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As if fiction extolling the 'virtues' of casual 'bdsm' would be down-rated by anyone here.
What to do when the Majority can't handle a Minority of One
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As if fiction extolling the 'virtues' of casual 'bdsm' would be down-rated by anyone here.
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Chapter 29
They did not speak of slavery again for the rest of the day.
Instead they spoke of their past. She was surprised at how candid she was with him, revealing things about herself she'd never told anyone.
There was something about this man that invited confidences. Perhaps his quiet nature, perhaps his understanding.
She learned he'd lost his father when he was a boy. She was surprised by how much he'd learned from the experience. He understood the transience of life and the need to cherish it, the unpredictable nature of the universe and the limits upon the power of any man to control it, the need for a good father and what is lost without one.
But she also learned of his mother, how she had raised two sons at a time when single mothers were frowned upon, how she liberated his mind to see women as equals at a time when women's liberation was going through its growing pains, how she carried on the idealism of his father.
He was very much a self-made man, being freed of stereotypes to chart his own course.
And yet he saw himself as just a man, no more than what any man can accomplish if he sets his will to growth.
He seemed to have no sense of superiority. Only a desire to strive for his own personal best in all things.
From this came his sense of self, and that quiet confidence she'd experienced since she met him.
She found thoughts of him turning in her mind over and over as she tried to sleep that night.
And whenever she closed her eyes she saw his face, smiling, his eyes upon her, encouraging her to be free of her fear.
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Part one.
Readers comments mean more than voting, right?
I notice you only have 5 comments and two belong to you. One is asking "why bdsm?." Based on that knowledge I'd have to say your story wouldn't rate many 5 stars.
And I'd be careful about resubmitting a forth time. Eventually they'll decline and you'll have something else to bitch about. That may be in fact your goal.
Readers comments mean more than voting, right?
I notice you only have 5 comments and two belong to you. One is asking "why bdsm?." Based on that knowledge I'd have to say your story wouldn't rate many 5 stars.
And I'd be careful about resubmitting a forth time. Eventually they'll decline and you'll have something else to bitch about. That may be in fact your goal.
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That's the one.
You've shown a good sense of hype, controversy and PT Barnum style showmanship in the way you've got this board dancing to your tune. Reminds me a bit of a young Jon Jacobs.
Carry on.
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I think it safe to say that was left by someone from this forum.
And since I proivided an answer almost immediately, it is safe to say anyone who might have been confused wouldn't have voted at all till they'd seen the rest of the trilogy.
The comment does not explain why the story rated so much lower than 2 months ago before this forum was infomred of the existence of my stories.
I would rather my material not appear if I must submit to vote-rigging to see it here.
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I remember Jacobs. Caught the tail end of his posting to alt.sex.bondage.
I also recall how the casual players treated him.
Not unlike how people treat me here.
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Yes, I had a feeling you might be familiar with his oeuvre.
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I participated in one or two of his discussions. While I don't recall all of them, his thoughts on TPE inspired many of my own thoughts on bdsm.
Funny, I'd forgotten about him till you mentioned it.
As I recall he didn't make the transition to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm
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He was run out of BDSM on a rail by the casual community and spent the last years of his life building his own safely secluded corner of the internet and working one on one to rescue wayward subs.
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Somehow I doubt Jon was "run out" by anyone.
Rather sad ending for the Father of TPE, but I can relate.
I'm the father of "The Gift", and I fare no better.
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Just my sense of humor. I think he more gave up on it, having said what he had to say.
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If you were around at that time then you would probably recall someone named "Wulf", who took over the role of 'target' after Jon left.
Wulf argued that the trust of a submissive for his or her dom/me was a "gift", and should be respected as such.
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http://www.magenta.com/~spectrum/legends.htm -
"Wulf: see Arrow Blue's Wulf FAQ: http://home.netcom.com/~arrowblu/ABwulf.html He's a troll, who delights in disruption."
The link is broken, by the way.
"Wulf: see Arrow Blue's Wulf FAQ: http://home.netcom.com/~arrowblu/ABwulf.html He's a troll, who delights in disruption."
The link is broken, by the way.
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there is no vote rigging. one idiot has admitted to giving you a slew of low votes, all of which will have been deleted or will soon be deleted. When i got trolled my red hot 4.85 dropped to a 2.8 overnight. the next week it was sporting a red H again.
the way people vote on lit is capricious. if a story doesn't last long enough for the guy to wank off, you get a 1. if you write a story about a wheelchair user but don't fetishise the disability, you get 1 (and in my case a whole load of hate mail). Hell, go have a look at the feedback people get in the loving wives category, if you want vicious.
People here do not vote on the literary merits of a story. they vote on how hard it made them come, most of the time, so you need to get over yourself about it. if you really really want a big literary shiny badge then aim for one of the super rare green Es Now those stories do have merit and are nothing to do with voting.
You can keep re-submitting or post them under a new name, but the outcome will essentially be the same.
*teaspew*
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If its written shittily, why not? Do you seriously think that most people sit around fretting about "casualness" and BDSM and the theoretical purity of their erotica?
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An essay I wrote for A.S.B:
Trust
Interesting how easily this topic gets overlooked when it is meaningful and
overstated when it is meaningless.
Without Trust there is no Humanity.
Trust got us out of the trees and to the moon.
Our trust...our trust in each other...
It is unfortunate that we, like most of our ancestors before us, have grown up
in a world where we are crippled with distrust. We are taught from birth not to
trust our own judgment but to trust the judgment of our parents, then our
teachers, our employers, and for some our clergy. So our first trust is born:
trust in authority.
That training goes very deep for some. Some others cast off the training. Most
find themselves caught between indecision and reactionary decisions.
As children we are taught to get along with others, not to fight and not to
hit. What we are so often taught is to not stand up for ourselves, to not value
ourselves enough to want what we want. We are diverted by a variety of means to
want what others want for us, resenting the need .
As very young children we are taught by example, watching Momma pick up a cup
or Dadda holding a spoon. As we get older we start hearing "Do as I say and not
as I do..." and "We are adults and we are allowed but you are a child and you
are not allowed...". So we learn about hierarchy and we sense our place in it.
As parents lord it over us we lord it over those who are weaker. We learn that
if we run fast enough we don't have to take a beating from someone who
objects. Or we get stronger and give a more thorough beating to the objector
to our will. We become bullies...
That's where the lessons about not hitting are brought in. We are taught,
often by being hit ourselves, that hitting hurts and that when Mom or Dad
find out we have hit someone we know they'll hit us. Sometimes they hit us
even when we haven't hit anyone. For some of us there is no obvious reason
for the hitting...
So we learn to keep secrets from our parents, and in the process we learn the
value of anonymity. With anonymity comes a wide variety of activities hitherto
forbidden by parents with whom we confided everything. So we experiment, and
continue to bully others into silence and /or participation. For from the fear
of retribution is born our second understanding of trust: the trust in
retribution.
As long as we could reassure ourselves that our co-conspirators knew we would
deal out unholy retribution to anyone who betrayed us then we knew we could
trust them. Otherwise they had to be 'enlightened' regarding those
consequences. Since you needed the person, you would choose another as an
object lesson (someone not in on the conspiracy). Hierarchy and Retribution
produce a 'gang', as we called it when I was a kid. Fear was the lubricant
that kept the gang functioning.
The psychology is obvious in the dictatorships. Involve your supporters in
some heinous crime to ensure they are aware they all face the same fate,
then give them a target to vent their fear through anger. The process is
cyclic and self-imposing. The more harm done the more inured the perpetrator
is and the more frightened of reaction the perpetrator becomes. It's an
unbalanced psychology.
Bullies and their gangs apply the same principles on a smaller scale. So do
baboon tribes.
Now if you happen to be one of their object lessons then you too learn to trust
in retribution. You learn that you are a target and that the reason you are a
target is you stand out from the rest (what I call the 'pink monkey').
You have two choices: fall back on Authority and hope they will protect you, or
Individuality which requires cunning and intelligence and an ability to outwit
the bully _and_ the bully's gang.
Now Authority requires conformity, and this is because Authority doesn't want
to intervene in every little detail of everyone's life, as it is much to busy
with more important things than whatever you are concerned about. However, if
you can demonstrate that you have played by the rules and someone is hurting
you by breaking them then you can hope for some intervention by Authority. Of
course, they don't offer you the FBI Witness Protection Plan when they do, you
find that out about half an hour after school. But there are many who
persevere with this approach and find some reassurance in it.
Individuality makes entirely different demands on you. Here you must be
smarter than the bully _and_ the gang, as they want you for their object
lesson and you do not want to be their object lesson. The bully can pull on
the resources of each gang member to corner you so the bully can deliver the
coup de grace. And you know the gang isn't interested in a fair fight. They
want to hurt you to release the anger they feel towards themselves because of
their own brutality.
The more success you have outwitting the bully the more you develop confidence
in yourself. This leads to the third trust: the trust in yourself.
This is a profound trust, as it leads to inner awareness and a sense of
balance that rides the uncertainties of life with serenity and calmness.
Choices made are your own, and you are proud to make them as they are
consistent with a world view where helping others is better than injuring
others. An old book states 'by their fruits ye shall know them...' and I have
always found that to be so. Those who set about trying to injure another seem
to be rather sad and unfortunate bullies who failed to appreciate their full
potential as individuals. Whether they ever will is another story.
Trust
Interesting how easily this topic gets overlooked when it is meaningful and
overstated when it is meaningless.
Without Trust there is no Humanity.
Trust got us out of the trees and to the moon.
Our trust...our trust in each other...
It is unfortunate that we, like most of our ancestors before us, have grown up
in a world where we are crippled with distrust. We are taught from birth not to
trust our own judgment but to trust the judgment of our parents, then our
teachers, our employers, and for some our clergy. So our first trust is born:
trust in authority.
That training goes very deep for some. Some others cast off the training. Most
find themselves caught between indecision and reactionary decisions.
As children we are taught to get along with others, not to fight and not to
hit. What we are so often taught is to not stand up for ourselves, to not value
ourselves enough to want what we want. We are diverted by a variety of means to
want what others want for us, resenting the need .
As very young children we are taught by example, watching Momma pick up a cup
or Dadda holding a spoon. As we get older we start hearing "Do as I say and not
as I do..." and "We are adults and we are allowed but you are a child and you
are not allowed...". So we learn about hierarchy and we sense our place in it.
As parents lord it over us we lord it over those who are weaker. We learn that
if we run fast enough we don't have to take a beating from someone who
objects. Or we get stronger and give a more thorough beating to the objector
to our will. We become bullies...
That's where the lessons about not hitting are brought in. We are taught,
often by being hit ourselves, that hitting hurts and that when Mom or Dad
find out we have hit someone we know they'll hit us. Sometimes they hit us
even when we haven't hit anyone. For some of us there is no obvious reason
for the hitting...
So we learn to keep secrets from our parents, and in the process we learn the
value of anonymity. With anonymity comes a wide variety of activities hitherto
forbidden by parents with whom we confided everything. So we experiment, and
continue to bully others into silence and /or participation. For from the fear
of retribution is born our second understanding of trust: the trust in
retribution.
As long as we could reassure ourselves that our co-conspirators knew we would
deal out unholy retribution to anyone who betrayed us then we knew we could
trust them. Otherwise they had to be 'enlightened' regarding those
consequences. Since you needed the person, you would choose another as an
object lesson (someone not in on the conspiracy). Hierarchy and Retribution
produce a 'gang', as we called it when I was a kid. Fear was the lubricant
that kept the gang functioning.
The psychology is obvious in the dictatorships. Involve your supporters in
some heinous crime to ensure they are aware they all face the same fate,
then give them a target to vent their fear through anger. The process is
cyclic and self-imposing. The more harm done the more inured the perpetrator
is and the more frightened of reaction the perpetrator becomes. It's an
unbalanced psychology.
Bullies and their gangs apply the same principles on a smaller scale. So do
baboon tribes.
Now if you happen to be one of their object lessons then you too learn to trust
in retribution. You learn that you are a target and that the reason you are a
target is you stand out from the rest (what I call the 'pink monkey').
You have two choices: fall back on Authority and hope they will protect you, or
Individuality which requires cunning and intelligence and an ability to outwit
the bully _and_ the bully's gang.
Now Authority requires conformity, and this is because Authority doesn't want
to intervene in every little detail of everyone's life, as it is much to busy
with more important things than whatever you are concerned about. However, if
you can demonstrate that you have played by the rules and someone is hurting
you by breaking them then you can hope for some intervention by Authority. Of
course, they don't offer you the FBI Witness Protection Plan when they do, you
find that out about half an hour after school. But there are many who
persevere with this approach and find some reassurance in it.
Individuality makes entirely different demands on you. Here you must be
smarter than the bully _and_ the gang, as they want you for their object
lesson and you do not want to be their object lesson. The bully can pull on
the resources of each gang member to corner you so the bully can deliver the
coup de grace. And you know the gang isn't interested in a fair fight. They
want to hurt you to release the anger they feel towards themselves because of
their own brutality.
The more success you have outwitting the bully the more you develop confidence
in yourself. This leads to the third trust: the trust in yourself.
This is a profound trust, as it leads to inner awareness and a sense of
balance that rides the uncertainties of life with serenity and calmness.
Choices made are your own, and you are proud to make them as they are
consistent with a world view where helping others is better than injuring
others. An old book states 'by their fruits ye shall know them...' and I have
always found that to be so. Those who set about trying to injure another seem
to be rather sad and unfortunate bullies who failed to appreciate their full
potential as individuals. Whether they ever will is another story.
