sailorpaul
Really Experienced
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- Jun 30, 2009
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sub female wanted for different D/s relationship
UPDATE: 12/9/2014. Several years ago I married the very tall lady who reached out to me here. (See her post on p2 of this thread). I wish our success gives some of you looking the hope that you may also find your soulmate
Original post:
I'm looking for a real life female submissive. During my search, I fully expect to answer a lot of questions along the way and welcome any who ask. Since a D/s relationship is really a long term exploration, we will invest a fair amount of time developing the necessary trust and mutual respect. I'm happy to answer questions of others looking for their own right connection as part of the process.
I seek a person willing to at least play regularly in this lifestyle in addition to the rest of our relationship. I am divorced because my spouse refused to accept any kink in our relationship after years of discussion (and therapy). This now leaves me free to make whatever time commitments are right. You are welcome to read the subsequent posts, as I will hide nothing in our discussions.
You may also talk live with my references if we get to that point.
EDIT: Thanks to a great idea from a wonderful LD woman, I've started reading erotic bedtime stories over the phone to a couple of intimate friends. My first reading ran two hours and six orgasms for her. (Laughs) Occasionally my former broadcasting career comes in handy. Still 7,000+ roll-over minutes to go. NOW if you are close by, it would be nice to have a sub to cuddle up in my arms while I read to you up close and personal. Of course, you'll be given the opportunity to earn that reward. (....added with a nasty chuckle.)
Paul
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Differences from others:
1. I will not expect nor allow you to call me Master or Sir on a regular basis. My sub simply responds "Yes Paul" most of the time. They can add emphasis with their eyes or body posture as appropriate. This allows us to continue to play in public places and near your family or friends when it might otherwise be indiscreet. (Think in front of your mom/neighbor, LOL.) Otherwise privately you may scream Master or Sir in your head, and on a few special moments when I let those words cross your lips.
2. I'm in S. CA and my initial thoughts are that you are within two hours of here. (Walk, bike, drive or fly) There may be not much sense starting an on-line relationship that is difficult to bring to fruition. If you feel otherwise, I'll listen to your explanation. EDIT 11/8 I'd really prefer you be within 40 minutes.
3. I'm (EDIT: was) married with one LD sub. It is acceptable that you may be married, or in another LTR. Ideally you would be female between the age of (EDIT: 29) and 48. Outside that range you need to be very mature and/or in great shape. I'm discreet and polite and expect the same from you.
4. No drugs. I want your senses sharp online, on the phone and in person.
I've had these relationships without getting in the way of my sub's other partners. I typically spend time controlling, in semi-pubic play, spanking, cropping, teaching my subs to beg, orgasm control, domination, restraint, flogging, occasional humiliation and some punishment as needed.
More than anything else I expect my sub to be fully a functioning individual who contributes to the emotional strength of the relationship. That means until you are addressed by your play name I expect you to stand up beside me and have an opinion.
There will be those who disagree with my approach. That's OK. It works for us. And yes, I have references. During your reference check, my former subs will probably tell you that I walk on water. That actually ONLY happened occasionally during the five years I spent in Antarctica. (really) LOL
If you asked for a quick description I'd say: a no-yelling no-drama, low pressure Dom. In my spare time I race big sailboats in the open ocean. It breeds tough people and tough minds.
Write if you are up for the experience.
EDIT: 11/8/2009 I released my real life sub, simply because it was the right decision for her. You can see the post further down in the thread if you care.
UPDATE: 12/9/2014. Several years ago I married the very tall lady who reached out to me here. (See her post on p2 of this thread). I wish our success gives some of you looking the hope that you may also find your soulmate
Original post:
I'm looking for a real life female submissive. During my search, I fully expect to answer a lot of questions along the way and welcome any who ask. Since a D/s relationship is really a long term exploration, we will invest a fair amount of time developing the necessary trust and mutual respect. I'm happy to answer questions of others looking for their own right connection as part of the process.
I seek a person willing to at least play regularly in this lifestyle in addition to the rest of our relationship. I am divorced because my spouse refused to accept any kink in our relationship after years of discussion (and therapy). This now leaves me free to make whatever time commitments are right. You are welcome to read the subsequent posts, as I will hide nothing in our discussions.
You may also talk live with my references if we get to that point.
EDIT: Thanks to a great idea from a wonderful LD woman, I've started reading erotic bedtime stories over the phone to a couple of intimate friends. My first reading ran two hours and six orgasms for her. (Laughs) Occasionally my former broadcasting career comes in handy. Still 7,000+ roll-over minutes to go. NOW if you are close by, it would be nice to have a sub to cuddle up in my arms while I read to you up close and personal. Of course, you'll be given the opportunity to earn that reward. (....added with a nasty chuckle.)
Paul
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Differences from others:
1. I will not expect nor allow you to call me Master or Sir on a regular basis. My sub simply responds "Yes Paul" most of the time. They can add emphasis with their eyes or body posture as appropriate. This allows us to continue to play in public places and near your family or friends when it might otherwise be indiscreet. (Think in front of your mom/neighbor, LOL.) Otherwise privately you may scream Master or Sir in your head, and on a few special moments when I let those words cross your lips.
2. I'm in S. CA and my initial thoughts are that you are within two hours of here. (Walk, bike, drive or fly) There may be not much sense starting an on-line relationship that is difficult to bring to fruition. If you feel otherwise, I'll listen to your explanation. EDIT 11/8 I'd really prefer you be within 40 minutes.
3. I'm (EDIT: was) married with one LD sub. It is acceptable that you may be married, or in another LTR. Ideally you would be female between the age of (EDIT: 29) and 48. Outside that range you need to be very mature and/or in great shape. I'm discreet and polite and expect the same from you.
4. No drugs. I want your senses sharp online, on the phone and in person.
I've had these relationships without getting in the way of my sub's other partners. I typically spend time controlling, in semi-pubic play, spanking, cropping, teaching my subs to beg, orgasm control, domination, restraint, flogging, occasional humiliation and some punishment as needed.
More than anything else I expect my sub to be fully a functioning individual who contributes to the emotional strength of the relationship. That means until you are addressed by your play name I expect you to stand up beside me and have an opinion.
There will be those who disagree with my approach. That's OK. It works for us. And yes, I have references. During your reference check, my former subs will probably tell you that I walk on water. That actually ONLY happened occasionally during the five years I spent in Antarctica. (really) LOL
If you asked for a quick description I'd say: a no-yelling no-drama, low pressure Dom. In my spare time I race big sailboats in the open ocean. It breeds tough people and tough minds.
Write if you are up for the experience.
EDIT: 11/8/2009 I released my real life sub, simply because it was the right decision for her. You can see the post further down in the thread if you care.
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LOL!
