Anybody else given up on BJs?

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As much as I love my wife and as much as I enjoy our sexlife, she does not enjoy, and is not that good at, giving blow jobs. She will suck my cock when we 69, but has not sucked me to orgasm in many, many years. I have basically given up on ever getting a proper BJ.

I know I should calmly, diplomatically discuss my desire with her and tell her what I like etc, but she is not into it and it shows.

BTW, I perform oral on her every chance I can (about half the time we make love) and I always make her come.

Sigh.
 
How about handjobs? Personally, I prefer them to blowjobs any way. You can kiss during them!
 
As much as I love my wife and as much as I enjoy our sexlife, she does not enjoy, and is not that good at, giving blow jobs. She will suck my cock when we 69, but has not sucked me to orgasm in many, many years. I have basically given up on ever getting a proper BJ.

I know I should calmly, diplomatically discuss my desire with her and tell her what I like etc, but she is not into it and it shows.

BTW, I perform oral on her every chance I can (about half the time we make love) and I always make her come.

Sigh.

knows that story all too well.
 
well, I offered my husband one almost every night. maybe he didn't always come in my mouth but he always came. wondering if he is getting the same offers where he is now??? or if he is beginning to regret turning them down so often or even regretting leaving me?
 
My wife, used to give her ex b/f them sometimes, because he insisted. But, literally, it left a bad taste in her mouth when he would cum. So sadly, she's kinda scared and freaked out by it, and I've never gotten one from her. But, I'm glad at least he was able to get his cock in her pretty little mouth. :)
 
well, I offered my husband one almost every night. maybe he didn't always come in my mouth but he always came. wondering if he is getting the same offers where he is now??? or if he is beginning to regret turning them down so often or even regretting leaving me?

I honestly wouldn't know how to react if I was offered a BJ nightly....other than accept, of course.
 
As much as I love my wife and as much as I enjoy our sexlife, she does not enjoy, and is not that good at, giving blow jobs. She will suck my cock when we 69, but has not sucked me to orgasm in many, many years. I have basically given up on ever getting a proper BJ.

I know I should calmly, diplomatically discuss my desire with her and tell her what I like etc, but she is not into it and it shows.

BTW, I perform oral on her every chance I can (about half the time we make love) and I always make her come.

Sigh.
Isn't BJ's a warehouse store like Sam's Club????
 
I haven't completely given up but I no longer expect them, even if I go down on her first. I still get them but I realize she doesn't enjoy it so I don't push it.

In the end I agree with Carnevil9 in that I enjoy a good handjob, because there is more we can while she's doing that. We'll use a lot of lube and a good tight grip while we can kiss or I can suck her nipples. Makes up for a lack of bj's.
 
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I'm personally not a fan of 69, it's so distracting or maybe I'm not able to multi-task sexually. Wouldn't it be nicer to layback & enjoy the relaxing glory, while one focus solely while coming up with an array of techniques to make it both fun & pleasurable.

I will actually choose that over sex or receiving. Mainly because I’ve never reached orgasm fully with either of those, but once a throbbing cock is swallowed I rub my clit and can find pleasure in going deep. My late fiancé and I seem to have a good routine set up. In the morning, my alarm goes off first and as his alarm goes off, his cock is deep as cum coats my throat. After work, I usually arrive home before him as start preparing dinner. Once home from work, I hand him a cold drink, leading him to the bedroom, strip and proceed with a double-sided deep body massage happy ending. This was just the weekday. Weekend pleasure was saved for Sunday. We would turn in early, shutting our phones and devices (if it was an emergency we had a landline) and play… usually being constantly wet while taking turns draining each other. By the morning he would have just enough to start the new week...

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well, I offered my husband one almost every night. maybe he didn't always come in my mouth but he always came...

Even though I approached every morning as a refresh outlook, I didn't do it every night, our break was Saturday... But always took it in a cavity, then clean up the excess I'm not a huge fan of the messy outcome.

Have you tried different techniques, for example having her head at the edge of the bed, while you penetrate your cock down her throat as if it was her pussy. It's seems a bit harsh, but fascinating especially the feel of how deep it goes, she can fell your cock from the outside and you can view your ridgid outline going down. You have easy access to breast play as her hands are free to touch herself. Practice makes perfect.
 
Some are just better than others...it is such a joy to be with a partner who not only is good at it, but loves giving them. I guess those go two hand in hand though.
 
I'm on the other side - somewhat given up the idea of hub going down on me - i have tried talking to him & then i usually get it & have to wait another 6 to 8 weeks or until i say something again. He gets bj's on average 3 or 4 times a week. My new year's resolution was to give him at least some oral pleasure everyday (whether a full bj or something to get him going) & I believe I have at least 10 out of the last 13 days.
 
I have always got more enjoyment from giving rather than receiving - I can never seem to relax when getting a BJ...
 
If she can't get a BJ right that must suck (no pun intended)

Watch some porn together, she might get some good tips :)
 
The opposite is in my house, i give my hubby a blow job everyday , something i truly enjoy doing by the way, but he has not gone south in years. I discussed it with him yesterday and he felt that i didn't enjoy his efforts so he doesn't do it as much. I felt bad and said the blame is on me for not feeling sexy at times and reassuring him i love everything he does and if he's not doing what i like i have the responsibility to speak up and say , a little to the left dear. All i can say is a loving dialogue helped us. By the way this week he is gonna go south, yum
 
The opposite is in my house, i give my hubby a blow job everyday , something i truly enjoy doing by the way, but he has not gone south in years. I discussed it with him yesterday and he felt that i didn't enjoy his efforts so he doesn't do it as much. I felt bad and said the blame is on me for not feeling sexy at times and reassuring him i love everything he does and if he's not doing what i like i have the responsibility to speak up and say , a little to the left dear. All i can say is a loving dialogue helped us. By the way this week he is gonna go south, yum

Its been a while since I gotten a bj... lucky hubby... but I love to go down south... lucky her
 
gave up long time ago...

I with you....I make her orgasim with my tongue when ever she let's me but it is years between bjs.....funny got them all the time before we were married....
 
I with you....I make her orgasim with my tongue when ever she let's me but it is years between bjs.....funny got them all the time before we were married....
i don't get it cuz its something i can't live without doing. i have been married over 20yrs and still think its great
 
i don't get it cuz its something i can't live without doing. i have been married over 20yrs and still think its great

i agree. i still give my hubby blowjobs all the time. love seeing him go crazy from it....and not to mention, i like the taste ;)
 
I LOVE giving my fiancé blow jobs. I do it EVERYTIME we have sex. I love watching him wriggle and moan with pleasure. I love when he rests his hand on my head, not in a pushing fashion but a gentle way. I love starting of our sessions that way, getting him so worked up, while getting very wet myself, and then when he can barely stand it any longer, I crawl on top and lower myself onto him slowly....mmmmm
 
i don't get it cuz its something i can't live without doing. i have been married over 20yrs and still think its great

Me too! I absolutely love to suck hubby's cock. It's a huge turn on and I'm glad I can please him and make his legs shake and shiver. Yummy
 
In my opinion, the best advice to those in this situation is to have a real conversation on how each person is feeling.

In my personal experience, any time we have had a slump in sex and or feel unsatisfied - we've also had a break down of communication.

Even if you don't often talk about sex, your feelings, desires, etc.... It's still the safest(and quickest) route to a mutually satisfying and successful relationship. Regardless what is said here, it's a matter that you men and your wives have to discuss for any progress or development to be made.
 
So sorry to hear about you guys that want BJs and aren't getting them.....:(

I love giving BJs, always have.....Hubby says my BJs are an art form....He loves going down on me, too....;)
 
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