of.

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Agree. Hell with the labels. If someone wants it, it's mutual, and everyone is turned on...who the hell cares? Go for it. Someone come
Suck for me so I can help and watch???

cock3523 said:

I have to admit I never thought about it, but it would matter to me what the guy looked like. I wouldn't want him to be a big hairy man's man. That guy I would drink with, but the guy who's cock I want to suck should be hairless, kind of a pretty boy, and younger. I don't know why, but that's what I picture when I fantasize

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And do you identify as straight?

What, as I asked up top, makes this a fantasy for you?

SactoRN said:

Agree. Hell with the labels. If someone wants it, it's mutual, and everyone is turned on...who the hell cares? Go for it. Someone come
Suck for me so I can help and watch???

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I like to help...

carlg111901 said:

Ill chime in to give my 2 cents. I enjoy getting bj's and love going down on a woman, so i always wondered what it would be like to give a bj. I think if i could reach my own cock with my mouth i wouldnt be interested to try it on another guy.

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whoo-who! my hypothesis gets a nod It is now a possible factor

I'm straight and I have ZERO desire to suck a cock. I'd rather get a root canal.

Hans101 said:

I'm straight and I have ZERO desire to suck a cock. I'd rather get a root canal.

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Or maybe a class in reading comprehension.

Stella_Omega said:

Or maybe a class in reading comprehension.

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Stella...FOR THE WIN!

I thinks he doth protest too much!

carlg111901 said:

Ill chime in to give my 2 cents. I enjoy getting bj's and love going down on a woman, so i always wondered what it would be like to give a bj. I think if i could reach my own cock with my mouth i wouldnt be interested to try it on another guy.

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These are pretty much my exact thoughts on the subject.

Good question Stella

I do identify as straight, and I love women, but it's a fantasy of mine because I haven't done it. I want to, but I can't make myself do it. I think I need someone else to make me do it. I almost did it once, but the girl I was with looked at me like she didn't want me to. I was 6 inches from the cock I wanted when I stopped. I should have just grabbed it then and stuck it in my mouth

I'm very straight and do not find men attractive whatsoever..yet I've given head to a guy a couple times and thinks its extremely fun to do..hard to explain why but I enjoy sucking on a dick. I don't want a man giving me head or kissing me or anything of the sort, yet I don't think I'd mind being bent over and fucked. Weird? Yeah probably..the only only sense I could think from it would be that it's just the taboo/other side of sex straight men dont see.