Forceful Sex

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In some cases women are hesitant to voice their needs because they're afraid to look like a
pro. I think it has a lot to do with religion and all the bunk that goes with it.
A great relationship is based on open discussions of wants be it sex or the kind of towels.
Women need to learn to speak up. Maybe if men would just ask! And during sex would be a good time!

irishwoody said:

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Ask her! Sit down with her and discuss what is okay and what isn't and then proceed.

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

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Probably, lack of proper and open sex talk conversations between the two of you.

How do you initiate forced sex? Well, that really depends from person to person.
A very, very rare woman would want to be fucked when she wasn't expecting it. In most cases, you can't just walk up to her, pull her skirt down and put your dick in.

No. Most probably what you want is pre-arranged rough sex. just be posessive in bed and do whatever you want. Don't let her lead - if you want to suck her nips - do it, if you want to eat her pussy - do it. If you want her to suck your dick - push her down on her knees and pull it out.

It's important not to hurt her though. Be firm but gentle. Don't yank her hair or anything like that.

That's where I would start.

Actually scratch that. Start with talking to her about it. Figure out what exactly she wants - being spanked, maybe tied up, or maybe just controlled in bed.

Also - being a gentle man has NOTHING to do with it. Don't feel bad about being forceful to her, if that's what she wants. If you truly love her - then you want her to be as happy as she can be. If being bent over the knee and spanked hard makes some women happy - you are a good man if you let them have it. It doesn't make you less gentle if you give her what she desires, even if it's spanking her until she cries.
Being gentle means knowing that it IS what she desires. And then providing her with proper aftercare. Being gentle means knowing what you do, going online and googling how to spank a girl properly. It doesn't mean arbitrary things like "never hitting a girl no matter the circumstnces" - because if she wants that and you deny it because someone said it's bad - you're being a dick, not a gentleman.

Have fun and play safe!

irishwoody said:

Not sure if Im in the best spot to ask this but here goes.

Long stoy married many years - sex life pretty much vanill and going stale (infrequent about once every month or so)
Two nights ago I had suggested to my wife that we need a little "tlc" time together.
During our love making I said to her that "Sometimes I want to pull up your skirt, down your panties and take you with litle notice and from behind and simply fuck" well that sparked up a conversation which had us shouting expleetives. I gave her my best but didnt come (she did) I had a little too much booze - stopps me comming but gives me a boner. She was talking about "angry sex" - Now im a gentle person so the concept of angrysex is a difficult one for me - anger and sex are in my head separate.

Last night we had another sex session - again similar in manner, this time she tells me she is submissive in bed, Ive been married 10+ years and never knew this. I loose it and pound away - she loves it. Her job is a high power exec job and she is manager for hundreds of staff. She ihas multiple degrees, a storng intelligent mind and is very much independant and a true feminist.

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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You've described my wife to a tee

I want to have forcefull angry sex, I really do just can't say it out loud. And some man are so dumb they don't even understand the indication.

The_GloriousBitch said:

I want to have forcefull angry sex, I really do just can't say it out loud. And some man are so dumb they don't even understand the indication.

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You know when a man is missing the point when you're screaming "HARDER HARDER" at the top of your lungs and he says "Pardon me?"

irishwoody said:

Not sure if Im in the best spot to ask this but here goes.

Long stoy married many years - sex life pretty much vanill and going stale (infrequent about once every month or so)
Two nights ago I had suggested to my wife that we need a little "tlc" time together.
During our love making I said to her that "Sometimes I want to pull up your skirt, down your panties and take you with litle notice and from behind and simply fuck" well that sparked up a conversation which had us shouting expleetives. I gave her my best but didnt come (she did) I had a little too much booze - stopps me comming but gives me a boner. She was talking about "angry sex" - Now im a gentle person so the concept of angrysex is a difficult one for me - anger and sex are in my head separate.

Last night we had another sex session - again similar in manner, this time she tells me she is submissive in bed, Ive been married 10+ years and never knew this. I loose it and pound away - she loves it. Her job is a high power exec job and she is manager for hundreds of staff. She ihas multiple degrees, a storng intelligent mind and is very much independant and a true feminist.

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Dude: Ten plus years and you didn't know you'd married a woman? Come on!

MaryanneB said:

You know when a man is missing the point when you're screaming "HARDER HARDER" at the top of your lungs and he says "Pardon me?"

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Or, in youthful naeivity, says; "are you sure I'm not hurting you?"














I might have been that guy.

irishwoody said:

Not sure if Im in the best spot to ask this but here goes.

Long stoy married many years - sex life pretty much vanill and going stale (infrequent about once every month or so)
Two nights ago I had suggested to my wife that we need a little "tlc" time together.
During our love making I said to her that "Sometimes I want to pull up your skirt, down your panties and take you with litle notice and from behind and simply fuck" well that sparked up a conversation which had us shouting expleetives. I gave her my best but didnt come (she did) I had a little too much booze - stopps me comming but gives me a boner. She was talking about "angry sex" - Now im a gentle person so the concept of angrysex is a difficult one for me - anger and sex are in my head separate.

Last night we had another sex session - again similar in manner, this time she tells me she is submissive in bed, Ive been married 10+ years and never knew this. I loose it and pound away - she loves it. Her job is a high power exec job and she is manager for hundreds of staff. She ihas multiple degrees, a storng intelligent mind and is very much independant and a true feminist.

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Don't you think it is such a good thing to discover something new about your partner after so long as it will freshen up your sex and love life..now you will have a chance for intimacy with a all new perception amd hence will discover more..this will make it more rewording..

I would suggest that take full advantage of it ..and don't plan it so much as it will add predictability to it.

As your wife has told you she is submissive that means she would want to have it in your way..also for angry sex..its a key rule that it is not fixed when to start? It should start whenever you feel like doing it..that is what will.make it forced sex as you will be aware and she will be not..

forceful sex

irishwoody said:

Not sure if Im in the best spot to ask this but here goes.

Long stoy married many years - sex life pretty much vanill and going stale (infrequent about once every month or so)
Two nights ago I had suggested to my wife that we need a little "tlc" time together.
During our love making I said to her that "Sometimes I want to pull up your skirt, down your panties and take you with litle notice and from behind and simply fuck" well that sparked up a conversation which had us shouting expleetives. I gave her my best but didnt come (she did) I had a little too much booze - stopps me comming but gives me a boner. She was talking about "angry sex" - Now im a gentle person so the concept of angrysex is a difficult one for me - anger and sex are in my head separate.

Last night we had another sex session - again similar in manner, this time she tells me she is submissive in bed, Ive been married 10+ years and never knew this. I loose it and pound away - she loves it. Her job is a high power exec job and she is manager for hundreds of staff. She ihas multiple degrees, a storng intelligent mind and is very much independant and a true feminist.



How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Just reading what you wrote makes me a little wet. I am not surprised she is submissive in bed especially always having to be in charge. You can know someone for years and never truly know them

MaryanneB said:

In some cases women are hesitant to voice their needs because they're afraid to look like a
pro. I think it has a lot to do with religion and all the bunk that goes with it.
A great relationship is based on open discussions of wants be it sex or the kind of towels.
Women need to learn to speak up. Maybe if men would just ask! And during sex would be a good time!

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I am a Christian and unfortunately,most of us r very uptight about sex,even though the Song of Solomon is borderline pornographic(but between a married couple)& verses in 1st Cor.saying husbands & wives should grant each other conjugal visits.My husband & I went to Church 3times a wk.,married 20+ yrs.with countless toys,restraints, even a free standing swing!Too bad some religions make people feel guilty about enjoying sex.

irishwoody said:

Not sure if Im in the best spot to ask this but here goes.

Long stoy married many years - sex life pretty much vanill and going stale (infrequent about once every month or so)
Two nights ago I had suggested to my wife that we need a little "tlc" time together.
During our love making I said to her that "Sometimes I want to pull up your skirt, down your panties and take you with litle notice and from behind and simply fuck" well that sparked up a conversation which had us shouting expleetives. I gave her my best but didnt come (she did) I had a little too much booze - stopps me comming but gives me a boner. She was talking about "angry sex" - Now im a gentle person so the concept of angrysex is a difficult one for me - anger and sex are in my head separate.

Last night we had another sex session - again similar in manner, this time she tells me she is submissive in bed, Ive been married 10+ years and never knew this. I loose it and pound away - she loves it. Her job is a high power exec job and she is manager for hundreds of staff. She ihas multiple degrees, a storng intelligent mind and is very much independant and a true feminist.

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Yeah a lot of women do like rough sex, it has some sort of passion to it that makes the sex a lot better, it just depends on what turns her on and what doesn't, chances are if she's got a really good job like that and everything going for her then it would probably turn her on for a man to take the lead in the bedroom.

I love it honestly, it's been awhile sense a guy has done that to me too. I work part-time at a drug store, and I'm working on my degree, later on i might go for psychology, but not totally sure what I will do with that part yet.

I like both submissive and dominant guys, it just depends on how much the guy enjoys pleasuring me, i can also be both dominant and submissive. Chances are if the guy has really sexy eye's that will always be my weakness lol... but having a guy like that ravage me would be very exciting.

The weird part is i've noticed that sometimes the hotter the guy is, the harder he finds it to be rough with a lady.

If she requests it though, just surprise her or something. That's what makes it more wild is when you make a move out of nowhere.

irishwoody said:

Not sure if Im in the best spot to ask this but here goes.

Long stoy married many years - sex life pretty much vanill and going stale (infrequent about once every month or so)
Two nights ago I had suggested to my wife that we need a little "tlc" time together.
During our love making I said to her that "Sometimes I want to pull up your skirt, down your panties and take you with litle notice and from behind and simply fuck" well that sparked up a conversation which had us shouting expleetives. I gave her my best but didnt come (she did) I had a little too much booze - stopps me comming but gives me a boner. She was talking about "angry sex" - Now im a gentle person so the concept of angrysex is a difficult one for me - anger and sex are in my head separate.

Last night we had another sex session - again similar in manner, this time she tells me she is submissive in bed, Ive been married 10+ years and never knew this. I loose it and pound away - she loves it. Her job is a high power exec job and she is manager for hundreds of staff. She ihas multiple degrees, a storng intelligent mind and is very much independant and a true feminist.

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Well you could try this:

I had a girl friend once who absolutely loved it if I just walked into a room she was in picked her up and carried her off to the bedroom. No words exchanged, just action as initiation. Apart from that one little kink (which we discovered quite by accident) we were pretty vanilla together. She'd squawk and laugh when I did it and sometimes when we got to the bedroom I'd strip her down a little roughly as well but the sex was always gentle and tender. She said it made her feel like a wild animal (Which apparently was good?).

My 10 cents worth anyway, don't know if it would work for you or not, everyone's turn ons and turn offs are different.

Uggg

I recently began dating a woman who needs to be conquered. She will submit, and wants to, but she needs to be conquered first. It has been an interesting experience.

One of the things it has taken me a while to wrap my mind around is spanking her. She craves it, but I was raised to never hit a woman. It's taken me a while, but I'm becoming more comfortable with it. There is somthing very visceral and appealing about seeing that single red hand print on the fair skin of her ass.

This is so ME. How I wish my partner listened when I told him.

A couple has to communicate.

I was sexually inexperienced when I married (he, thank goodness, was not). I had fantasies about force but never shared them with him because I thought "nice" girls did not think of such things.

One night when we were making love he held my hands over my head. It was absolutely thrilling! I asked him if I was a prisoner. He said, "Would it turn you on if you were?"

The floodgates were opened and I shared my fantasies of being used forcefully. It changed my life.

He asked if I wanted to try roleplaying. He suggested we start with a home invasion.

Of course it was beyond fabulous. We've been married now for almost 40 years, and although I enjoy straight lovemaking there hasn't been a week in all of those years where I'm not in some way kidnapped or captured and forced to strip naked and service my captor.

Ladies, if you want it, ASK for it!

Agreed!

My bf knows that I’m submissive in the bedroom even though I am more of a dominant professionally. I’m 23 but I learned early on that it’s ok to have fantasies and it is ok to speak to my partner about it. A trustworthy environment is very important as I wouldn’t be comfortable being who I am in bed if my partner would be judged for knowing what my body wants. Not long after my bf and I started dating, I told him that I’d like to be forcefully taken and I like it when I’m not expecting it. He happened to like being a dom! Till this day we tried many role plays and forced/surprised sex and they were all amazing.

Make your lady feel safe and encourage her to speak up. Share your fantasies with her too! And remember that the sex won’t always beperfect but definitely discuss it if either one of you is not ok with certain things.

irishwoody said:

How could I be married for so long and not know she really wants me to take the lead in the bedroom and just use her ? Its like I see a part of her today that I never knew exisited - a separate part of her who wants to be forcefully taken...

How to initiate forceful sex ? Any pointers or places to go to read would be welcome

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Oh! This is going to be so fun!

Anyways I can totally relate to being married to someone for over 10+ and still finding things out about each other you never knew (most recently for us it was realizing we both liked Enya. LOL. That's another story though.) I think it keeps things interesting and fun to always be learning about each other.

To the main question though, here's what you do!

1. Don't get hung up on the word angry or forceful. It's just describing the intensity of emotion and action, because ‘overly intense sometimes surprise sex’ just doesn't have quite the same ring to it!

2. Talk logistics and safe words. Is there anything she specifically doesn't like? Locations? Dirty talk? Times of day? Does she want it planned or surprised? Etc.

3. Get busy! Beginner suggestions would be right before dinner throw her over the arm of the couch. Randomly passing in the hallway grab her hair and ‘make her’ go down on you. When she's getting ready for bed just shove her up against the dresser and take her clothes off for her. Etc.

4. Check in with her afterwards, at least in the beginning to see how it went, what could go better etc. Add things to the ‘she loves it’ or ‘she hates it’ list. And don't forget to start your own ‘I love this’ or ‘I hate this’ list!

Anyways, good luck!!

Take a vacation, go to the beach, sit on a deck looking at the water and TALK.
Get with her and have a discussion. You may find out a lot of things you did not know about each other.

As others have suggested, the first step is to talk about it. Some suggestions:

1. Bondage -- tying up a woman automatically puts her in a submissive, vulnerable position, whatever comes next. Your wife might like that.

2. Spanking and cropping -- a lot of women like this.

3. Role play -- combine this with no. 2 -- "You've been a bad girl," that sort of thing.

4. I like the suggestion above, if you can pull it off, of just picking her up and lugging her around or off to bed. A lot of women like a demonstration of brute strength and control.

Have you talked to her yet? A little conversation may help and I see this was a little while ago. I think there’s a difference between forced sex and role play forced sex. Find out what she likes. It may not be a normal conversation, but man will it help your time together. Many women fantasize about being taken, and there is something very hot about it. Especially if she makes decisions all day. At night she wants you to do it for her. Help a lady out. Talk it out and Fuck her.

The_GloriousBitch said:

I want to have forcefull angry sex, I really do just can't say it out loud. And some man are so dumb they don't even understand the indication.

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Or they say they do and act like they are the perfect man for the job but sadly, they are not

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I say we all just be happy they are finally getting it together and move on.